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Comments (5)Spelling doesn;'t count in a storn but SAFETY does. Ensure you have an evacuation plan. Remember that others will be attempting to leave the same route you may have planned and you could get into a gridlock on the highway. LEAVE EARLY. You can always come home if the storm bypasses you. Have your necessary documents and family papers in as water tight box that you can store them in. Leave them in this box year round so that you can pick it up and go. Store family pictures on disk and be ready to pick them up and go. Have sufficient prescription medication on hand to cover you for a week and have written prescritions from your doctor in case we suffer like New Orleans did. HAVE CASH - can not say that often enough Take pictures of your garden so that you can remember it the way it was in case of the worst. Remember, we have warnings with hurricanes and can prepare and leave. With tornadoes we have no warning. GET OUT AND STAY OUT when law enforcement tells you to. YOUR property is not worth your life. We would miss you terribly and would not have you to sommiserate with after the storm. Stay in communication with family and friends. Cell phones may not work after a storm nor phones. You may have to contact the American Red Cross so they can send a ham radio message to the chapter where your family lives to let them know you are okay. DO NO PROCRASTINATE Remember this is a tropical area and after a storm and immediately before one supplies will be hard to come by. KEEP LOTS AND LOTS OF INSECT SPRAY FOR AFTER THE STORM You will need it in the steamy hungle that will be your life for a while. Others, please add your tips....See MoreRetirement savings or long-term disability insurance?
Comments (4)Am in my late 50's. We don't have longterm disability insurance. It's a real gamble. My dad died young, was cared for at home by my mom--no real expense there. My mother just died this past November at age 85--she was at Thanksgiving dinner with us one night, and gone the next. Long term disability? Nope--she was still living independently in her own apartment. Now, note that in her 40's she had a number of health issues--anyone guessing would probably have figured that she'd either have died early, or have been disabled for a long time, and needed a lot of care in later years. Fact is, other than her regular check ups, visits to the podiatrist to care for her feet, and having her cataracts operated on, Mom hadn't had any serious medical treatment for over 20 years when she died. My father-in-law went very quickly, too--at age 82. He was still working as a plumber in November, spent a couple of months in the hospital, then died the beg. of February. I'm not saying you should or shouldn't get the insurance--only you can decide if it's right for you. But to my way of thinking, I don't see all that many people in my life who actually need longterm care. Most seem to either go quickly, or be able to manage their needs anyway. And the insurance companies are banking on the fact that their scare tactics will get lots of people to sign up--many who will never make a claim. For example, I've got an aunt who has had earthquake insurance for many years--no matter to her that we live in an area of the country that has never had a major earthquake in anyone living's memory. But they were more than happy to sell her a policy. I think she also has flood insurance--but she lives on the 6th floor of an apartment building. We also don't get floods of any size around here. That would have to be some departure from the norm for her to collect! And what about the safety of investing in an insurance company? What if the company goes out of business in years to come? Or waht if the funds are mismanaged or depleted by embezzlement. There is a huge scandal in the country right now regarding pre-paid funerals. People paid ahead to make sure their wishes would be taken care of, and many of the funeral homes have stolen those funds and families are having to come up with money to pay the cost of a funeral twice--the second time at a much higher price. Personally (and I'm not telling you what to do)--I prefer to save and control my own money. I'm not a fan of allowing others to take my funds--as in prepaid funerals, extra insurance, IRA's, etc. I do have one small SEP account, but only because I had a year where I needed some serious deductions, and that one was a reasonable way of keeping a few more of my own dollars. It's important to me to have the freedom to invest as I choose, and to move my money from here to there, depending upon what the economy is doing. I've just known too many people who have relied on others to nurture their savings, and lost everything. My sister is a case in point--worked for over 30 years for one company, was up in corporate management when the company was sold and dessimated by a larger one. She had a GOOD pension plan--but the funds were stolen by the new management, and when the company folded, she got a measely, one-time payout of $16,000!...See MoreAdult child needs advice
Comments (26)All of you are starting to really anger me. Tracystoke with her post:"yawn ,yawn ,get out and about and sniff smells" is about as disrespectful and rude as it gets. The others nitpicking and thinking they have all the answers and solutions to secrecy's desperate cry for help. I understand that he gives reasons why he can't do certain things that are suggested to him. Why is he being accused of making excuses. I see cold heartless responses and "You are the problem" when met with lack of an instant "Eureka!!!" moment default everyday suggestions that really can not work in his situation. He has and told us he has been diagnosed. He has to battle a mental illness. He is depressed. His home situation is deplorable. Does everyone think he really is possibly lazy, or doesnt want to have a job or bother looking for one, etc. etc. etc.??? HELLOOOOOO! He is reaching out for advice and telling someone with his illness and home situation to go get a job, or stay with someone else, etc. just doesn't cut it. I am sure some of the people mean well. I myself am on disability, with a couple illnesses with no cure. By the way, I also have Narcolepsy. I am stuck in an abusive situation just to keep a roof over my head and not end up homeless. Secrecy, I have a couple suggestions, and will understand if you have difficulties with them. Just try your best. The first good thing you are doing for yourself is asking for help, and sticking to your guns and not dropping off this thread and giving up (at least to as far as I have read). You do sleep so much with depression, let alone any other problems with it. If you can, try to get on several different additional forums such as one for Mental health or depression, looking for work is an insane undertaking at this point in your life. Does everyone really think that if secrecy gets a job how can he actually function with the mental and physical state he is in? Number 1, try to get help with depression, maybe getting medications, help