Rant by a long-legged old lady!!!
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Comments (20)Thank you all so much for the kind, supportive words. It has been a rough few weeks and it's good to know that there is somewhere out there to turn for support. My current plan was to stay at this job and at my parents house for 2 more years. That would pay off the worst kind of debt that I have, the credit cards and private student loans. After that, it's the Federal loan...which is consolidated at 3.5%. After a year of on time payments, the rate goes down to 2.5%. It actually makes sense to let that loan drag out forever, it's the good type of debt and the terms are very flexible. So even though it's a lot of money, it's a lower interest rate than I'd pay on a mortgage! The job situation would be ok for 2 years too. There are things I can do here that improve my resume, like teaching upper level classes and getting good student recs. My weenie boss and I have very little contact. (I'm finding more and more people in my dept who think the man is really shady and encourage me to not go without a fight.) And if I wait a bit, I"m more marketable. There are a lot of ads out there now that specify "three years full time teaching experience." Plus, after such a short time, my PhD advisors' recs would still be the best ones. It wouldn't be funny to use them as references instead of my current boss. Of course, I don't know if I still have this job and I won't know for sure until December. I'm looking at ads and so far, I've calmed down enough to realize that applying for jobs with a January start date would be a bad idea. It's legal but it would leave a blot on my resume since my contract runs until May. I'm just tired and stressed. They couldn't have picked a worse time to drop that non-renewal letter on me. Last week was midterms and I'm just plain tired! Did I mention that my students are a joy lately? I know I am definitely in the right field...this is my calling in life. I ran into one of them before class and we were chatting and he said, "So, Dr. Kathy do you think you'll be here long? Because, honestly, you're so much better than the other teachers here I can imagine how they'll keep you." :o)...See MoreOld Lady of the Mountain Coming Down
Comments (23)My cousins'only daughter died today of an aneurism, at 31. Your advice is good for me. I wrote him with the help of Hafiz; My sister.. "just gave me your sad news. It breaks my heart and I don't have a clue as to the comforting thing to say. I suspect there isn't much I can say and if I get started chances are I'll make you feel worse than you already do and I can only imagine what that is. Thirty-one years is simply not enough. Not for her and not for her children and certainly not for her Daddy. Yet with all the years we've been given, have we done so much more or better? It is the quality of the committment, how much you bring to the table that measures your life. I didn't know your girl, but knowing you I'm sure she gave it all she had. And the wish that we all have is that the world is better for us being here was most likely answered well. I can only send you my love." What is the key to untie the knot of your mind's suffering? What is the esoteric secret To slay the crazed one whom each of us Did wed And who can ruin Our heart's and eye's exquisite tender Landscape? Hafiz has found Two emerald words that restored me That I now cling to as I would sacred Tresses of my Beloved's Hair: Act great. My dear, always act great. What is the key To untie the knot of the mind's suffering? Benevolent thought, sound And movement. ******* How did the rose Ever open its heart and give to this world All its Beauty? It felt the encouragement of light Against its Being. Otherwise, We all remain Too Frightened. --Hafiz "I imagine a lot of people are going to require a great deal from you right now. You won't always have the words. You may have to put your own grief on hold for awhile, as you tend to your family. I don't envy you this time but so much can come from it if you pay close attention. I am sending you all my love and blessings for the courage and strength you may need." --your cousin The book sounds good. la...See Morepot luck observations (long read, mini rant)
Comments (59)I belonged to a pot luck monthly dinner club for about 12 years. There were 5 couples and we alternated so you had a month when you were host and 4 months off. The host provided the meat course and all drinks, alcoholic and otherwise, and the guests brought vegetables, salad, hors d'ouvres and dessert. And that also alternated. It was very interesting because one gal didn't cook....at all! But was willing to learn....sow e had a few interesting things in the first few years...until she learned to read a recipe! LOL! When wew ent to their house, they almost always served steaks that he grilled ( and very well too I might add!) and hordouvres were things like a big bowl of shrimp, or a side of smoked salmon, sometimes some nice cheeses and deli spreads....but the vegetables and salads were the adventure! Over the years we all learned some things. One gal never made desserts and had no idea how to make a pie or cake, but she learned that brownies and icecream were good as were fruits and bought pound cake. I am bad at veggies to take, I don't make veggie casseroles, but learned to take fresh veggies to be quickly steamed on site or a dish of veggies to be roasted. But I have never liked no list potlucks. Years ago I hosted a lot of cast parties for the community theater. Very often there were 75 to 80 and once I counted 120 people....sitting on the stairs and standing anywhere they could find a square foot to stand in! It was the custom for the host to order food and soft drinks and to tell everyone how much their share was and then everyone would bring something to share. The usual "cost" was about $5 per person...that covered drinks meat and buns for sandwiches. So I decided I could do better.....and made a gazillion buns with one other person's help and bought a ham and had it shaved and bought a big beef roast, cooked it and had it shaved and bought and roasted a turkey and had my DH carve it. And used my own plates and silverware. Costs for that amounted to about $1.50 per person. I counted on others to bring potato salad, and brownies and such....and got bags and bags of chips and commercial dip... So the next time I made coleslaw.... and provided a sign up sheet for chips and dips, raw veggies, desserts and specified cookies or bars, potato salad and posted a category for "miscellaneous"....and some idiot brought a frozen pizza that had to be cooked, watched so it didn't burn and cut and served....and it only served 8! I hate to be surprised when I am hosting a huge party. Linda C...See MoreOld-lady clothes shopping :-(
Comments (26)I am like Marilyn. I don't do dress up. I own one pair of gray pants but they are probably too big for me now since I lost a bit of weight since last year. I'm overweight,over 60, wear jeans and mens t shirts. Still get hit on all the time. Like Emma said, it's attitude. I walk into a room like I own it. Using Poor posture and stance is the most aging thing one can do. I learned my lesson years ago at an awards ceremony for a scout thing. I was in my late 30's. After shopping most of the afternoon I was practically in tears. I hate most women's fashion. I am short and they make me look old and frumpy. Don't even get me started ranting about those stupid looking hobbit pants. LOL So DH said to wear what I wanted and I did. I went in clean newish (not faded) jeans and a nice sweat shirt which were in style back then. When we got there there we a sat down at an empty table. Later all these men came in and sat with up. The whole room was either in uniform or dressed up. The women were all in dresses and jewelry and such. Guess who had the best time? ME!!! We talked sports, autos and guy stuff. I think had I been dressed girly they would have been more subdued. The guy next to me was tipsy and hilarious. Turned out the guys at our table were all the national head honchos. They had been partying earlier. Now had I worn a dress or dressy clothes I would have been so uncomfortable I would have been evil. My personality changes for the worse as the layers of "feminine" clothing go on. So I have learned to stay in my comfort zone. The heck with what others think. The church thing? How nice of those women to judge. Bless their brittle little hearts....See More- 10 years ago
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