Help a sceptical jerk talk to her family this Christmas
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Comments (150)Thank you, Laura... such wonderful sentiments! :-) Our weather has been crazy, too... but we half expected it. Last year, we were already laying out soaker hoses and starting to water...and this year, we've gotten so much rain that we're completely saturated! We're just now able to get in and cut grass, and talk about tall! It's hard on the mowers, I'm sure, but what can you do?! If it's grass, it has to be kept mowed at least semi-regularly... and if it's garden beds, they must be kept weeded or the grasses, thistles and other nasties take over! So, we're darned if we do and darned if we don't! Mother's Day was nice... calls from my kids, and the husband made a nice dinner... while I spent the day relaxing, for the most part. There are certain chores that must be done regardless of what day it is, like cleaning and feeding dogs and other animals, but that's no big deal... I have it down to a science! ;-) I finally got the old guy to help me get photos off my camera, so I thought I'd share a few this morning... Here's a mama and her twins... My very best mouser... I call her Vixen! The next generation of excellent mousers... one of Vixen's 3 little ones... Walking from the shade garden area toward the new rose arbor... A young Peony Tree in the dappled shade garden... notice the rambler rose runners everywhere on the ground! Closeup of the flower from the Peony Tree... Another Peony Tree in the front yard... north side... And this is a Trillium that opened white and is turning a pale pink shade. It's among a patch of purple flowered hybrid Trillium I planted several years ago... you can see the mottled leaves of the hybrid... I didn't plant the white one, though... And finally, the first of the Irises are starting! I hope you enjoyed a walk around the yards with me... stick around as all the roses begin blooming and other perennials begin to color the gardens a wonderful rainbow of scented color! Thanks, Al... I can finally view Youtube, but the monitor I'm using has no sound on board... for a girl with a technological genius as a husband, I'm always the last to get upgraded! Would you believe I'm still using Windows XP?! I desperately need an upgrade to Windows 7, which should be coming shortly... when he has time to upgrade me. :-) It's kind of like being the plumber with the leaky toilet handle that sticks, or the barber that doesn't have time to cut his own hair... when you're in the business, you're last in line! :-) It looks to be another gorgeous day... sunny and hot with strong humidity... I may spend some time weeding and edging today, instead of killing myself cutting grass! Hope everyone has a lovely day! And... Happy Gardening!...See MoreWhen talking doesn't help?
Comments (15)OMG, you must be the person who bought my old house!!! our neighbors were hopelessly intrusive. husband in early stages of alzheimer's (yes, it was sad). he would set up a lawn chair smack in the middle of his backyard and literally watch DH mow the lawn. the wife would relentlessly come out to chit-chat while we were engaged in hard yard labor. we laid all the sod in a 1/2 acre backyard on our own. when it started to rain on us and we just kept going, she had the nerve to come stand over us and say "you two will NEVER get this finished." once, the husband chased down my DH who was backing out of the driveway to go to work. DH rolled down the window to ask what he needed. the guy asked permission to hunt the ducks in our backyard (ducks were all in his head). I'm a loner and even though I am with people all day at work and many people consider me their "best friend" in the workplace, friendly and out-going, when I get home, leave...me...alone! mimi, i can SO relate! my garden is my place to come home from a day of minimal progress at the office and MAKE A DENT IN SOMETHING! at work, i constantly have to be "on." i am chipper, kind, and exceedingly paitent with people. when i come home, i don't want to have to "work at it" anymore. i want to be alone with my plants--they don't expect me to be "polite company." LOL my current complaint about neighbors is the annoying people behind us who insist on leaving their floodlight on until sometimes 11:00 at night. they are also exceedingly loud people. we call them the "loudniks." seriously, i think the wife has banned the husband from talking on the phone in the house b/c he is so d*** loud! the worst is when their cousins come over and the kids are outside playing all night with the adults sitting around on the patio talking. i mean, how late is too late for kids to be outside screaming "Bubba, look at me! Look at MEEEEEEEEE! Hey BUBBBBBBBBA!!!! Look what I can do! LOOOOOOOOOOKKKK!" Is 10:30 PM too late for that? I mean, I wouldn't dare compain that kids are outside yelling and playing during the day--I mean, geez that's what a neighborhood is about. But c'mon, when can I expect to sit out on my porch and drink my tea without the screaming and blaring spotlights?!?! gotta love neighbors. maybe one day i will save up enough to buy a farm--or buy new neighbors ;-)...See MoreGetting Mom to Accept Help from her Aide when Showering
Comments (16)I'm very fortunate that Mum will accept help from people, but she suffered a stroke and couldn't "work" her left side, so help was REQUIRED. And she was aware enough to know it. She has a tub in her bathroom. When she came home after close to 10 weeks in the hospital and two rehabs. we'd changed out the shower head for a shower massage, gotten a shower seat, installed handrails, put the arms on the toilet. I hired a woman to come thrice weekly to assist her with bathing. She went from the strict supervision of the NH to a private aid and there was NO FUSS. In fact, she LOVES the attention. Try the bath again and tell her it's a luxury to have someone help you bathe... all the great queens throughout history have had bath maidens... ;) The woman who comes to help Mum is very nice... chitty-chatty, efficient, and very patient. Whenever there is a Monday holiday I offer it to her. If she takes it, I pay her for it. She's earned that. We got off to a bit of a rocky start, but once I reminded her of what I expected, she did it. Reliability is worth a lot....See MoreChristmas Family Drama
Comments (33)Magdalena, I totally see your point and I think it is entirely justified. I have been thinking about this post, though, because I have a slightly different view. If I were you, I would attend a holiday gathering at your Mom's house, with your sister and nephew and brother and whomever. I would try not to judge how your Mother or sister choose to deal with your brother -- they are struggling too. But I would hate to see this person (who has already caused so much destruction) damage your relationship with your Mom and sister. So I would not host him, but I would not shun a party he attends. I also would not force DH or anyone else to attend. I would go and try to make the best of it, try not to make it about him. You can't control and your are not responsible for your brother's drinking. He could "go to a bar get drunk then drive home and kill someone" any day of the week. It doesn't really relate to the holiday. You should still stick to your guns about blocking his number, etc., and you should. One, to protect your happiness. Two, because the kind of help he is seeking from your isn't what he really needs. He needs to decide to be sober and only then should you help --- if you want. Again, you are totally justified in handling it the way you want. I am just trying to think through what approach might make the most people the happiest in the end - including you....See MoreMtnRdRedux
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