Boy do I feel dumb. My husband & I have been watching this monarch eat our butterfly bush & didn't realize that we have a milkweed growing with our butterfly bush. I didn't plant it there! They are both in the same container. Of course the monarch is eating the milkweed, not the butterfly bush. Thanks everyone for responding to my post, I do feel dumb! Becky Image link:

Oh Dream... I'm sorry you learned the hard way (like most of us who did). Poor little doggie gets blamed for it all. LOL I would have never known had I not purchased this HUGE heavy deep (read $$$) styro circle for a flower arrangement for my Dads headstone. I didn't like the green poking through so weilded out the blue spray paint.... u know the rest. lol Boy was my Mother maaad when she realized it was going to be iffy whether I would have the arrangement finished for decoration day as planned or not. My Husband is another smarty who told me "well I could have told you that was going to happen". pffft , Should have then!! NOT could have. lol

Don't know if you have access to DeWils cabinets (http://www.dewils.com/) but they offer a white, glazed finish and a primed finish ready for paint. Both are painted maple. IIRC, the glaze is a 30% upcharge. It's not a heavy glaze as some are but it's a bit more yellow than we want so we're buying primed cabinets and having them painted. I haven't received a quote yet but it can't be more than the quote I received to sand, prime, paint and glaze my GO cabinets. In fact, it should be less since it saves 2 steps. I'm figuring it will be a wash or a bit cheaper than buying their glazed cabinets. Becktheeng purchased primed DeWils cabinets and had them painted. Here is a link that might be useful: becktheeng's finished kitchen

Wow! This really takes the cake. It sounds as if the parents ran the entire show and the bride had little or no say in anything. I agree that the woman was startled and searching for something to say, as she was totally surprised that someone not invited would actually bring a gift. It is absolutely wrong and totally tacky to invite anyone to a shower without inviting them to the wedding. We had a similar experience with our recently married daughter's mother-in-law, who invited 170 people to the rehearsal dinner, nearly half of whom weren't invited to the wedding (we had "limited" her wedding invitations to 150!!!) Many of them were her husband's employees, most of whom had the good sense to decline to attend the rehearsal dinner, displaying better sense than she did. (She also had the nerve to have a gift table at the dinner!) I never ceased to be amazed at the bad taste exhibited by some people when it comes to weddings.