Albert Ellis Quotes
American - Psychologist September 27, 1913 - June 24, 2007

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.
Albert Ellis

The art of love is largely the art of persistence.
Albert Ellis

Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.
Albert Ellis

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.
Albert Ellis

By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed.
Albert Ellis

Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.
Albert Ellis

For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency.
Albert Ellis

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.
Albert Ellis

We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.
Albert Ellis

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.
Albert Ellis

If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.
Albert Ellis

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.
Albert Ellis

I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs.
Albert Ellis

People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.
Albert Ellis

Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse.
Albert Ellis

I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn't love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression.
Albert Ellis

People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.
Albert Ellis

I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19 to get over my fear of public speaking and of approaching young women in public.
Albert Ellis

Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years.
Albert Ellis

People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.
Albert Ellis

I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition.
Albert Ellis

I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.
Albert Ellis

I hope to die in the saddle seat.
Albert Ellis

As a result of my philosophy, I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing.
Albert Ellis

I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it - going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert.
Albert Ellis

There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
Albert Ellis

Freud had a gene for inefficiency, and I think I have a gene for efficiency.
Albert Ellis

I started to call myself a rational therapist in 1955; later I used the term rational emotive. Now I call myself a rational emotive behavior therapist.
Albert Ellis

I thought foolishly that Freudian psychoanalysis was deeper and more intensive than other, more directive forms of therapy, so I was trained in it and practiced it.
Albert Ellis

I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So I finally quit after practicing it for six years.
Albert Ellis

If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other experiments.
Albert Ellis

In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to HMOs, and we can only be affiliated with a few HMOs.
Albert Ellis

Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because I had previously been an analyst and they were very angry at my flying the coop.
Albert Ellis


Wilford Brimley Quotes
American - Actor Born: September 27, 1934

I'm not anybody's judge; I don't know what motivates people to do what they do. But I have a lot of admiration for anybody who can start with absolutely nothing and make a little something out of it.
Wilford Brimley

I didn't go to high school. I think that after you learn to read and write and do your numbers and flush the toilet behind yourself, you don't need no more schoolin'. You need to get out in the water and swim.
Wilford Brimley

My saddle horses are my friends. My dogs are my friends.
Wilford Brimley

What I know about poker, you can fit into a thimble with room left over, but I'm learning.
Wilford Brimley

I live on a ranch in Utah for now, but I'm gonna move. I've got another ranch to move to, but its location is a secret. When I get there, I'm gonna plow the road in behind me.
Wilford Brimley

Everybody that's an actor leaves it for a while 'cause they ain't got a job.
Wilford Brimley

The place was built on the premise that people want to gamble, and they may as well do it here. They look after their clientele, and, hell, they treat me like I'm one of their family.
Wilford Brimley

Well, we all are what we are, I guess you might say by an accident of birth.
Wilford Brimley

I'm very proud of my heritage.
Wilford Brimley

I maintain that if there is such a thing as a true and honest environmentalist, it's people like Slim and hopefully me, who have been caretakers of the land all our lives, along with the generations before us.
Wilford Brimley

Hopefully, generations after us will continue to protect, preserve, and look after this wonderful land.
Wilford Brimley

I resent the fact that people in places like Boston, New York, Chicago, Los Angeles, and San Francisco believe that they should be able to tell us how to live our lives, operate our businesses, and what to do with the land that we love and cherish.
Wilford Brimley

I'm a widower with three sons and seven grandchildren. One of my sons is my partner on the ranch.
Wilford Brimley

I raise quarter horses. Mine are mostly thoroughbred cross horses, a little bigger horses than some people like. I sell them or use them on the ranch. A lot of them go to the rodeo arena and some of them go to racetracks.
Wilford Brimley

I rope steers in team roping events. There's a header and a heeler on a roping team, and I'm the heeler.
Wilford Brimley

I love watching a good horse do what he's bred to do - I guess that's what I like the most about it. And I love to see good athletes do what they're bred to do.
Wilford Brimley

I didn't go to acting school, but I've been observing my fellow man for 66 years now, and I would think that's the best school there is.
Wilford Brimley

I've already got my rent paid, and it's too late in my life for me to go around talking up stuff that I don't like or believe in.
Wilford Brimley

No, that's poker. To win, you've gotta get damned lucky.
Wilford Brimley


Anne-Marie Slaughter Quotes
American - Educator Born: September 27, 1958

The false pride of perennial celebration, of wearing flag lapel pins while betraying the values that the flag stands for, is like the self-esteem curriculum for toddlers, where everything is praised and no achievement ultimately has meaning.
Anne-Marie Slaughter

Over my lifetime, women have demonstrated repeatedly that they can do anything that men can do, while still managing traditional women's work at the same time. But the same expansion of roles has not been available to men.
Anne-Marie Slaughter

Young men keep telling me they don't 'have it all' either. And they may have a point. But if you define 'having it all' as the opportunity to have a successful career and a family, I'd say this. When a man tells his coworkers he's going to have a child, no one asks him how he'll manage or if he'll be coming back to work.
Anne-Marie Slaughter

If we're going to have better choices for women, we've got to have better choices for men.
Anne-Marie Slaughter

Patriotism demands the ability to feel shame as much as to feel pride.
Anne-Marie Slaughter

We should be proud of our country when we have done something to be proud of, when we have lived up to our own standards. But the flip side of genuine pride is being able to recognize when we have fallen short, and to hold ourselves to account.
Anne-Marie Slaughter

When I used to teach civil procedure as a law professor, I would begin the year by telling my students that 'civil procedure is the etiquette of ritualized battle.' The phrase, which did not originate with me, captured the point that peaceful, developed societies resolve disputes by law rather than by force.
Anne-Marie Slaughter

Someone must transform income into the food, shelter, clothing, nurture, discipline, education, minding, nursing, transportation, and emotional support that creates life outside of the office, permits survival of the race, cares for the ill and disabled, and makes life livable when we can no longer care for ourselves.
Anne-Marie Slaughter

What mothers need, as well as fathers, spouses, and the children of aging parents, is an entire national infrastructure of care, every bit as important as the physical infrastructure of roads, bridges, tunnels, broadband, parks and public works.
Anne-Marie Slaughter

Believe it or not, we will actually be better and happier workers if we are allowed to be better parents. We might even rediscover our capacity for fun.
Anne-Marie Slaughter