Have you tried another cycle besides Normal? Maybe Darks/Colors, which uses "low to medium speed wash action". You can also add the Stain Treat function to the D/C cycle and set the Soil Level to Light - this should give you a short main wash ( -> little agitation) due to the Light Soil Level, yet maintain a proper cleaning result, due to Stain Treat. Just a thought... BTW: Fisher & Paykel just released their version of the Oasis in Australia and New Zealand. It has a dedicated Jeans cycle. Unfortunately, the manual contains very little information about what the Jeans cycle actually does... "JEANS can be responsible for damaging other items in the wash. They should be washed separately, and require their own specific wash action to get clean. ThatÂs why we [Fisher & Paykel] have created a special cycle specifically for JEANS. The cold wash temperature helps reduce loss of colour and the fast spin ensures that your jeans will dry quickly." Alex

AF-"First, I'm so sorry that you were betrayed - what a terrible thing for any individual to endure. It will take some work to recover from that, no?" Thanks for your concern. I must be numb or just so freaking glad for the chaos to be over, but so far I am really happy. Bliss is the word I keep using. He's been almost a month now and my home is clean, organized, full of loving kindness, meals shared with people who got run off, and most of all, a happy kid. Second, I'm going to go out on a limb here, and be very unpopular no doubt, but it needs to be said. With this deep of a betrayal, the pants were a very small symptom of a much bigger problem. I'm going to say that there was much that was wrong here, and it was the bigger piece that was wrong that led you to question the pants." Absolutely. I had strange things going on for a long time. I was just trying to present it objectively. Again, I don't think that could ever happen. I do find it important to note pants don't just walk into a closet. No rationale was ever offered that I agreed with. I had decided levis were thte brand for me, since nothing else ever really fit right; I knew they weren't mine. However, of the weird things, it was the first thing I could hold in my hands, that was couldn't be explained away. I do think undergarments would've been taken more seriously. I don't disagree someone changing in your house is completely unreasonable for most, but a weird bra is harder to explain away. "I'd bet that in the next relationship you're in, if this is not resolved, you'll be in hyper drive when it comes to unexplained phenomenon around the house. That said, it is important to understand that there are things that happen that have nothing to do with a spouse's unfaithfulness." It was explained. He was a slime. I'm a big truster and I've been in plenty of relationships since I'm in my forties. I don't think I'll be hypersensitive, although I could see where others might take heed that it could happen to them. Amy, I think what you said helped the most. I wanted for ME to be able to forgive so that I could find closure. I know how anger can eat a person alive and that the responsibility lay on my shoulders, since he was never going to be "worthy" of the forgiveness. Is anyone ever? But him owning up to it could've helped that. Nonetheless, it is his inadequacy that I will not take personally. I have forgiven. Hey?! Maybe that's why I am so good and blissful now.

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Too many mixed messages coming through here.