From the parental POV, let me tell you what could explain their behavior. Most people love their kids and experience sadness when they leave the nest. It's even more traumatic when parents find out (or not at all) details of their adult children's lives. The more enlightened parents manage to keep their mouths shut, suffer in silence and quickly get over it, as the reality that their kids have their own lives, SEPARATE from parents' life, sets in. Unfortunately, there are many parents out there that have a hellacious time dealing with that separation.

Your parents are not really mad at you, it seems they're not dealing well with your adulthood. Please think hard about what I said, it will make it easier to increase your patience in dealing with their decidedly wrong behavior. Also, in a subtle manner, scale down your interaction with them to drop your own stress level. Be careful that they don't see it as retaliation as relationship will take turn for the worse.

we are only hearing your side of story. If your parents are freaking out b/c your BF is what they consider a poor choice, well that changes the game a bit...

wishing you the best

What does she yell at you about? How long have your father and step Mom been married? Please make sure you are behaving as an adult - go to work on time every day, do your own laundry and dishes, pay your bills on time, keep your living area clean, live within your means and do not make extravagant purchases and do not borrow money from them, or anyone else. If you live at home offer to pay rent - as an adult you should pay rent.

Oops oops, kmarchese might be right. If you're still at home, their hostility might have nothing to do with BF but perhaps your lack of cooperation as an ADULT.

I'm still at home I help them pay about $220 every month I have a job I go to five days a week I do my own laundry and I do my own dishes and sometimes there's

I am very glad to know that you are behaving responsibly. Maybe it is time to find an apartment? Do you have girlfriends that would be good roommates? I have 2 daughters and they both moved out after college. They are always welcome to move back in with me if needed.

How old is your step Mom? Do you and she have common interests or do things together? Maybe get a pedicure together or go for coffee or something to build your relationship.

I'm not the only one my step brother and my sister live with my parents too. And me and my sister are talking about saving so we can move out and we are planning on going back to school so we can have a better job working in realty does not cut it anymore.

My stepdaughter (who I love dearly, btw) is a just a couple of years older than you, works retail (so a relatively low paying job) but lives fully independently. She has a roommate, just purchased a 'new' used car to replace an older one with issues and has diabetes so some pretty substantial medical expenses. Plus she lives in WA state with a pretty high cost of living. Yet she manages. Sometimes a bit of financial struggle is necessary when you are first starting out - it was for me also but I managed too (and I moved out my first year of college, for which I paid my own way through 100%!!). It can be done and is generally considered the first step of becoming a real adult. I think you just need to develop some backbone and get the job done!!

I also have some reservations about the relationship my girl is in and other than telling her - once - what my concerns are, she is on her own. Her choices, her mistakes, if that's what they turn out to be. We all make them and hopefully, learn from them.

As some others have said, it seems that tension may be created when one is an adult living at home. The times I have seen the work best is when children lived independently for a few years, but then came back (boomarangs) for grad school, to pay off loans or save up, etc. Both of you are probably having growing pains, and some seperation may help, if it's possible.