Is there such a thing as a mother of the bride shower/party?
Amber Winborn
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Comments (34)No one here will be able to find my registry at BB&B, as I registered under Kevin's name, and I'm pretty sure that no one here knows our last name. I decided to change the party invitation to say "Open House", which I think is not the same as "House Warming", and certainly does not have the connotations of gifts. So it's simply an "open house" party to orient my friends to where we live now, and it will be very casual. I've been very sick for the past three days with the flu and did not go to work on Tuesday and Wednesday. I had to go in Thursday morning for a half day, but did not have the strength to go today. I had thought about canceling the party altogether, but Kevin had already invited friends from where he works. I had no idea that BB&B had a separate website for California!! It is a very popular store here, and we've already bought a lot of stuff there, including our new stainless steel garbage can for the kitchen. We had to get a nice one because it's in a prominent area of the kitchen and visible from both the living room and dining room. For those of you unable to attend, Kevin will create a video that he will post on YouTube. As for comparing the cost of a wedding to the cost of a housewarming party - what about the expense of just getting into the house? And it is my first house. Suzie, I hope you do have a nice housewarming party, and I was in the same situation as you - I didn't think of having the party until people asked me when I was going to have it. As you can probably tell, I like to be accommodating to my friends, although at first I really didn't want to have the party, since it will take quite a bit of effort to get everything ready in time. However, Kevin said his friends were really anxious to see the house, and so I agreed to have it. I won't cancel the registry, but will keep it very private and only share it with those who ask for it. Some people are gift challenged and appreciate getting help. I do feel better now that I have sent the invitations as I did for the Open House and no mention of a registry. It didn't seem right to me from the beginning, but I really have no experience with this, since I've never been invited to a housewarming party and don't know what is expected or not expected. That's why I had to ask. It didn't seem right to me either when I was told that I should register, but having had no experience, I had nothing else to go on than what my friends here had told me. I think I'm on track now - thanks for all the help! Lars...See MoreNewest Mother of the Bride Thread Update
Comments (7)It's funny, I grew up with a mom who always had her clothing altered but somehow I have never thought of it. Quite a few of the dresses were close but no cigar........ and this one I kept coming back to (and other than the no jacket ).. as I said the neckline was really ok but I am well endowed and just didn't want any cleavage to show. When I took it to the dressmaker, she at first just suggested raising the shoulders. Then we looked a bit more and she ended up doing a lot more (as I said, the armhole tweaking and the bra snaps so the cap sleeves can be more extended over the shoulders).... but I know it will look like perfection. The dress was quite reasonable, so even adding on quite a bit for the alterations it is still palatable. for shoes, I am at this point going to try for a strappy sort of wedge (for comfort, and for the lawn)... in either silver, navy, or some other metallic....... it will have a lot to do with comfort. I don't really expect to wear a purse much, but I am leaning towards using a really pretty beaded evening purse from my mom which is white with some pastel flowers. I know it's not a perfect match, but I think it will feel nice for me to have her purse at the wedding. ( She' passed in 2004). At least that is what I think for now....See MoreWhat does 'support and love' on the bride's big day REALLY mean?
Comments (18)Hi dana gardener - I am wondering, what do you want to do? Do you really want to go or do you feel that it is an obligation? Even if it is an obligation it doesn't matter as long as you strongly desire to be there for someone you Love and want to support and share in the person's special day. This is what counts. However, if you cannot afford this trip with all the expenses involved, even if you want to be there, then I would express that in a note to the Bride with a gift that you can afford. No one should feel "forced" to attend when it will be so costly to do so. You may feel bad for not going if you truly desire to share in this Blessed event but you should also feel free and not guilty if you decide not to go because of the financial, emotional, etc. stress that it will cause you. No matter what decision you make it is your right to do so whether you go or not....See MoreMother of the bride question
Comments (27)Is it possible the groom’s parents are already aware of your daughter’s anxieties, etc? If so, they may already be prepared for a backseat approach and allow your daughter to plan a wedding that suits her—as it should be no matter the circumstances. If not, I hope the groom will stand firm if his mom tries to overstep. A small wedding can be delightful and more meaningful IMO. My DD got married two years ago. She vacillated between a large and small wedding. They wanted to get married in the town they live in—-she went to college there and stayed, he moved there after college. She finally decided on a small wedding because the venues she liked for a large wedding all had a minimum charge for food/beverage/venue. At least 75% of the guest list was out of towners and there was no way of knowing how many would come—-she could end up paying for 100 guests even if only 50 attended. They got married at an upscale restaurant in a private area with 35 family and friends. There was a bar and passed appetizers for a short while as people arrived. There was an ”aisle” for her to walk down with her father with everyone seated at their dinner table during the brief ceremony. Then toasts followed by dinner and dessert. She made arrangements for the party to continue at a nice bar down the street from the hotel where everyone was staying—-most came for at least a bit. There was also a casual meet n greet Friday night and Sunday brunch for the out of towners. It was very nice all around. Some of my nieces and nephews have married in the last few years and personally I enjoyed the smaller, more low key and intimate weddings more than the big affairs....See Moregellchom
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