i read this and it made me feel so sad for you but also I got the impression that youare a lovely person with a good heart and you have been an excellent mother. I am a long way away from you in London but i felt your post was so heartfelt and you have been through so much. Apart from the menopause stuff, i do think what we go through in life makes us stronger and i wish you all the luck with everything including your procedure. Believe in yourself, things will get better.

I know that but it's no fun to see her drag her kids into it. I'd love to grab her, shake her or pound her head against a wall and yell "look what you are doing to your kids!!" " Don't you care????" and I know that I can't. Her relationship with her kids is her business but it doesn't make it any easier to watch. If she had called me, that's one thing. But, she involves SD by asking me through her daughter and she does that a lot. She's also got SD very excited about the wedding and SD brings it up frequently. I could be wrong, but I believe she has created a fantasy in SD's mind that everything will be wonderful when she marries BF... they'll be a family & she can go live there with them, etc. but that isn't going to happen. The craziest part of all, she HATES when SD and I get along. (more insecurity about that) but the more she ignores SD, as time goes on, SD turns to me more & more. I not only spend more time with SD, but I talk to her, I listen to her and even though she has an attitude with me, she knows she can count on me when she needs me. As she is realizing that, she has less attitude with me and we are actually becoming closer because of the way BM treats her. That only upsets BM even more, but instead of giving SD more attention, she has chosen to give less time & attention. It's really sad all the way around. I've also noticed other things she does to mimic our (DH & me) life. We ride ATV's, she went out & bought new ATV's for everyone last Christmas. We went to San Francisco for a weekend, she was going to do the same. We have an SUV, she went out and bought an SUV as soon as she moved there, even though her BF has a mini van that would accommodate all of them. She already had a new truck that her mom repossessed a few weeks ago. We've gone on a few cruises & now she's talked of wanting to take a family cruise. It's really humorous at times. She has no job, her BF's motorcycle & his kids dirt bikes were repossessed, her mom took back the truck she signed for because BM wasn't making the payments, they are about to be evicted & she can't or won't pay the $216 a month in support or any of the medical bills, but she is planning a grand wedding & all these trips. I think it's all in her head & she wants to create an illusion that she has a perfectly wonderful life. I'm not sure if she sees reality slapping her in the face... or if she just pretends it isn't happening. It will go away?

I agree, I don't think the cooking lesson is what this couple truly needed to work on. They have no problem connecting on a sexual level. Although maybe the experts felt there is no emotional connection, only a physical one and the cooking class would help them communicate desires and needs. I thought last weeks exercise with the fish bowl questions touched on that subject, but maybe I am wrong. I hope that Jason lets Courtney meet his mom. I think it's important that he share this with her, it obviously hurts her and not all for selfish reasons. Courtney could be such a great source of support for both he and his mom. If I were his mom I would want to meet Courtney. Given that I only had little time left, I think it would be important to not only know my son is happy, but to see the connection for myself. I do see the flip side as well in that Jason is very protective of his mom. I was really proud of Jamie for sharing the painful part of her life with Doug. He is so supportive and caring. Doug's mom isn't so guarded, so I was happy to see that. Given that is was only 3 weeks since the marriage I think most the friends and families of these couples are quite supportive. The upcoming episode looks to be more drama for Monet and Vaughn. No surprise there!

I don't think Jamie was overreacting. She admittedly has trust issues that are very deep rooted and we saw that pain. Doug's lie not only disrespected her, but also his mother. A very immature response on his part. I don't think it was the first time he's lied in a relationship. I like both Doug and Jamie and I truly hope they make it work. I think it will take more work on Doug's part because Jamie is so emotionally fragile. I don't see Jamie giving Doug a third chance if he messes up. I think out of all 6 participants, Courtney is the most mature and logical. I think she and Jason have the best chance at success if he lets his guard down. Jason mentioned that nothing in his life ever turns out for the better. I wonder if he is just protecting his mom (and maybe himself) in case it doesn't work out with Courtney. After all as this is airing they are only 1 month into the marriage. I hope that Jason lets his guard down and allows Courtney to meet his mom, I think Courtney could be a great source of support to both. Vaughn and Monet are a train wreck. Very hard to watch their segments.