Kicking this off the top, Big Kid

Did they originally start out with a black dot in the middle and is that still there? If there is no black dot then the tadpole is not there. If it started out with the white dot and no black then it could be unfertilized spawn. They occasionally lay this for extra food for the real taddies. If they had black dots and none now then the baby tads have been eaten. Sorry. I hope that you do have some black dots as that will be so exciting for you. Here is a link that might be useful: Alisons pond and garden

I have a relative who is LGBT. I am not yet sure what she actually identifies as. It's not important to me. When I first met her she had not yet changed her name to a "male" name but closer blood family relatives were starting to call her by her future name. So I simply asked her what her preference was. She told me and I immediately began to call her by the new name that she has since legalized. You will notice I continue to say she. Well that's because she is a she. She is a loving daughter, a sister, an aunt, a grand daughter and a niece. She may dress in male clothes,occasionally binding her breasts, but as long as she has girl parts she is a she. So far she has not stated any desire for any surgery or hormonal treatments. She is in a healthy, monogamous relationship with another woman. I am happy for her. That is all that matters. Should she decide in the future to actually change her gender physically ( a sex change) she will still be that DD,DGD, DN, DS and DSIL. But the pronoun will become he/him. I raised my own children to be gender neutral. DS had dolls and DD had trucks and building toys. I had the same outcome as another poster. A very masculine DS and a DD who grew into a strong, self assured woman. Grands are the same. Little GD is a fashion diva who loves vehicles and rough- housing. Little GS loves on dolls and soft toys but there is no doubt he is all boy when it comes to fantasy play. Bang-bang you're dead gramma. LOL

Sherry - I don't publicly tell names anymore until the daylilies are safely registered. The second one will have a "Kat" name, but it's not after one of my cats. It will be named after a character on The Blacklist, my favorite TV show, and my other passion besides daylilies. I have a blog about The Blacklist and participate in several online forums about the show. Hoosier Nancy - Thanks for your comments. I really value them! Debra