I hate this too. The raffle prize is usually something they want the winner to give back too!

Never heard of doing that!

Aldi's has diapers for $5. I bought a pack for someone with a new baby and told her she should try them and see if she likes them... if not, then she didn't waste any money at least, and I wouldn't care since they were only $5.

I forget how many were in a pack, but she loved them!

why don't they just have a diaper shower -- that way you just bring diapers and it's done. It's sort of like asking you to bring TWO presents? Do I understand that correctly?

I was going to say Aldi.

How about, "Ooops, so sorry I forgot!" Seriously though, just factor in how much you want your total expense to be. Cost of diapers + gift =total.

There should be no need for you to spend more than you want to. If money is an issue than return the gift and buy something less expensive.

I like that you are giving homemade things and really didn't need to also buy something in addition to those gifts.

They seem to do this at most showers around here. I just feel this is in poor taste. I will check out Aldis. The gifts are usually something small.

No need to explain. Just do not bring any. I don't. Nobody ever said a thing.

Gawd, I hate baby and bridal showers! Games, having to watch someone open 50 presents. I could go on but won't....

I've never heard of that before.

I attended five baby showers in the past year and all requested guests to bring a package of diapers for a raffle. About a 1/3 did not participate at each shower and it is was one of two reasons, either they forgot or felt they had spend enough on a gift from the registry. It was not an issue with hostess or mom to be. At one shower the requested diapers could only be from a certain company and they were expensive.

Wow, I've never heard of such a thing. Apart from the gall of the host expecting diapers AND a gift, I just hate to see everyone using disposable diapers. Cotton diapers from a service is really so easy.

I got a invite the other day too, and they want a pack of diapers for a raffle gift. Also a baby book instead of a card with something written inside. Things sure are changing.

Oh, you can get a tiny pack of diapers at Dollar tree. :^ )

I agree with others that you should not feel obligated to bring diapers in addition to your gift. Just ignore that part and don't participate in the raffle. Don't apologize or bring attention to your actions and no one will notice or care.

I've never heard of it around here. I've been to quite a few baby showers in the last few years. Most new mothers either use disposables or the new really expensive fitted cloth diapers or pocket cloth ones that cost around 15.00 each. I haven't seen a baby in regular cloth diapers in years. Any cloth diapers received out of package like diaper cakes end up being used as burp clothes or dust rags.

I buy a cheaper gift if I am expected to bring diapers for a raffle. If I won I would keep the gift card. It is a little greedy to think it should be given back, after all it was called a raffle.

When they ask for a recipe for a bridal shower or books for the baby etc., I never bring any of them. I buy my choice of a gift and that's it. I find it very manipulative to put people in that position.

I've been to plenty of baby showers but invited to none like described. It seems like most moms-to-be are registering as for wedding gifts these days. Even if not using the registry, reading through their choices certainly gives one a good idea of the colors, theme of the nursery and how they envision dressing baby.

Watchme, one place recently my attention was called to a need for old fashioned cloth diapers was our Clothes Bank. I was dropping off some things and a young woman was there inquiring about diapers with disposable's costs adding up. Seems there is a waiting list there for the cloth.

I guess I'm the odd one out on this subject. First of all, I really dislike showers, and only go if I feel it is a "have-to", like a family member. But personally, I think the diaper raffle is a wonderful idea! The only time I've seen it done it was definitely a volunteer type request, very obviously the hostess and Mommy-to-be did NOT feel bringing diapers was necessary. I think it was worded something like "A small package of diapers will 'buy' a chance to win a $25.00 gift certificate to Bed Bath and Beyond".

One of the things I intensely dislike about showers is the stupid 'games' and the dumb (and usually useless) prizes. So I do like it when the 'prizes' are a little nicer, useful things that are then given to the guest of honor. It makes a lot of sense to me, and certainly beats getting a bunch of 'stuff' that are duplications and/or neither needed or wanted, which is so often the case at bridal showers, especially.

Rusty

Why not a recipe, yayagal? I would have thought that was free and easy to do.

They do that too around here too, Susie and they sometimes tell you what brand they want to use! I don't like this either.

Sue

If it was me I'd take the gift you already planned to. I wouldn't mention the dispers, no excuse is required by you.

I hear you, but at the same time I like that the guess work is taken out of the equation.

I remember one time my DH wanted me to help pick a nice gift for a work friend. When I showed him what I selected he said, "Green!" He didn't care for the color, but that is what they chose. Win/win.

Seems gone are the days of suprises and fun filled time gifting to others at special times like this.