Alright, since we're sharing. I have issues with sneezing and laughing. Usually the laughing is only when I already have to go (like I've been holding it for a while) or if I've had a couple of drinks, for some reason. Last year we were on vacation and DH and I went to the hotel bar by the beach. Had a couple of drinks and people-watched. When we got ready to walk back to the room I kinda had to pee, but figured I'd wait til we got to the room. During our leisurely and romantic walk along the beach to the room, my very funny DH got me laughing so hard that I TOTALLY wet my pants. Um, I mean my dress. Had to walk into the hotel room sideways/backwards so my teenage son didn't notice.

I'm 58, and a firstborn. Your description fits me to a T. I've always been the one to be there for everyone else--even when it meant I had to sacrifice. You cannot change him. No one can change or 'help' someone else unless THEY recognize their own problems and WANT to change themselves. I will say this, just in the past few months, my eyes have been opened wide. As I said, I've always been the one who everyone could count on--can't tell you how many people I've helped move, or babysat their children, or helped with home repairs, or cooked for or...... you get the picture. And for the last 12 years, I took full charge of taking care of my mother--while all my siblings were able to go on with their jobs, their everyday lives, etc and I worried, did the dr's runs, addressed health issues, etc. Well, I happen to be in the position of needing a little help right now. Asked a favor that would have take only a morning out of sis's life--she flat out refused, and then DENIED that I'd helped her move twice (I definitely did, and was even PREGNANT the move she's apparently conveniently forgotten about). Well, no more. I've been pushed to the limit. But no one could get me to that point. Heaven knows, my poor husband has tried and tried for years to get me to stop feeling responsible for the world (or at least my family). Right now, I'm living life for me. It's my time, and I'm enjoying my newfound freedom from taking on the responsibility for the entire family. But he's not going to get to that point until HE gets there--if you get what I mean. Just care about him, and be very careful that YOU don't fall into the trap of taking him and his help for granted.

I didn't look at the website but I am definitely one who will try to look and feel my best - hopefully at whatever age! I do believe that attitude has alot to do with it. Of course we are all aging, but you can look your age or you can look great for your age. Staying active, healthy (well what we can do to be healthy, of course we have no control over the big picture), flexible, etc. makes a huge difference. I hope to never be someone who says "oh, I'm 50 (60, 80), I can't do that"! I do not try to make myself younger, but the best I can be at any given age. Having healthy habits can make a difference. I think our own Mitch is a perfect example!! FWIW, people are usually surprised to find out my age. My husband is the same way - he never stops. I truly think to keep moving makes a huge difference in our lives. We have some young just married friends who paid us a huge compliment. The husband happened to see my husband's driver's license, and he was shocked. So much so that he blurted out - you can't be that "old" - you're too much fun! LOL That's another bit of advice - have a variety of friends and even a variety of ages! The college girls where I work come in and talk with me about girl things and even voted me best dressed (in our building LOL). The male best dressed they picked is a few years older than me!

Charles Dudley Warner - heading to Project Gutenberg as soon as I can and read! Florence Kelley is still relevant in some ways and Maurice Chevalier quotes, I still can see the twinkle in his eyes. Sulzberger's quotes could have been written yesterday.