Please help-what to do about 19 yr old daughter
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My 19yr old son commited suicide
Comments (15)I am so, so, sorry for your loss. We would love to hear all about Justin and see a picture of him also. Please feel free to tell us all about him when you feel like it. I too, lost a 19 year old daughter.I know you probably feel like you can't live another 5 minutes. I promise you, as time goes on it will get a little easier. If you would like to meet my 19 year old who is in heaven with your son, click on the site below. Lu Here is a link that might be useful: Christin Cosby Memorial Web Site...See Moremy 3 yr old daughter will not mind
Comments (8)Threats NEVER work with kids, ACTIONS work. Children of 3 are pretty stubborn, but #1 they are NOT smarter than the parent, and #2 they are not in charge, YOU are (You are the parent after all. You tell the child to do something once (ONE command, not ..pick up your room, make your bed and get dressed, they won't "hear" all of that), and it has to be "fairly" simple, and the expectations on your part have to be fairly simple. Get dressed. When you're dressed we will have breakfast. Now follow through. Temper tantrum. So what, go on with your life, but NO BREAKFAST until she's dressed. Do NOT hit your sister or you WILL sit on the naughty spot for 3 minutes. You hit your sister, you will now sit in the naughty spot for 3 minutes (and you keep putting her on it and re-starting the timer until she is on for 3 minutes), Yes the first 3-5 times will he hell, but it will get better when she realizes YOU are in charge, not her. Vickey-MN...See MorePlease help--what to do with untreated 3-yr-old cedar deck?
Comments (4)Thanks for your responses. I looked at the website and the R-A-D looks like a great product. However, I have some concerns... (1) What about my Trex? I would think that it would be quite bad for the cleaner and brightener to get on it (i.e., wouldn't it stain it?). It seems like it would be completely impossible to spray all the wood surfaces (e.g., including the support beams under the Trex and the stairs sides around the Trex steps) without getting it on the Trex. (2) If the Trex weren't an issue, I'd be concerned about getting the product on the area under the deck, which is pea gravel and my young kids' play area. Considering the effect it can have on vegetation, I'd worry about having the chemicals all over the pea gravel there. So, would power washing be my best bet?...See Moreboyfriend's 16 yr old daughter
Comments (4)I can relate. I have a adult SD now 26 years old, however, when she was 17-18 years old she sounds pretty much the same as your BF 16 year old daughter. I too felt she was not learning responsibilty and that she thought money grew on trees. She often threw money away on non necessary items and daddy picked up the bill, paying her credit card bills. DH over the last 7 years has been slowly weaning SD off daddy's pocket book. SD keeps attempted to get money from daddy but lately daddy says he can lend it to her but she has to pay it back. It seems to be working. Remember she is now 26 years old. It takes time and it has been a hard 7 years for me (and DH) watching these stepkids continuely attempt to get money from daddy to pay for their fun spending. DH admits it is his fault for always just giving in and paying for everything even when he knew it was wrong or not in their best interest. I think the OP had it right when she mentioned the divorce guilt and just wanting to he a good Dad by giving out money. About the hanging on BF. Yes, my SD did the same thing and even gave DH a picture of her hanging on him for a Christmas present. I just blew it off and it has decreased over the years. SD occassionally does it now but I have noticed DH is not as comfortable with it as when she was younger. He too feels she is getting to old for this kind of behavior. DH gives her a hello or goodby hugs but the hanging on daddy has decreased. Hope this helps. Just remember you have a few years to go with this. It will not go away if you marry. I know in our pre-marriage counceling the councelor asked DH (fiance at the time) when he planned to stop financial support for SD. The councelor said I had a right to know this. DH responded after 4 years of college. I occassionally reminded DH of this. Maybe some counceling or asking BF future plans for financial support of his daughter may help you decide if you want to stay in this relationship. Good luck....See Morerobo (z6a)
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