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Amanda Rose
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Help! Our market is failing!
Comments (21)I have a feeling that a lot of people, like me, have read through this thread with a certain amount of anxiety and have felt that after all that has been said about advertising, that they don't have anything to contribute. The anxiety comes from concern about the performance of their own markets. Lushoasis, you have described an inner city market and you should know that many markets in these locations couldn't have even started without the WIC and Senior Farmers' Market Nutrition Programs. You have a group of goodhearted people as administrators. They should be looking to these nutrition programs or similar ones to "ratchet up" the sales of fresh produce. The market where I sell is in an urban center. A good 20% of the sales are to low-income folks who have vouchers. A lot of our "better heeled" customers seem to really appreciate that these elderly folks and the moms with the strollers are down there to buy the healthful food. If anything, it seems to encourage everyone to attend. Advertising is okay but the best and cheapest is word-of-mouth. Getting a good base of customers in and having them find good quality produce is what leads to success. Good luck, Digit...See MoreOur marriage is failing
Comments (12)Dear all, Thank you for your thoughtful comments. I know I wrote a long post, but mkroopy, I do not expect everyone would understand my position in a short post. Thank you Sylviatexas, Readinglady and Justmetoo. You have been very understanding. In explanation to my position : 1. Before I got married, my parents had warned me that is anything were to happen (Inter-racial marriages in my country had boast issues like this before) I am not to return home crying when my marriage fail. I know my parents loved me and meant well, they only warned me of what would happen and they were absolutely right. but they are now retired, I cannot bear to burden them with my issues. If I am to find money, it will be on my own responsibility. 2. Like I mentioned above, by Muslim law, a wife can only divorce her husband for several reasons. You can refer to this : "Men have the right to divorce. If a man dislikes keeping his marriage for any reason, he divorces his wife and compensates her financially by paying her what is termed mut'a payment. This is in addition to the regular financial sustenance for her living, in case she has the custody of their children. Divorce becomes in effect once the husband utters or writes down any of the legal formulae of divorce such as: �I divorce you� or �you are divorced��etc. The husband can do these either by himself or through a messenger. In case it is the woman's desire to end the marriage, the situation becomes different. Her reasons might be that she has received ill treatment, the husband is unable to sustain her financially or he is sexually impotent. She can prove these defects in front of the judge, then the judge grants her divorce with a full access to all her financial rights. Also, if the husband was good to her but she does not want to keep on for an emotional reason, then she asks for what is termed khul'. This means to be granted divorce but without any access for financial rights, plus paying back the husband the dowry that he already paid on marrying her." I have made it clear to my husband that I don't want anything from him if he divorces me, but it seems like he is smart, he knows I won't be able to find a reason to divorce but for emotional reasons. I'm sure do hope that I'm wrong; I hope he doesn't want my money, after all his late wife did leave some for him. I am just like a pawn, I am only to suffer in a position where there is nothing I can do. 3. To Justmetoo, the solution you proposed was exactly what I did. Like I mentioned above, after my parents told me to ignore her coz eventually she will leave, I did exactly that. I ignored her. I stopped whatever I did before ie.plates to the dishes, pick up your mess, ask for permission first, spend your money wisely, you don't need another concert etc, MY HUSBAND DEEMED ME UNCARING. And again I say, I had established an understanding that I am not going to do anything anymore to make it better with her, unless she starts to do so herself. This are how things are now, she doesn't need my permission for anything, and in fact even if she does ask me, it is because she was told to by her father. And even if she did, it was, "I'm going out now, Ok Annie?" or "I'm going to borrow the bathtub, OK?" or "Can you send me to my friend's house later?" I know because her father asks her to do so, she knows I was the one who made the changes in the first place, so she behaves worst. 4. About her mother's things, you are terribly right. It was definitely my fault for clearing up the things. I just couldn't bear to live in the bedroom, which is the house under he name willed to the daughter (we are moving out sometime in 2013, AT LAST =( ) with no where to put my things. I felt really not at peace living here, everywhere I look it was just her possessions and reminders of her. Like I said, my Husband seemed very ignorant about how I felt. He had in fact mentioned I didn't know her and had no rights to hate her. She cheated on him and I didn't, I still don't understand why I get treated as if I was the one who did him wrong. I hate her terribly, It was because of what she did, that my husband is bitter and refused to clear up the mess. It was his responsibility and he dutifully neglected it and left me with the bitter consequences. I was told that the daughter was not very close to the parents. In fact, with both working adults and one spending too much time with someone else, a lot of things were left to other people to be responsible for. The maid handles a lot of things and she was given all she wanted so she wouldn't whine and cause troubles to her parents. Most definitely, I read her blog and she wrote that "my mum bullies me and don't support me" and "I didn't cry when mummy died." In fact, there wasn't an issue at all, until I came in the house. God knows what did she realize, but I doubt she appreciated her mother much until she realized someone else became the new woman in the house. The only thing I can think of now, is to live like nothing happened. Ignorance is not my forte, my blood boils to see her mess and her unthoughtful attitude about eating her share of food at home. It's makes me terribly sad that my husband says I don't care for either of them. I would have to save up my money wisely, study hard and start building a better life for myself in the future. Meanwhile, I would just have to take everything thrown at me. PS : My husband has mentioned in the past the one thing he wont tolerate is cheating and that consents a divorce. I can't do that, and even if I faked it, the bad would just be reflected on me. My husband is very smart of pretending like everything is beautiful and on cloud 9 in front of people. No one would believe of his character or assume something is wrong with our marriage....See MoreWe failed our final inspection!
Comments (20)>>If it's any comfort to you, we failed our home inspection, too. A six-figure remodel including a 500sf addition, complete kitchen gut and re-do, and about 1000sf of new stamped concrete outside -- and what did he fail us for??? No smoke alarms in the bedrooms -- and the bedrooms weren't part of the remodel and weren't in the plans!!!>> This happened to us, too (I believe you're in San Diego County, right, oofasis? I'm in Poway). Last year - $45,000 addition to the house ONLY a family room - and we failed the final inspection for lack of smoke alarms in every bedroom. I said exactly the same thing to the inspector. That was on Friday, July 27th. That day, I went to Home Depot and bought 3 of the cheapest smoke alarms, because we already had smoke alarms right outside the bedrooms (and 1 in a bedroom already), and installed them myself. When she came back on Monday morning, they were up - but she came when 2 of the 4 bedrooms were occupied by sleeping people. I asked her if she'd take my word for it that I installed all 4 alarms, and told her that my husband was a swing shift worker trying to sleep. So she just looked at two of them and went with that. (I'm glad she didn't press the "test" button on any. One of the smoke alarms didn't have a working battery - the smoke alarm that was already installed.) We passed the second time, and that afternoon, started gutting the kitchen, for which we did NOT "need" any permits. DonnaR/CA...See MoreWe could really use your help with our home office
Comments (30)An update for y’all: So, I wasn’t quite ready to pull the trigger on painting the entire room blue, but I did go ahead and have custom bookshelves built and installed, in the same shade of blue. I figured I could paint the rest of the room afterwards, if I wanted to. Here’s that wall, just finished — I’m elated. The shelves are fully adjustable, so I can remove one if I want to hang a piece of artwork there. I purposely did not want any drawers or cabinets, just shelves....See MoreAmanda Rose
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