A lot of people like Balboa Mist from Benjamin Moore that you listed, and you can search Houzz for photos of it in kitchens, but I don't have experience with it so couldn't advise. There is a comprehensive list of color leanings (blue, green, yellow red, with chroma values) in the Benjamin Moore Affinity line of colors at the following link, a terrific reference page: https://thelandofcolor.com/get-color-notations/benjamin-moore-affinity-color-notations/

The Benjamin Moore Affinity collection has some truly special colors in it. We just used one of them with subdued purple/blue tones for an entire master bedroom and bathroom suite and loved it, but it wasn't a color that would work for your situation. Early on, when I told a interior design consultant I was considering a paint color from the Affinity collection, she brightened up and said something to the effect that the collection was outstanding. We got the $8 sample quart of paint and tried it out first to be sure (differing sheens aren't available for the sample, just the color), and we definitely went with the premium Aura since it is more resistant to moisture than the Regal. For a kitchen area, I would recommend the Aura for the moisture resistance. We also did a satin sheen which turned out more glossy than I preferred. If I use Benjamin Moore for the kitchen, I'd probably scale back to eggshell on the sheen.

Sherwin Williams also makes a well-reviewed interior paint called ProClassic that I've seen reviewed with similar or even better quality to some Benjamin Moore paints, and their color selections are extensive if you want to expand your color options. Given the total picture, it's going to be hard to really tone down wood cabinetry that takes up so much of the space. I think your kitchen looks lovely as it is. Pretty much all wood is going to naturally oxidize to some variation of an orange/amber/yellow tone with age, so that's why the painted cabinet craze is going so strong, to get away from those natural wood tones. Natural wood is coming back into vogue, and maple is one of the most popular woods commercially available for cabinetry with its quiet grain and intrinsic hardness to resist scratches and dents. Your natural finish will also hold up better over time than a painted finish would. Sometimes the best solution is to just pick a color that you really enjoy personally for the walls. You needn't feel tied to the maple color, as quite a few options for your wall would probably work well, and you can consider the maple somewhat of a neutral. The countertop reads dark neutral from a distance, so it's not that limiting either.