Get well! Lament away. We're here to listen.

My mom is feeling very unwell (tomorrow is the MRI, after three CAT scans and four trips to the ER in the past month), and told my sister she wished Christmas was over since she felt so cruddy. Which is a reasonable thing, except Christmas is my sister's birthday. She should've said it to me, or brother, but not to her. Luckily, sister is a good person and didn't take it personally.

Hope you feel better. If not the tree, get out the napkin holder or what ever. Buy a poinsettia for the table. I have decided you don't have to drag it all out anymore, just what appeals to you at the moment.

I put up some decorations and luckily we have a fiber optic tree I put on the desk in the family room....last December one of my husband's brothers died, then just before this Thanksgiving his other brother and our nephew died in a car accident. Not a good holiday season.

Hope you feel better soon. ((((Hugs)))). We have a table top tree this year for the first time, as it is just DH and me. Enjoy the holidays!

Play some of the old Christmas carols. And, yes, do get a poinsettia or some bit of greenery. Hope you feel better before the day comes.

Thanks everyone your comments are appreciated. I don't want to whine to family they all have their own traditions now. I actually feel better already. :)

You can whine to us, we appreciate it. It is ok to feel bad because it is not as it was. I don't like that it is not as it was or even what I thought it would be. I am really trying to live in what it is.

I was in ICU before Thanksgiving last year, then in the medical hospital for a week, then in a rehab facility until just before Christmas. We didn't have Thanksgiving or Christmas last year. First time in 38 years we didn't have a Christmas tree. This year we decided to go out for Thanksgiving dinner for the very first time. It's just the 2 of us. We both voted to forgo a Christmas tree this year, as well, since we're planning a long trip away in January. I just didn't want the hassle, either, so I completely understand.

There's no shame in reaching out....I'm sure others have counted on you plenty. Just send out an sos....

I find that we think we're way more trouble than other's think we are :-/

MissyMay, THAT was a "whine"? LOL I could give you lessons sometime! But honestly, letting out your frustration in a safe forum sure helps sometimes. I hope you feel better soon. Being sick at the holidays is a bummer.

Feel better soon

Sorry you are feeling so poorly. Enjoy some Christmas music and rest up. Hope you feel better soon.

Sorry you are feeling so poorly. Two weeks is a long time to feel that way. Have you considered seeing a doctor?

Hope you feel better soon. I second being checked by a doctor.

That was about the mildest whine I've ever heard. You need to learn to do better and really get it off your chest ;0)

My SIL hurt her ribs/chest coughing last year and her doctor gave her pain medication for it. It slowed the cough AND made her feel and rest better.

A friend of mine has a chronically ill son (oldest of three) and it seemed like for several years he would take a downhill turn late Fall. As for her tree, there were a lot of years she managed to get one, but it might be in the house in the stand with no decorations. Sometimes lights. Sometimes nothing. Or, she'd have the neighborhood kids come in and tie bows on it. She gave up feeling guilty about it and no one else really cared.

You can only do what you feel well enough to handle. Take care of yourself, feel better and your holiday will be fine. We only think people are keeping score.

On the other hand, we were in a home last week where there were at least three decorated trees and every vertical and horizontal surface had something Christmassy sitting on it or nailed to it. I kept thinking there was no way to possibly dust (maybe even vacuum) until all that was boxed and put away again. When we left, I realized I'd felt claustrophobic - I'd rather have seen a poinsettia and a couple of red candles than all of that ;0)