Hi all,
I'm not sure what forum to post this on. I hope it's ok to post it here.
I'm not sure where to start. I'm just going to blurt it all out and hope no one thinks I'm completely nuts lol.
5 yrs ago we lost our beautiful teenage son in a head on car collision. The driver of the car that hit him is in prison.
We are finally starting to heal. He was a very wonderful person and we know we will see him on the other side.
His best friend recently fell on hard times so we let him and his girl friend move in for a while so they could get back on their feet. They had just come back from trying to live in another state and claimed neither of their families wanted to help them out.
OK no problem. He's almost like family to us. We told them they could stay. Well that was over a month ago and little things are starting to annoy me.
They have a dog and it barks at my granddaughter. I'm so very upset about that and insist they have him on a leash when she's here. She's 3 and the dog is a pitbull. Well they forgot and my daughter reminded them. I wasn't there but I guess they got in a tiny argument and now the dog is on a leash when my granddaughter is here. :)
Some how my other daughters cell phone ended up in their car. I didn't involve myself in that either. My oldest daughter told me and i've decided that it must have been an accident. All the cell phones look alike to me. The fact the daughter whose cell phone was taken, never said a word to me. is why I pretend I don't know anything about that. lol.
It was her old cell phone she had left behind when she moved so it wasn't hooked up anyway.
When they first moved in we told them that we wouldn't charge them rent if they helped with the house work. I even offered to pay her so she could have a bit of money as they have no jobs. Well she said she wasn't comfortable with that. lol ok what ever. She doesn't help at all. She did cook dinner one night. she barbequed raw hamburgers. Just burgers no side dishes. (sorry that was petty)
We ran out of toilet paper in the upstairs bathroom so I told her where we keep the extra rolls. She forgot and used paper towels and clogged the toilet and didn't tell anyone. OK she was probably too embarrassed. They were sleeping in an upstairs bedroom but are now in the basement. We need the bedroom because my oldest daughter is going to have another baby any day now and her husband is painting her hold and she and my granddaughter can't stay there.
This is working out great. They have their on entry door and our basement is really nice. My husbands computer is down there and they started using it before asking permission.I thought that was totally rude, but he says it's fine. OK what ever. I never said a word to them.
They eat our food we feed their dog we clean up after them. I'm getting annoyed. They are in their 20's not kids and I'm feeling a tat bit used.
I feel like I'm being a witch when I asked them to clean up the dogs poop. They final taught him to go in the side yard like our dog does. so thats good. But before that I was the official poop cleaner. Not happy.
Their dog does not like our cats and the one cat is terrified. She used to hang out in the basement and can't because of their dog and last week she sprayed the basement window. I know this is all petty crap and I'm trying to just forget it, live and let live you know.
But today kinda got me. I was sorting seeds in my kitchen and they were in the living room. She was talking on the phone and she made a comment about me. I quickly turned on the tv in the kitchen so she knew I was in there. She must have thought I was ease dropping and she went outside. So now I'm hiding in my room typing this rant lol.
Earlier today we were all in the kitchen and they were eating leftovers from the restaurant they went to last night. He asked me if I wanted some so I said sure i want to try a fry, so I took one off his plate and ate it. She left the room and he told me all about what a great time they had and how good the food was.
Then he went in the living room with her. That's when I started sorting seeds and she made her phone calls on my house phone(ok sorry that was petty too)
So here's the comment she made. Well -----was have a 3 hour conversation with ~Laura~ .she pronounced my name like I was the skank from skank town. He warned me when he first moved in that she was a crazy jealous bleep. But ME??? not only am I old enough to be his mother,I've know him since he was a kid!
At first I thought for sure it must be another Laura. But when she suddenly went outside, I got paranoid. She does that when she gets upset. Last week the dog jumped up and put his paws on my shoulders so I yelled "off!" She got upset and went out side.
I'm not happy with the situation. My DH thinks everything is fine. I think he's pretending if Our son's best friend is here that in away so is our son. Truthfully, I love the kid but it's messing with my mind. The anniversary of our son's death is next month and everyone is kinda freaked out by everything.
They've been here about a month. Maybe longer. My post traumatic stress disorder kicks in and I have no space time continuum.
What should I do?
Thanks for letting me ramble.
Laura
jeaninwa
two25acres
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