Yes, being put on the spot sure makes it a challenge but they way I see it is, if someone is willing to put me on the spot, then they are also willing to accept the consequences. Or IOW, why lie to someone to save their feelings when by putting you on the spot, they obviously had no regard for yours? In the end, its you who will be left holding the bag and feeling guilty not them. Years ago I was always willing to compromise myself for the benefit of others and would have done the same thing Pesky did. However, as I matured, I realized how terrible it always made me feel and that it was not the right thing to do. No matter what the circumstances were I would always come out holding the shorter end of the stick and people were always going to be willing to take advantage of that. Once I started responding with my true feelings, not only did I feel better as a person, but I was also respected more and found I was no longer put in those situations as frequently. That's also when I learned that it's not what you say, it's how you say it that matters and the answer of no can be said kindly. As individuals we need to be true to who we are as a person first regardless of who or what we're dealing with. For me, being honest is just part of that.

hmmm...how are things going? What a loaded question. My doors are still not painted. Well, the MBR ones are almost done. I have these doors primed. I've now been in my house since 8/04/05, so just over a year. I have had boxes stacked to the ceiling in my children's study and our office. I couldn't stand another day of these boxes in my office with no furniture, so I finally got them out and they are now in my foyer. Shelves are up in the children's study and almost ready to go. I bought new office furniture and am a bit excited about getting it set up. All 30 or so boxes in the foyer are starting to dwindle down now. There are files and books that I have to go through. There is no way I can keep all of this, but I cannot just through these files out. They are from two businesses, four children, over 20 years in the military, college, and 9 years of home schooling, etc. Most of these boxes have been in storage for over 8 years. My DR still has 8 doors almost finished for my MBR. It's too hot to paint here in Florida and way too humid, so I have my DR floor covered up so I paint inside. DH and I don't like it, but we don't have much choice. I'm glad you wrote because I am going to do a weekly goal sheet. I love lists anyway! This is my goal that by next week the MBR doors will be done and installed. Hopefully, I'll start on the kitchen doors after that to finish fine sanding, priming, and then paint. It's overwhelming....I have no help to speak of either. Add to all of this the fact that I do the high school band web site, news emails, and volunteer. And my mother has been sick, a close friend is dying of brain cancer, mother had surgery yesterday...and OH>>> an almost 21 year old and a 26 year old still living at home...along with my 13 & 14 year old kiddos. The 20 year old registered for college and left a note for Dad to pay. Then she took off for Virginia for a week with her brother and did not tell us until she was packing. Dad refused to pay the college bill and she's already missed her first classes this week. She has medical issues herself and will have no medical insurance if she is not enrolled full time in college after November. She doesn't care. Darling Hubby is fed up. I'm fed up. My kiddos are slap spoiled rotten and it's all my doing. The 26 year old made the President's list in college this last term and wouldn't even share his grades. He's been belligerent and distant since he came home from Iraq. They pay no rent and seem irritated and angry at me if I don't do more for them. Seeing no cabinet doors still makes me feel like a huge failure in all areas of my life. I'm irritated and overweight. I honestly do so much for everyone and it's not enough. How do I stop? I need help even writing a new mission statement. I think it should start with: Help my man-child and woman-child pack their bags and take away their house keys. You know what? I just smiled for the first time in a week! I might be on to something! :D You know, I haven't said much here because I haven't had much good to say. I'm really going to try to focus on getting the doors done as soon as I wade through these boxes. I kid you not, I'm thinking of just burning these files. I've already ruined a shredder. I hate paperwork. The only 'good' thing is they're all organized. I'll keep you posted.

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As a follow up and further example. A few months ago I read a thread here that was discussing weird births. It reminded me of a story I had read maybe 10 years ago. Young couple has ID twin girls. Couple decides to have one more baby. They conceive quickly but at the initial ultrasound they discover they are pregnant with triplets. Turns out that they have one set of ID twin girls and one set of ID triplet boys. The odds are so rare, doctors can't even calculate them. There is one news article about the family when the triplets are born. There is only one other blip about them that shows up. They allowed the local news to do a "day in the life of" feature when the triplets are 9 months old. (This was the original clip I saw 10 years ago) Since then, no mention of them; they move to a smaller town and they actively avoid any spotlight. But I'm curious. How are the twins and triplets now? Are they all still healthy? Are the parents still together? What could life possibly be like with 5 children so close in age who also happen to look alike? An initial search only pulls up mentions of the original article on message boards. I couldn't remember their names, only the rarity of ID twins plus ID triplets so that was where my search started. The local news site doesn't have publicly searchable info from decade old story blips. But...one of those mommy/pregnancy message board users had made a post about the family at the time and copy pasted just enough info from the original story that I now have a first and last name. I immediately turn to Facebook and search mom and dad's names and come up with nothing. I google search dad's name plus state of birth and find a white page listing in a tiny town, population 2000. I look up towns name and what county they are in and proceed to the county public tax records which show that dad and mom are listed as owning a property at Xx street since 2005. Public tax records list moms full name, including her middle name. I resume my Facebook search using her middle name and last name plus any common variation and/or nickname and lo and behold, I find a profile match. The profile pic is of 2 young teenage ID girls with 3 pre-teen ID boys. Hmmm, seems like a match. Mom has her page fairly locked down, no link to dad but there is an updated profile pic of the vacation they took last fall and the picture is of 7 people standing in a circle, only feet showing. So, it seems from my cursory research that mom and dad didn't want to be in the limelight, moved to a REALLY tiny town with a population under 5K and while dad has no social media profile, mom does, but only under a nickname. Still, from a private life perspective, I was able to locate them and find fairly current pics of the kids. All that because I was curious about a follow up on their family and health and how they adjusted to having 5 kids under the age of 4. They only appeared in public media TWICE over a decade ago!! By all accounts they seem to have done everything possible to NOT be found but...they were publicly reported once a decade ago and mom still takes part in social media under a nickname and I found them. It's a good thing I don't work for the media!;) This was probably my most intensive "search" and it took me a grand total of less than an hour of actively searching. All done from my phone when I was taking breaks because the kids were driving me nuts. ;)