I was a member of this board 10 years ago....... Then life happened
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i love these rl ads from a few years ago...
Comments (31)It's no accident that his first 'lifestyle boutique' opened in NYC in the mid-80s, the time of Dallas and Dynasty. Social climbers everywhere rejoiced. A fellow student in my graduate dramaturgy/dramatic criticism class wrote a paper on the performance-art aspect of it. I cringed -- having grown up stuck in a school of kids of serious old money (and shunned, since my mother worked [as a multiple-degreed physician] and my father was an immigrant [physicist], I know what they thought about the nouveau riche and their blatant attempts at conspicuous consumption....See MoreSome questions about appalachian life 40+ years ago?
Comments (19)Please don't misunderstand - the farm people valued their animals and cared for them well. On the other hand - the cattle provided milk and meat, and local dogs that got together and travelled in packs, chasing cattle, would be dealt with severely (read, "shot"). They tried to train the dogs to herd cattle - some would go to the pasture at milking time and bring the cows to the barn for milking. It could well have been that the Grandfather felt a deep sense of love for the young lads. I thought that the Grandfather's act was a bit severe - but he had a reason that was logical to him, and his reply to the boys likely would have been, "Get over it!". As several have said, life was hard for such people and there was little margin for soft-heartedness. Would you be willing to have soft-heartedness and hunger co-exist? Quite likely the Grandfather was marksman enough that he could have shot the dirt beside the dog to have been thrown up and both stung and frightened the dog, but he took more direct action, as many did. Life didn't have the nuances for them that it does for many of us. The idea of someone shooting over the heads of kids invading their land was quite foreign to me. I have four barn cats, one of which loves to be scratched and petted - but if I pick her up, she jumps down. Another cat lets me pet him, and enjoys it some, but is a bit reluctant. Drat him, he's a bit of a scairdey cat, but when I pour feed into each of three or four dishes in turn ... he has to be there to eat immediately from all four dishes in turn! A half-grown kitten that I didn't see until it could run pretty well has got to where it'll let me pet it when it's looking for feed, but not at other times. Its mother will follow me around, even quite closely ... but if my hand gets a bit too close ... she draws blood. It is nigh impossible for modern, city-raised people to understand what life was like for such impoverished people who, as several have said, hunted for meat in the woods and fields. I'm glad that you felt comfortable enough with this place to have come to share your question. By extension ... many people who live in other parts of the world look at life very differently than we, and I think that at times it would be well if we were to sit down with them to learn of their ways - and to share our viewpoints. It seems to me quite likely that we would find that we had more in common than appeared at first, as I think we came to realize regarding this situation. When I was a kid, some folks in town had a metal-lined wooden box that looked something like modern fridges and men drove horse-drawn boxy wagons with tons of ice in them down the street, carrying a block into many houses to put into the top compartment. We on the farm pumped cold water by hand from the well in the yard to put into a pan in the basement, where we stored butter, meat and other perishables in bowls floating in the water, changing it as it warmed. Within a few years, they built refrigerators. Within a few years after that, they were building them to last for 40 years ... now they build them to last for 10 years. I've heard that for the world's people to live in the fashion to which we've become accustomed (in about 3 generations) ... we'd need the resources of four planets similar to that on which we live. We are hugely wasteful. We have a lot to learn from those people who lived more simply. And as more jobs are shifting overseas, our descendants are going to be learning them. Several areas of the seas that used to teem with fish are now almost barren - we didn't practise conservation. Our kids and grandkids will suffer the consequences. We still have about the cheapest food in the world ... but one doubts whether that will last much longer. Currently, many thousands of U.S. and Canadian families are about half a dozen paycheques from being on the street ... but we've forgotten how to forage for food, as our forebears did, out of necessity. We are much more brittle, less resourceful and adaptable. Good wishes for a really fine week ahead. ole joyful...See More10 years of a single life...and
Comments (15)Thanks satine - yeah, I think we agree but your thoughts were expressed in a lot fewer words. Missing your hubby is probably pretty tough. When I lost my daughter, my closest friend was so supportive and we kept talking about how it is such a sad thing to loose a child. She had lot her husband very suddely when her chilren were young. That to me is the most tragic lost. Yes, it's tough to have lost my 18yo, and I struggle still. But to me, you kind of know you will loose your child when they grow up and start their own family. But you spend your life cultivating your relationship with you spouse or SO. You become special intimate (not nec. the nightime intimacy) friends. When you loose that it has to be pretty devastaing. I am sorry that you have to go through this type of loss. I know others here are also in the same situation. My heart goes out to you. sayhello - I think that you are right as well. But my post acknowleges that fact - you spend time enjoying life, family and friends. But there is a different type of lonliness that I think is from not having a love interest. Your family and friends are there to love, care and share with you, but when they all go home, there is something different that goes on when you have that from a love interest. When I read the thread before my previous post, it hit me that there seemed to be so much lonliness here. We try to fill up the void with everything under the sun - there is nothing wrong with that, but still I believe that having another half so to speak would benefit us all. We condition ourselves to adjust to being alone, sometimes so much so that we appear to be satisfied with it. But truly if we let go and allow that to happen, I bet I would see/feel more smiles here. Mind you, even those of us that are alone due to loss, continue to have a love interest in the lost partner. Part of that is grief and longing that sometimes never goes away. Again, just my thoughts....See More10 years ago, I saw the worst of Americans
Comments (20)I experienced hatred that day too when I went outside to tell the workers who were building the house next door. To my utter disgust and horror the new "neighbour" laughed and said she was happy that this happened and that the Americans deserved it. That was the first time in my life that I uttered the words "I wish you would go back to your own country" She was from Yugoslavia and said the Americans did nothing to help them in their time of need. I can still remember that laugh. Anne...See MoreAnne Walker
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