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Comments (5)I agree with Carol. When you are grieving support from everyone is appreciated, you cannot get too much. Do you have any photos of your friend that maybe her family haven't seen? I'm sure if you copied them and sent them they would appreciate it. I did that for a friend of mine who lost her husband when her children were little but I didn't think about it until they were grown and they loved them especially the ones I had of them as babies with their father. Do everything you can for the family, I'm sure it will be welcome....See MoreAfter Surgery
Comments (6)I called the reseptionist last night and she got in contact with the vet and this morning we meet in his office and he gave me some medication in form of a spray and told me to spray on staples. He said it contains steroids and helps healing and stops him from licking and scratching. He said my dog is trying to heal and the hairs on his elbow growing back and that's what is itching. So far so good. He also said not to cover it up. Expensive stuff. But that's Okay. I don't mine if it works. Thanks Christine...See MoreDiet after surgery; soft food for 4 weeks
Comments (55)I've been with the same company since 1989, and so we are very familiar with each other by now, but it was not like that in the beginning. When I first met my boss, I felt an instant rapport with her and felt like we were meant to be together. When I looked at her furniture, I thought to myself, "These are the exact same proportions I would use," and so I knew from the beginning that we had a compatible design style/sense. It took her a little longer than it did me to realize this, but once she did, she trusted me with all new designs. Kevin has some good friends at work, and a couple of the them live not too far from us. One has offered to help cook and help with grocery shopping, if necessary, but I think I am recovered enough by now to handle shopping. I just cannot get anything heavy yet, but that will come in due time. As for the garden, I will hire help probably in October. It would nice to have him sooner, but he is my friend in Sacramento, and I have to work with his schedule. I don't trust the local landscapers here. I could possibly find a good landscape architect here, but that would be expensive and more than we need right now, although I'll keep it in mind for the future. It depends on what we end up doing in Palm Springs. I think Kevin will be much happier when we can buy a second home in the Palm Springs area. We'll probably end up in Cathedral City (Palm Springs adjacent but not walking distance), and hopefully Cathedral Gulch. This won't start happening until next year, but it's something to look forward do that I think might help Kevin feel better. What is odd is that so many people ask us if we are twins, but I am 15 years (+3 weeks) older, and I think this must be very insulting to Kevin. First people ask us if we are brothers. Then they ask if we are twins. Then they ask which one is older, which is the worst question of all. I've afraid that Kevin is going to appear even older after this ordeal, but if he can have a week-end house in PS, then I think he won't mind so much. I don't know yet how I will look after my full recovery, but I am keeping plastic surgery as an option. I've had hospital technicians tell me that if you live in Los Angeles, then it is almost mandatory. When I had a bike accident that cut my forehead, they would not release me from St. Johns until I interviewed with a plastic surgeon. Back then (around 1996) I did not care about having a small scar or two on my forehead, and now it's barely visible anyway. If anything, what I can see of it makes me look more rugged, I think. I wear bike helmets now. Sorry for rambling - I'm having trouble sleeping some nights, and after just having seen Kevin, I am feeling even more anxious. I think I will be able to help him with most of what he needs, but he is very private and introverted and often likes to be by himself. I hope he will spend his alone time in the back yard instead of his bedroom, but for now, I know it is painful for him to sit in a chair, and I expect that to last for a while. I could see the evidence of the surgery that had been done, having to remove part (or all) of his sphincter, which I mentioned before but had not seen evidence of before. He's going to be on disability for about three months, I think, but since he has been paying disability insurance for many years, he will get paid pretty much his normal salary - from the insurance. However, they deduct Californian disability payments, as California is fairly generous with these payments, and so Kevin will have to apply for those as well - since the payments will be deducted whether he receives them or not. He cannot file for California disability until he gets out of the hospital, but I think he knows how to do this....See MoreProblems with recuperation after knee surgery
Comments (17)TKRs are not the miracle solution for everyone they are touted to be. Yes they help so many but no one talks about the failed surgeries . My friend had knee replacement surgery in September of 2018. Recovery seemed to be going well. Pain was minimal. Physical therapy was going well except she could not gain stability. Her doctor said everything was fine. He did a needle biopsy for infection and put her on antibiotics ,just in case. Her knee continued to randomly buckle under her. Finally one of the physical therapists said she believed there to be tendon damage and the implant was off to one side. She went back to the doctor and he finally ordered the MRI he should have done the first time she came back. The therapist's suspicions were correct. He blew her off and told her to find a specialist. She found one at Stanford. So now she is facing a full reconstruction along with a tendon repair. She will be in a nursing home to recover for at least 3 months. She will not be able to do PT for the new knee itself until the tendon repair is healed. Her surgery was originally scheduled for this September. However she lost her place to live and had to move so now it is delayed until March of next year. This is how Medicare/MediCal (government run healthcare for the low income) works in real life folks. She uses a walker and her gait has gone from bad to worse. She has never been a person with a good gait to begin with. I have known her for over 25 years and she always had a bit of a rocking/toddling gait which progressed to a drop foot shuffle as we aged. I have my doubts that she will ever not need the walker after all this time. She has no pain at all due to nerve damage. She never had really bad pain with her old knee really. Nothing that couldn't be controlled with OTC pain relief and she was very active and walked a lot. I never let the words cross my lips but my private thoughts are that she should have never had the surgery in the first place. They told her she should because her knee was shot and life would be better in just a few months after it was done. I think people need to think twice before undergoing this popular procedure. To alleviate unbearable pain? Of course. To continue with a sport or activity they love? Of course. To see if they can drop the walker or regain balance that is affecting the lifestyle they wish to lead? Sure. But I look around at people my age who are using walkers and canes and many of them have have their knee or knees done. Too many look worse off now than before the surgery. I never considered that the surgery could go so wrong for so many. Her knee reconstruction is not without risks. It is a long painful recovery. Reconstructions have an even higher rate of failure. But at this point she feels she has nothing to lose. if she can get to place where she she can use a cane or at least go to use the bathroom without her walker she considers that a win....See More- 9 years ago
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