with how to COPE with your home situation. Number 2, try to get from Mental Health doctor a referral to a sleep center to get tested for Narcolepsy. If indeed diagnosed with that too, medicine will do wonders and get you in a regular sleep cycle. If you don't have it, then,you know depression is a big factor. I am not going to guess or diagnose, just adding on to what you have told us. If you try and work with Mental Health, (therapy/meds), learn to cope with home situation (for now, not forever),(through therapy and/or support forums) - ask the people at mental health if you can qualify for their housing. Most Mental Health facilities in just about every town in the US has rooms, group homes, apts. set up for their patients. if they don't, I know they have referrals to agencies that will help. I wish you the best of luck and many blessings for your recovery from the nightmare you have been living in. Do not give up! I have a list of how to help or not help people with chronic illness written by Not Done Living: DON�T assume because I look well that I feel well. Looks can be very deceiving. Many days I look great, but I feel terrible. DON�T tell me you know how I feel. No one knows how anyone else feels. Two people with the same disease may feel totally different. We all have varying thresholds of pain, and pain cannot be measured. DON�T tell me about your great-aunt GERTRUDE and her illness, and how well she managed in spite of it. I am not AUNT GERTRUDE, and I am doing my best. DON�T tell me, "It could be worse". Yes, it could be, but I don�t need to be reminded. DON�T decide what I am capable of doing. Chronic physical illness doesn�t affect the brain. Allow me to decide what activities I can participate in. There may be times I might make the wrong decision, and if I do, I�ll know it soon enough. DON�T be upset that you cannot ease my pain. It won�t do any good for both of us to be miserable. DON�T ask me how I feel unless you really want to know. You may hear a lot more than you are prepared to listen to. DON�T assume because I did a certain activity yesterday that I can do it today. Chronic illness and pain is ever-changing. DON�T tell me about the latest fad �cure�. I want to be cured more than anything, and if there is a legitimate cure out there, my doctor will let me know. DO learn everything you can about the disease. The more you know, the better equipped you will be to know what to expect. DO realize I am angry and frustrated with the disease, not with you. DO let me know you are available to help me when I ask. I�ll be grateful. DO offer me lots of hugs and encouragement. DO understand why I cancel plans at the last minute. I never know from one day to the next how I will feel. Chronic illness is like that. DO continue to invite me to all the activities. Just because I am not able to bike ride along with the gang does not mean I can�t meet you for the picnic at the end of the trail. Please let me decide � If I cancel activities, please do not stop inviting me. I do not deserve to be shut out or forgotten and left alone. Do not give up on my life, I have a hard time doing that myself....See MoreHijack: Medical care and misconceptions
Comments (150)I'm sure you won't like my answer, but it's enough when we decide it's enough. You can make the same arguments about almost any government spending. You want roads and highways; why not let private companies build toll roads and people who can afford it can pay to use them? Why fund police when people can just go out and make good choices and work hard enough to get good jobs and hire personal security? Why is my county supplying me with clean safe drinking water (this one comes with a small fee) and garbage pickup rather than just letting me pay for my own? There are valid arguments for and against all of these things (well, except the cop one) and different localities can and do make different choices; on an individual policy basis, as it makes sense. If it makes good public policy sense to do A, it's ridiculous imo to argue that we shouldn't do it because where does it end, is someone going to argue next that we should do B. A should be judged on its own merits, as should B. Right now, I think we do a pretty good job making sure everyone in this country is fed, but you know what? If, god forbid, we were to sink into another Great Depression where there simply weren't anywhere nearly enough jobs to go around for families to be able to put food on the table, then darn right I would think we should try to figure out how to keep people from starving in the streets if at all possible. Where the line is drawn depends on the situation and circumstances. I believe that the way we fund health care now does not make sense. We pay outright for the people who have the most expensive care (seniors, the disabled, people with chronic illnesses that have blown through their insurance and/or assest until they qualify for medicaid) as well as those who don't work at all, we subsidize insurance via tax breaks for those most able to afford their own (those healthy enough to work and most often those with good paying jobs) and yet still leave people without. We pay more per capita on health care than other developed nations without a corresponding increase in any measurement of health outcome (life span, infant mortality, etc). I think that good public policy means doing something different than what we are doing now. I don't know if that something is extending Medicare-type program to cover everyone, or something similar to what Massachusets is doing, or something else entirely. And whatever it is, no I am sure it will not be perfect. But it can be better. And you know, I can be a heartless b!tch when necessary. People will argue with all the compassion and best intentions in the world that you cant put a price on a human life, that if you save only one person its worth spending however many millions on this safety upgrade or that law. I will tell you that not only can you put a price on human life, but that in order to make good decisions you have to. Otherwise, you will wind up spending 5 million dollars on putting in crosswalks and speed bumps on road A which saves 2 lives when the same money could be better spent on flu vaccines which will save 100 lives. Or whatever. In the case of health care, I think that cost benefit analyses and common sense compassion happen to lead to the same conclusions; we should provide it. Obviously you disagree (and yes, I think some of the comments you made arguing that point were very condescending and I dont think it qualifies as name-calling to point that out). But if we choose to fund health insurance for everyone, it doesnt automatically follow that we should start feeding everyone. Nor to the contrary; we can choose to leave health insurance the way it is and still decide if food prices keep rising or the economy really tanks that we need to start buying food for a lot more people than we do. One does not necessarily lead to the other....See More- 8 years ago
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