We are on a well and we have a Grohe Relexa Five with the head tilted from the arm on the wall. It's working really well for us - no garden hose effect. No problem rinsing hair. Of course, we don't have as much water pressure as someone with city water.

Thanks Patricia. I do have both - I have the slider bar with the adjustable hand held thing and then the Rain CAn thing. I NEVER shower - always bathe - and this is for my husband not really me so I want him to enjoy it - do you think using the rain shower is ok and then if you need more force or a massage, etc. you can use the handheld thing? would you recommend it this way? I cannot see my husband taking the time to remove the adjustable thing and use it. So I am relying on the shower head for him getting clean, etc. WIll the rain shower do a good job of getting him clean in a jiffy?

First thing I'd do is read the installation instructions to see what is specified there. If they recommend "X" number if vertical inches and you're less than that, or if you used PEX and they specify "no pex" or you used pex that has a smaller inside diameter than the recommended tubing, then essentially you have an installation issue. 1/2" pex does have a smaller inside diameter than 1/2" copper. For delivering water volume to a faucet it's normally not a problem, but when depending on a specified vertical water column, I guess the smaller diameter of the pex could be an issue. I'd call the manufacturer's tech support line and ask them about remediation. No harm no foul, it's best to run ideas past them before you crack open walls. You installed the shower head lower for the kids. Let's say you have yours 25" above the valve and the manufacturer specifies 30". What you could do is have the pipe come vertically out of the valve, and run it up the wall several inches higher than the shower head, say to 40", or even all the way to the top plate of the wall, then add a couple of 90's (to create and inverted "U") and then run it back down to the shower head. That would take care of the vertical issue while allowing you to still have a lowered shower head. If your pex to the tub spout is constricting flow out of the tub spout, that might need to be changed to a larger size of PEX or to copper. Something with a larger inside diameter. You're on your own well so it's likely excessive water pressure isn't an issue. What's on the "back" side of the wall that the valve and plumbing is installed in? Often times it's easier to cut through the back of the wall to access the plumbing, repair the plumbing, then TEST the plumbing, then patch the hole, than it is to access through the shower side of the wall.

This has caused my well head to leak for the better part of 3 months. I'm trying to picture what you mean by that. Are you saying that your well (assuming a shallow well with concrete top sitting above ground?) has a water level so high that water is overflowing from under the lid and running into your yard? I have seen this only once in my life several years ago when driving through a neighborhood. Very heavy prolonged rains creating an artesian effect forces water up above ground level acting like a natural spring. If so there's nothing much you can do as far as I know other than continuously turn on the water and allow your well pump to relieve some pressure, but that will surely put your pump to the test so it's probably best just to allow the well overflow to do it for you. If you are on a septic system it could be under pressure too.