My BIL had a jeans, cowboy hats and boots wedding where the guests primarily wore jeans. I recall the bridesmaids wore cowboy boots with their short dresses-I think the bride was going to wear boots too but didn't for some reason (I didn't go to that wedding). At the time I attributed the attire at that affair to the trashiness of the whole spectacle (that's a whole other story). But a friend got married at her parents back yard and the groom wore a similar set up-he was big into horse activities, and guests were very casual. My eldest DD got married at a lakeside place where guests could tent camp if they chose to. Neither the wedding party or the guests wore jeans, but every one was dressed in what I would describe as urban casual attire. If the wedding is going to be a casual theme, then no big deal IMHO. My younger DD was married in a ballroom at an opera house-had anyone shown up to that affair in jeans I would have croaked. I like the dress you've shown, I think it would be very appropriate.

I'll bet you are glad you went. It sounds like such a nice get together, with the one exception. Linda

if you weren't invited to the shower, you don't need to give them a shower gift. If you DID go to a shower, you would give both, as you know. If you wish you had been invited to the shower, you *could* give them a shower gift, but I wonder if that might make them feel bad for not inviting you--in which case, don't label it a shower gift. But the wedding gift alone is just fine--and I bet they'll like it, LOL! it'll certainly fit w/ their decorating scheme.

Steve, those are the things that matter the most. The feelings and respect they have for you didn't just happen. They were earned by your caring ways and you deserve the love and respect they show you. They are blessed to have an uncle such as yourself. I have a special aunt in my life too. She is the youngest of my dad's siblings and was around more when I was young. When I was a teenager she bought me things that a young girl likes to have to feel pretty as my family didn't have the money. She has been supportive emotionally as well. I love her so much and think so highly of her. It's a little early now to be calling anyone, but I think I will give her a call today, just because. Linda