I am so very frustrated! Warning, long!
terilyn
5 years ago
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I am so frustrated!
Comments (15)Gellchom, thanks for your advice about writing a letter. Sadly, I left my regular doctor for another practice because of the same kind of issues I'm having with this one. It wasn't my experience that the doctor really cared, as I had tried to bring up the issues I was having several times. She only referred me to her office manager. My impression is they want to deal with being the doctor, not staff issues. Since the office manager is part of the problem (in both instances), I don't see any more attempts on my part at trying to ''illuminate'' the problem in her office as being any more than a wasted effort. Just because I care, doesn't mean the doctor does! I don't want to pursue any more time in this office. I would have a total of at least 7 more appointments (including surgeries and follow-ups) and I'm not willing to put up with the passive-aggressive, mean-girl, entitlement attitudes. Nothing will change. My husband noticed it quite clearly, within 10 minutes of walking in, and the general atmosphere was the same with at least three of those on staff. I gave it over an hour, and things just escalated from bad to worse. I have an appointment with my regular doctor next week. I've been trying to figure out how much to tell her. I'm sure she doesn't want all the gory details, but I do need a better referral! I'd rather work on it from that end, because I do have a regular relationship with my doctor, who has been very professional....See MorePool Renovation (Warning...Very Long)
Comments (4)Hi, I know this is an old post, but I it sounds a little similar to my problems. And I wanted to get this board's opinion on how I should proceed. I've been lurking reading as much as I can for a bit now. We have an old pool in our house (don't know exactly how old it is, but I'm guessing about 30 years old). It's been re-tiled once. And they poured concrete around it at least once that we know of before we moved in. The concrete was poured incorrectly (or not sure exactly what), but the tiles are popping out it seems that it doesn't have the layer to help it absorb the concrete expansion. And after one of the last earthquakes we had there are a couple of cracks as well. I recently put in all new equipment (pump, filter and heater) because I thougt at least this way we could keep it clean and functioning. I've gotten a couple of quotes (somewhat close in $) to re-cope, replaster and retile. The issue is that none of them mentioned doing a leak test. As a matter of fact one of them went as far as to say that they would not guarantee that the cracks would not come back and that they will not leak. There's a deck that surrounds it partially. I paid for someone to come and wash it and stain it but they found that it starting to rotting in a few places. So now, I'm thinking that the pool is indeed leaking and I need to get the pool done before I try and rip out the deck and put a new one. But re-doing the pool and deck is a huge job and I will need to do it in stages. My question is: what should I watch out for in regards to the pool? should I call one of those Detect Leak places before I call a PB? How can I stagger the work over a few years to spread the cost? At the end of it, is it worth it to spend around $15K to get the pool done when it might still leak. thanks for your input!...See MoreI am SO frustrated. Ceiling lights dim as nightlights!
Comments (11)I'm finding lighting to be quite a challenge. It's actually one of the lower allowances in my project, but we have 14' ceilings in the kitchen. To light that space, I am worried it will either look like swiss cheese (and I really don't want to do recessed!) or a pendant farm. Or I'll end up with some gigantic fixtures that are $$$ and reflect in the darn TV that is across from the sink (where I really will need light). We had a very modern styled kitchen in our Garden District house with maple shaker cabs and polished black granite (done in 1995 by previous owner) and I will admit that with the 14' ceiling there the recessed lights were adequate - but there was also a complete wall (counter to ceiling) of windows overlooking the cocktail pool. I have some natural light in the new house, but not that much. I am definitely finding lighting the most challenging aspect of our project. Everything else, no problem. Whipped through the tile and plumbing fixtures, appliances, flooring, wall and trim colors...but lights. I hate working in shadows so I'm really stressed about making my selections. I'm going to need more light, too, since I'm sure I'm not doing my eyes any favors staring into a computer monitor looking at lights all day....See MoreI Am So Very Disheartened
Comments (47)Why did I turn to this forum when I couldn't think straight on Friday? Why come here for help and advice instead of simply relying on friends and family? Because the majority of people here have either undertaken kitchen remodels or are in the midst of one right now. They have firsthand knowledge and experience and can best relate to all the attendant issues. Also, having people who were familiar with the details of my project from its outset, yet are not personally connected to its outcome, provided me with great perspective. I can't express how grateful I am to everyone for helping me work through this. I intend for this to be my last post to this thread. With the decision to stay on with my KD and her crew I think it has run its course. I know my decision to stay with them will never set right with some, and I get that. To close the circle I will wrap up with giving you our reasons. Maybe some part of this can help someone else along the way. The big problem has been poor communication - and that's something that can be resolved. This isn't a case where we discovered shoddy work, crew not showing up or cutting corners on materials. This is a case where well-meaning and hardworking people in a small operation over extended themselves. It became a Murphy's Law situation when they went into the big job on the historic home. The timing on all their jobs was compromised by that. That is the point - in June - when we should have been called to discuss how it impacted our job. I took KD's inattentive and evasive behavior as a sign that we were not important customers. After hearing how she was when DH went to her office on Friday I believe it was quite the opposite. I think she felt so bad about letting down "good people" that she found it hard to face the facts that it wasn't going to happen for us this summer and tell us that. That wasn't professional and some would, justifiably, find that reason to cut ties. But in this case, with the history of good work and goodwill behind this firm, we accept that mistakes made and believe they will not happen again. Lastly, my world view has shifted with age. I nursed my Mom for 2 years when she was stricken with Alzheimer's dementia until she passed last Fall. The unfairness we've suffered by this delay doesn't hold a candle to the unfairness that life sometimes brings to people through no fault of their own. In the big scheme, this really is a bump in the road. Having settled down and gained perspective over the weekend I feel comfortable with the decision we're making to stay the course with this project and cannot wait to share good results....See More
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