I wouldn't care about any of the examples you listed. As long as they aren't happening all the time, I could tolerate it. It also depends on the people causing these noises. Do you like them? It sounds like they are making an effort to not disturb others. The only things that annoys me is constant barking, renovation sounds late at night or early in the morning, loud music all the time, or frequent parties. Otherwise, I understand I share space with other people and need to be tolerant of their actions.

The only one that annoys me really is if a neighbors dog does bark and you can hear it in your apartment regardless of which room you are in. Although it might only be once a week, it often lasts on and off for a few hours and requires playing music or the tv in order to drown it out enough it's not a nuisance.

If it was daily it would definitely warrant a conversation letting them know it can be heard, but I realize I need to have some tolerance, so no one is perfectly quiet all the time in a shared space.

Yeah it's hard to fully relax in your space when you never know when the barking will start or stop again. If the dog barks non-stop it is obviously in some sort of distress - owners need to figure out how to fix that , both for the dogs benefit and the neighbours.

Hmm that's a tough one because there are a lot variables that go into it. What type of noise and when. There are also a lot of issues that (to me) are more bothersome than noise. Also apartment living is about compromise and consideration. Don't make or allow loud irritating noises especially at off hours (8pm-8am ish) and hopefully your neighbours are just as considerate.

Our first apartment was probably a better community noise-wise. In our first apartment we were on the 3rd floor and the couple below us would fight so loudly that it would wake me up 3-5 times a week. Screaming yelling and also throwing things and (I'm speculating) punching the walls. The walls would shake in our apartment above them. Because of the nature of the noise I complained about them frequently and called the cops on numerous occasions. When they were evicted the landlord mentioned to me that the apartment was so damaged she was not surprised that I could hear/feel it.

After the fighting couple was the second couple- the woman who was very sweet and the man who was slightly less agreeable. They had a yappy puppy who would bark endlessly whenever they left it alone. It wasn't so bad during the day but when they would go out for date night (2-3 times a month) he would yap during the same times I was putting my oldest (then not quite 2) to sleep. The yapping would wake him up every 20 minutes or so until they came back. I just talked to them about it and we agreed that they would keep him in his crate on the opposite corner of the house when they went out. Worked fine for us. However, afterwards the couple (obviously soured) was very quick to complain or bang on the walls if we did anything loud. Once I dropped something out of the fridge and they banged on the wall for like 30 seconds.

There wasn't much other noteworthy noises at that complex- we lived there for 3 years.

The people who are currently next to us (we share bedroom walls) have a young baby who cries a couple times throughout the night. I don't see this as an issue because it's not like the baby cries endlessly for hours and even if the baby did I would probably just switch bedrooms so that were not next to them. That is not something I would complain about. That is apart of community living in my opinion.

The people cati-corner and on the second floor ( so not directly above us but above and over one) have a large hound dog who they frequently leave only on the patio. It bays ENDLESSLY. She starts up about 5 am when the army guys are going to work and ends around 7am and does it sporadically throughout the day as people come and go. Because they practically let the dog live out there(food, water, kennel) it shows (at least to me) that they aren't making a real effort to stop the dog from doing it. So that is something I would complain about.

You also have to take into considerations people's schedules. The lady upstairs is a 1st shift worker so she is up around 6pm and then starts her day. Washing machine going, vacuuming etc at 9pm at night. It used to bother me until I realized why she did all this stuff late at night. However she does not do anything loud later than that.

So all and all I think it's acceptable noise as long as it's not outrageous and the person make a conscious effort to be considerate of the community. I don't think it's ok to have a loud party at all in an apartment. That is not fair to your neighbours. That is not something that is everyday life and is avoidable. Our neighbours have their parties at our clubhouse, they have a large indoor space, access to a kitchen, bathroom and also all the amenities. The clubhouse is not near any buildings and doesn't disturb anyone even if the music is loud. I think that is perfectly fine ( and I am the closest building).

Something that I am less likely to be understanding about and complain quickly is actually how people care for community areas. People not picking up dog waste, trash, cleaning out their car and leaving the trash in the parking lot. We also have a little group of kids who destroy areas of the complex which is really aggravating. They take trash from the dumpsters and throw them down the hill where they end up in the overflow for the lake. Its nasty. Especially when they get into the trash from remodeled apartments( fridge pieces, toilets etc). They also tear down pieces of the playground, dock etc.

Long response I know! I had a lot to say on the subject lol!

@Julie Thanks for the comment. You hope that neighbors can be reasonable, but it's hard to know how people react.

I think with a baby, you expect that they will cry, and you can't do much to stop them (assuming you're doing the right things for babies, feeding them, comforting, diaper changes, etc) in most cases.

Dogs I think are different in that good owners can make and effort to try and curb the barking; crate training if they get them as a puppy to get them used to time alone, talking with a dog trainer or vet if they persist past that, leaving or radio on for company, frequent walking etc.

20 min of thumping exercise between 6pm and 9pm = OK. After 9pm = NOT OK.

Letting your children scream/whine/cry for more than 15 minutes at any time = NOT OK. If it continues over an hour and you don't answer your door when I knock (out of shame?), I may contemplate calling child welfare...

letting your children play in the hallways where we can all hear them whine, scream, stomp and smash things = NOT OK

Music coming through the walls quietly - OK before 9pm, try not to after that (though if it's really quiet I'll put in earplugs cause its not your fault. Just don't blast it if your living room is adjacent to my bedroom)

Loud obnoxious partying and swearing - I'll give you 4 per year (I figure 2 birthdays, Xmas/new years, and a random party. It happens. Just not EVERY weekend).

Loud sex = NO. If more than one neighbor complains, stuff a sock in it! If you put a rubber on the guy's parts that often, you can afford to put rubber under your bedframe too!

Barking pets = NO.

Those are my biggies on the list. Reasons for them being on the list?
- I, and/or my friends, have all needed sleep at odd hours of the day. I know we have some night sleepers in our building, so I try to limit anything noisy to short periods, preferably when I know they just got home or are going to work.

I'll also add we've put foam-deadening under all our big speakers, and under our fridge, and make sure we keep things fairly quiet. We've also told our neighbors if we are ever loud, just give us a call and we'll do our best to tone it down. Never had a prob. We did have issues with a)nonstop weekend sex neighbors, b) stomping/screeching chairs by a family that included a stomping army man and his poorly-trained children, and c) the family who believed letting their child live through a tantrum by screaming into the hallway through the door (the only place in our building where sound transfers!) for over an hour was acceptable.)

The kid Upstairs has been taking an online KungFu class. The noise would start at 3pm and end at 5pm (weekdays). Enter Covid-19. Now this kid is home all day jumping, running, stomping, kicking a bag, and yelling,.... multiple sessions during the day..... he’s got nothing else to do.... I guess I’m supposed to understand.

I’ve spoken to his parents in an attempt to establish a set time,.... Crickets. I’ve recorded the sounds and will use the to break the lease or go to arbitration