What happened to this topic, ok ladies.... Kind of a personal question
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Comments (15)I am in a way amused that they are saying it will be rebuilt in only 18 months. It took 3 years to rebuild the I-95 bridge over Pensacola Bay which was knocked out by Hurricane Ivan. It was determined that the bridge was defective as constructed, which was why it came apart during the storm, killing a truck driver who was foolish enough to be driving in the middle of a hurricane A bit more on the Minneapolis bridge from MSNBC, stating that the bridge was definitely NOT 'sound.' Declared Âstructurally deficient The bridge was deemed "structurally deficient" by the federal government as far back as 1990, and inspections over the years had raised alarm, with findings of rust-eaten steel beams, missing bolts and cracks in the welding that held load-bearing parts together. Here is a link that might be useful: Bridge Article...See MoreAre you a highly sensitive person? (on topic!)
Comments (29)I scored 5, too. I am very dialled into art, music, aethetics but the only time I'm able to "control" any of that is in my own life, in my own home. So I don't waste the energy fretting about it in the big aquarium we call, "the world". It's a complete waste of my precious time and energy to do so. I'm pretty good at tuning out distractions and coping with clutter and chaos over which I have no immediate control. I am easily able to focus on what must be done, prioritize things, and get the job done. That ability made me a very good production stitcher and makes me a very versatile worker in a small, very busy shop. I have a very low tolerance for "stupid" and "lazy", though. Stupid is the unwillingness to learn, lazy is the unwillingness to put forthe any effort to do anything. No patience for either of those. ;)...See MoreWhen ( If Ever) Is It OK To Ask a Person's Race
Comments (48)I certainly do not see Liz as being "defensive" of it, but I see people who apparently are defensive of writing bad checks! LOL Liz is pointing out some things that should be common sense but here, yet again, illustrates an example of how many people have absolutely no idea what businesses go through. Businesses do not have to absorb bad check costs and I would think anyone with common sense would want to stop bad checks since bad checks cost everyone money. Don't you understand that a business gets a double whammy on a bounced check. Triple whammy actually. First they lost the profit, secondly they lost the cost of the item stolen and thirdly, they get a bounced check fee. Sadly, people won't look at what it does to the business. There's this myth out there that a mom & pop store is a "big business making tons of money - they can afford it". You don't think stores just absorb these costs and they don't affect their bottom line and even employees? I've got news for you, Mom & pop stores don't and stores the size of Walmart don't. It's too bad more people don't have experience in the business field at least a bit to get an understanding of the true cost of shoplifting, bad checks, gas drive-offs, coupon fraud, belligerent customers, etc. Some people constantly squawk about the high cost of things but when someone tries to do something about it, out pops the proverbial "race card". Incredible. Some of you just seem to refuse to "get it" (as is the popular phrase around here lately!) LOL Why are you so defensive about identification? Is there more to this? I just can't see how a few of you are going off the deep end apparently just to defend check bouncers. And let's call it what it is, check bouncers are vandals and thieves. They vandalize a business' smooth operation and steal from them, you and I. I personally am opposed to vandals and thieves. At no time has it been suggested that race factors into credit-worthiness. This has been pointed out several times. So why do some of you persist in swinging tossing that red herring into the pot? Basing credit-worthiness on race is not the topic and has nothing to do with identifying people who write bad checks. Many who are experienced in unspoken languages think that someone who would throw a fit over being asked for identification would very possibly be in a higher risk area. You do not have a God-given, Constitutional right to write checks anyplace you want. Checks are not legal tender, at least in the US. It can be minimally insulting to ID someone who has written checks and never bounced one, but if that person can't comprehend why it's being done, especially these days, it's amazing. This is no more "offensive" than being asked for ID at a bar, liquor store or cigarette seller. Booze/smokes sellers only need age proof so they don't need to identify a person other than age. However if they write a check for those smokes or drinks, they *may* need to identify the person down the road if the check bounces. I'll bet that those of you who are so defensive about giving identification would change your mind if your daughter were raped and they're investigating it. Let's see, you can't give the race of the person. That's "racist". You can't ask for that, right? You can't give the age of the assailant. That's "age discrimination" and offensive. You can't give the sex of the person, since that's "sex discrimination". And any such information used to locate an alleged perpetrator is "racial profiling" right? Let's call out the troops! Nobody has thrown a fit over Sam's taking pictures. Why not? Nobody throws a fit about driver licenses taking pictures. Why not? Etc, etc. This is something that seems so simple. So basic. And *so* misunderstood....See MoreQuestion kind of off topic
Comments (7)Should YOU bring it up? No. The lady has been snipping at you all week and you want this to be taken for what it is not misunderstood as a 'take that' remark. So what I would do is discuss it with your DH. BIL and DH are brothers. DH can causually mention it to his brother in a way that brothers do things. His niece, is his only concern here. He'd not be bad talking the GF or trying to stick his nose in where it may not be welcomed...he'd simply be mentioning to his brother that he had recently learned of the sex offender brother of GF and as niece might be around the guy at some point DH wants to be sure BIL knows about it and that BIL discusses with his daughter 'good touch/bad touch' inappropriate actions blah blah. Brother to brother can do this without fear of the concern being misunderstood. You are correct in having concerns about this, but let DH be the one to discuss it to BIL. This way it's only thought of as two brothers looking out for each other and not perhaps turned into you being spiteful or something. BIL can and may tell his brother he already knows and to mind his own business. But for your nieces sake this is important enough to risk DH annoying his brother over. My 2 cents...See Moreravencajun Zone 8b TX
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