Great disappointments when you were a child
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Comments (4)I am so sorry this has happened. I can only offer my empathy/sympathy having had similar situations with our master bath remodel. It's true that in the scheme of life it's small but then again it's also stressful and a lot of trouble that seems could have been avoided. It seems that the mistakes and poor quality in our bathroom remodel are causing me more upset as time goes by as more poor workmanship comes to light some additional failures have surfaced. There is nothing we can do about it except tear it out and start over. Some of the things are not fixable such as how the radiant heat was installed and the faux granite seams in the shower, the defective and poorly installed tile, the gloppy silicone. Now that it's cold it's irritating that the floor wasn't installed properly. I actually feel more stressed and upset about it as time goes on. We thought we were going with a reputable company but they are a franchise company more suitable for house flipping and lied about their capabilities. Sadly we believed them. They charge top dollar and we cannot easily recover from such a large monetary outlay to correct the mistakes. I really hope that you can get this resolved and I am so sorry it happened (((((big hugs)))))!!!...See MoreWhen you are disappointed in the outcome...
Comments (14)Been there, done that. Here's my process: Step 1: Vent (not to the contractor). Get pissed, get angry, and get it out of your system before you meet with them. Step 2: Figure out what I want the outcome to be. Yes, I hate the work that was done & the quality is about what I'd expect from a one-armed kindergarten student ... but what do I WANT to have happen now? Do I want my money back? How much? Do I want the kindergartner to try again? Do I want the GC to figure it out on his own and give me a decent final product (where we agree on "decent")? Step 3: Look at it from the contractor's perspective. Is there anything I didn't tell him about the job ahead of time? Did I substitute hand-made tiles for the DalTile Subway tiles I said I'd use? Did I rush the job or forget to tell him we don't have power on Tuesday and Wednesday afternoons? How much of this could be my fault? Step 4: I know what I want. Now, what's the bare minimum I'll accept? The conversation you have with them may end up being a negotiation. Recently a tile job went poorly and my deal was that either they fix it, or they tear it out and put up new cement backer board with new waterproofing. Living with a crappy tile job wasn't an option. But, in case they felt my standards were beyond the realm of possibility, here is their option. Step 5: STAY CALM during the conversation. And remember that it's a conversation - you need to listen to them as well. You might even ask questions (that really throws them off guard). Something like, "I haven't seen sanded caulk before, is there something that makes it better than smooth latex or silicone caulk?" When you know what you want & can focus on "lets move forward & get this behind us" I find people are more cooperative. And last thing - you don't NEED them to agree that the work is sub-par because YOU are the judge of work done at YOUR house. Trying to get them to agree that it's not good is like having the gymnastics judges at the Olympics ask a 4 yr old for their opinion & try to reach consensus. You aren't happy with the work, period. You have some reasons for this, and those reasons are used to find options for fixing it. Good luck!...See MoreWere you a Free Range child?
Comments (18)This is an interesting post! Was I free-range? Yes and no; I had chores (a really long list that usually took to noon or mid-afternoon to finish), but then -as long as someone knew where I was at or at least the direction I was heading towards, I was free to go and go I did! I took a newspaper route in order to buy my own bike and that bike took me all over the southern portion of the county. But it truly was a different world; most roads were gravel and the few that were paved had so little traffic you could hear the car coming from a half-mile away -plenty of time to get off the road and wait until it passed. Drivers fell into two groups, people I knew (that is, I knew their name and where they lived) and Strangers. Whether afoot or a-bike, I knew to keep a safe distance from Strangers. Known or not, everyone waved as they went passed. I saw the changes as they came: when I began delivering papers to 50 customers, all the 5-mile route was in bank-gravel roads; then they were bluestone gravel, within 3 years I had nearly 150 customers and the roads were almost all paved. I saw a report the other day: back then the county population was about 6,000 (mostly residents in the eastern and northern parts) and now the population is well over a million. The fields, streams, and forests I grew up with are now either paved, subdivisions or shopping centers. The drivers are now almost always utter Strangers, and no body waves as they pass....See MoreWere you able to send your child to school while finishing your build?
Comments (33)Don't let that sour your new life that's coming in the next couple of months. Not worth it. Take it as an opportunity to teach your children flexibility. Handle it with grace and they will learn a ton. Bestow the experience with negativity then they will internalize that. words I often need to tell myself, to remind me that they are watching and learning about life and how to handle it, from me. I realize you may just be venting here in a safe space, but a a new home, a new school, and a new life deserves all the excitement and positive energy you've been putting into it. Bureaucracy, it is what it is, and it has its rules....See Moreterilyn
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