Don't know what to do about kitty
Kelly Margelony
6 years ago
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Comments (4)Mary, I too am in Toronto and am so conflicted by all the info out there. We will have our cedar deck installed in about 3 weeks (actually, I'm thinking of putting it off until next spring). You mentioned that your deck was installed in April and that you probably stained it too soon. How soon after installation did you stain it? I do not want the cedar to "grey", instead I want to seal it and stain it so that it remains a nice cedar colour and just protect it from UV rays. We have a southern exposure and no shade, and the sun just eats away at all our wood....See MoreDon't know what to do about not liking my SD
Comments (4)I'm sorry it took me so long to get back to this board. I thought I would get an email or something telling me that there were replies, so I didn't think anyone had! Thank you both for your insight. I do think what you are both saying is right on the money, except for the jealousy thing. BM uses my SD's bad behavior as way to get more attention. The more she promotes the bad behavior, the more attention BM gets from outsiders. Why are the children with BM? That's a good question. My husband and I have taken our complaints and observations to my SD's counselor (when she was in counseling for a short time). We were told nothing. The counselor took the pages and pages of log I had written documenting the BM's behavior and basically took it under advisement. I have also taken this information to the local Social Services, and gotten no where. They couldn't prove it (the car incidents) and the rest was hearsay. So they could do nothing. Without that behind us, there is no way we would win custody in court, especially in the conservative state we live in. We resolved to be involved in every aspect of their schooling and medical health, as is allowed to my husband by divorce decree, and to me by him. Because if we couldn't control what went on at the mother's house, at least we could make sure that we would be involved with whatever happened at school and the doctor. That way, if we believed that incidents and behaviors that happen there were caused by BM's behavior, we could mention it and have it documented to use in court later if need be. Yes, we did talk to SD about her behavior at Christmas. There is no way something like that would be ignored here. As for discipline, she has gotten some spankings, I guess maybe twice in the last year. Mostly she gets time-outs or stands in the corner for 10 minutes or so. But I think the whole weekend is like a time-out for her because the other kids won't play with her. We bought her activity books, art supplies, reading books, etc, but I know she gets bored with all that and really just wants to play. But she's so unpleasant to be around, the other kids will play with her (because I make them give her a chance) for about 20 minutes and end up telling her to go do something else because she's making them angry. I feel bad for her because I know she has to be lonely, but I can't spend every minute entertaining her either. My husband and I play some board games with her, and we take the dog for walks and such, but then she's like a "cling-on" and we can't get her to go do something else. I'm sorry this is so long, and I hope I don't sound whiny. I'm just frustrated. It's gotten better than when I first posted, because I've had to say that if her behavior gets out of control, she has to go back to her mothers before the boys. I know that's mean, but she had my daughter (who is 12) so upset by the things she was saying, my daughter was literally crumpled up on the floor crying and telling me she had to get SD away from her. That was the final straw. I have guilt, of course, because that just means that SD goes back to spend more time with BM, but I also know that all of this is not fair to me or the other kids either. I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. Thank you again for all your input. I do appreciate it....See MoreI don’t know what to do about my cat
Comments (44)I am crying as I read this. I am so sorry for your loss. You had a beautiful cat and friend. I had a similar situation with my soul mate Maddie. She was 15.5 years old and was miserable. She ate, drank, walked etc but she was not herself and I knew I could not let her live the way she was. I too posted here on this forum asking for advice. In doing so, it helped me come to the conclusion that was one I already knew but was having a hard time accepting. We put her down and I was sick with anxiety and sadness. It has gotten better over the months but everytime I see a sad story about a dog or one that even resembles her I get an ache in my heart. Luckily, those moments are becoming less. Stay strong. You had a wonderful friend who loved you and you loved back. You gave your cat a wonderful life. In my mind that is a gift. Huge hugs!...See MoreDon't know what I don't know. Can you give me novice pool equip tips?
Comments (3)I have been a swimming pool contractor for 34 years. I am Jandy Pro Edge Dealer for about 20 years. As a Pro Edge Dealer, we can offer our clients an extended warranty on their products. Jandy equipment is not just automated systems. They have offered filters for close to 20 years now. My friend and colleague actually headed up the pump and filter division for Jandy and is is still involved with the company. I prefer their equipment as they provide great dealer support, which in turn supports my clients. I've been using salt water systems for 20 years, and quite honestly have never seen any corrosion issues at any of the pools we have built, renovated or service. Our new pools are equipped with a Jandy automated system, pump, filter, heater, Polaris cleaner and a salt water generator. Nicheless LED lighting also. Some pools we add a Del AOP system which uses ozone and UV for santizing. Testing and adjusting the water weekly, will keep things in check. Improperly balanced water will destroy anything it comes in contact with. It's paramount to maintain proper water chemistry. Hopefully the pool builder will guide you on the equipment needed. You may consider prepping for a heater as may want it down the road....See MoreKelly Margelony
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