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lucillle
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Comments (4)My experience is that there's always room to negotiate. You are in the catbird seat right now: they've gone through whatever hoops they must to make you the offer; you're the candidate they want; if you say no, they have some work to do to make an offer to someone else. So you can negotiate. You can mention that you think this job is a great opportunity, but that you're surprised that a job that takes advantage of your experience and even requires some extra responsibility on your part pays less than the job you now hold, and ask if there any room to improve the offer? Remember that they don't have to pay you just in dollars. Maybe they can't play with the salary, but they should be able to offer you other things, like additional vacation time, or maybe to pay some insurance premiums for you, or to give you an amount of money for additional education (if you think you'll use it), or (depending on the level of this job) give you a company car or something. If all else fails, you can ask for a review in three or six months or such, with an adjustment to your salary at that time. Whatever you do, make sure you get it in writing. Make sure it is part of your offer letter, even if they have to reissue it. Without that, you really don't have anything you can count on. I have used this strategy successfully in the past, at my present employer (at which it seems everyone comes in at the same grade level, regardless of applicable experience) and with one of my ex-wife's employers (who offered her what she was making at her then-present job, but which would have been a pay cut after paying for parking downtown; we asked them to gross up her salary to pay for parking, and they agreed)....See MoreNYTimes article: a mess is a good thing
Comments (20)As a naturally messy person, I would love to agree with the opinion of that article. But even I cannot. It just seems to make an excuse for not trying harder. I am most comfortable with a "lived in" look. Steve's kitchen pic is pretty, but, to me, it looks like no one uses it. So if I were a guest in that home, I'd be afraid to get a glass of water. Even as a teen at home, when I cleaned my room I would finish by turning down the bed covers, laying a book on it and putting some papers and a pen on the desk. Like life was in progress there, then it felt right to me. As a mother, I need a certain amount of organization in the house. But the effort to keep it perfect cannot consume my mind, then I'd be the housekeeper not the mother. When my kids are grown and on their own and someone asks them "Did your mother keep house like a neat freak or a slob?" the best I could hope for would be "I don't remember." I don't want my housekeeping standards to be what they remember about their childhood. I don't want them to remember that it was so perfect they weren't allowed to have fun or have friends over. (Like DH remembers, and no pets b/c they're messy.) I also don't want them to remember it as so messy they couldn't have friends over for embarrassment. So anyway. I'd like to celebrate my messy side like the article encourages. But I know there is a time for both creative messiness and peaceful organization. There is value in keeping both in your life, not either or....See MoreMidlife career stuff
Comments (30)I've applied for, been offered, turned down and had a lot of jobs. My advice to you is NEVER tell your current employers that you are looking for a job unless you are prepared to lose the job you have. In fact, do not let them get even one whiff that you are looking. CYA. Two things that the modern work world operates under, despite anyone's protestations to the contrary--you are always replaceable and you should always be on the lookout for the next or better job. Maybe not 20 years ago, but definitely today. No one should be surprised when bosses and employees act upon these realities, and most aren't. The only exception to that situation is if you accept a temporary "gig" job, then you should stay until the gig is finished, unless you receive a MUCH better full time job offer. Most employers will understand if you ask to finish the gig before starting your new job, if it isn't too long. They understand your current bosses point of view, and if they really want you and figure you are worth it, they can wait a while. But don't expect your current boss to have any sympathy for your next one, lol! Also, never discuss salary until a job offer is on the table. When it's close between two people, knowing one wants more money and is therefore not fully committed may sway the offer to the other candidate. They can always reopen the job if you turn it down due to salary issues, but if you bring it up ahead of time it can only work in your disfavor. The only exception would be if you are miles apart on salary, in which case you could ask, so as to not waste your time applying to those kinds of jobs....See MoreHow many do you remember?
Comments (62)I don't remember penny candy, the Fuller Brush man, or 15-cent McDonald hamburgers – we did not have McDonald's where I grew up (We had Dairy Queen), and I still have never been to one and have never had any of their food. I remember 19¢ hamburgers at Jack-in-the-Box when I moved to Houston, but before that, I did not pay attention to the cost of food. I do remember 17.9-cent gasoline (19¢ was the normal price) and the rest. It's much harder to remember 35¢ gas, since that was much later. We did not have traveling salesmen in the rural area where I grew up, and we did not have milk delivery, but we did have milk cows. We still have a diner here in Los Angeles that has a tableside jukebox, with 45s from the early 1960s. My grandmother made a point to shop only on double stamp days for green stamps....See Moreraee_gw zone 5b-6a Ohio
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