15 Tips for Breaking through a Plateau (by Weight Watcher Leader Elizabeth): 1. JOURNAL, JOURNAL, JOURNAL -- This is one of the most powerful tools to help you stay on track or get back on track. Your journal can help you see where you are perhaps going over or under on your number of points for the day, or aren't getting in the Guidelines for Healthy Living requirements. Use your journal as a detective tool: Had a good week? Look over it at the end of the week and try and see what you think contributed to that success. Had a not so good week? Again, look over your journal to see what may have contributed to you playing a little looser with the program. Look at last week's journal for clues too, sometimes it takes a full week before the effects of a blown week show up. 2. EATING BY THE NUMBERS (Or are you getting in too many carbs? Protein? Not enough fat?) -- Look at your food choices, are you really getting a wide variety of foods in? Remember, your body needs nutrients from lots of different sources and if you're eating the same things all the time or too much of one type of food, you're probably not getting the proper nutrition your body needs. How is your protein to carb ratio? Look at the Eating by the Numbers chart on page 8 of your Week 1 booklet for suggested guidelines of how to most nutritiously spend your points during the day. These are suggested ranges for someone under 200 pounds, for over 200 take most of your extra points from complex carbohydrates and protein. There's a helpful Excel spreadsheet on Rea's homepage: www.geocities.com/Heartland/Plains/6548/ that is called something like the Points Food Groups Journal that she's got set up for 28-35 points per day, but all you've got to do is input your points range and the suggested guidelines from the Eating by the Numbers chart for the various food groups. This can help too if you're one of those old WW selection plan people who just don't like the Points system. You can use this to follow the points, but use it for the selections of the various food groups so that you keep a healthy balance in your points. Take a look at your food choices as sometimes we have the attitude that as long as our points balance at the end of the day we're okay, but if we keep in mind the Guidelines for Healthy Living on pages 5-7 of the Week 1 booklet, we'll see that we still are asked to do a few steps to ensure we're spending our points in a way that keeps our bodies healthy. 3. WEIGH AND MEASURE PORTIONS -- Too many times our portions have gotten bigger without us realizing it, using measuring cups and spoons and weighing out our portions can give us a better idea if our portions have suddenly grown bigger than we're counting. Remember, portion size does matter. 4. READ LABELS CAREFULLY -- Are you counting your points right for the product that you're eating. I remind everyone of my jumbo dinner frank story where the serving size was half a frank! Who eats half a frank? I was counting 4 points when I should have been counting 8 points. If you're eating a bigger serving size than the one listed on the label you're probably eating more points than you calculated. 5. REMEMBER, ZERO MULTIPLIED IS NOT ALWAYS ZERO (okay, not when it comes to food points) -- If you're eating one serving of fat free sugar free gelatin for 10 calories, okay, that's zero points, but if you're now eating 4 servings plus 2 tbsp of fat free whipped topping, you've got yourself one point! Beware of those hidden extras where we multiply portions, and beware of BLT's: Bites, Licks, and Tastes that never seem to get counted on any journal. These add up. 6. TOO MANY REFINED CARBS? -- Are you eating too many sources of simple and refined carbohydrates, the stuff that's heavily processed and no longer looks like its natural food source. Think of it as the difference between whole grain bread and processed white bread, brown rice vs. white rice, popcorn cakes vs. corn on the cob. Try to include more of the natural sources of carbohydrates in your diet stuff like beans, yams, potatoes, brown rice, and whole wheat anything rather than so many crackers, pretzels, and chips (even low fat chips). This is not to say you can't have any refined carbs, just try to limit the amount of them if you're having trouble 7. NOT ENOUGH FAT? -- Okay, this sounds counterintuitive, but according to the Eating by the Numbers chart and for good nutrition you should be actively adding in about 2-3 points of fat per day. This is stuff like vegetable oils, margarine, butter, regular or reduced fat (not fat free) salad dressing, avocados, regular or reduced fat (not fat free) mayonnaise, olives, and peanut or soy butter. I have personally met a number of people now who weren't losing and when I suggested they start actively adding in 2-3 points of fat per day they started losing again. Our bodies need enough fat in order to properly function. You think there's enough fat in my food already, right? Not when you're limiting your number of points in order to lose weight. We are often making much lower fat choices than we normally would have, and as a consequence our consumption of fat falls far below the recommended guidelines according to lots of nutrition experts of 30% of your total calories in fat per day. If you are limiting your fat intake to only the fat that's naturally in food and even then you're probably taking the skin off the chicken and drinking skim or 1% milk, then you might only be getting around 10% of your calories in fat per day, not enough for your body. So, the reason our bodies need enough fat in our diets each day as opposed to just feeding off of our body's fat stores is because fat contains an essential fatty acid: linoleic acid, that our body can't produce on its own. That fat is needed for proper metabolic and digestive function. Fat provides essential nutrients our bodies need, it transports fat soluble vitamins that our bodies need, it is needed for proper digestion and metabolic function, it helps us keep fuller longer, keeps our hair and skin nice, and is crucial for proper gallbladder function. If you're on a super low fat diet you can develop gallstones that are no fun and super painful. 8. DRINK HALF YOUR BODY WEIGHT IN WATER EACH DAY. -- According to Barbara Levine, R.D., Ph.D., the Director of the Nutrition Information Center at the New York Hospital-Cornell Medical Center and reported in the June issue of Weight Watchers magazine, she says that overweight people need more water than the typical 8 cups a day rule. "Overweight people tend to need more water, because fat cells hold more water than other fat cells in the body. To determine the number of ounces of water you need per day, divide your weight by two. For example, a person who weighs 140 pounds should consume 70 ounces, or about 9 cups. Of course, this is an estimate. The best way to gauge whether you are getting enough water is to monitor the color of your urine. If you're drinking enough, it should be the color of pale straw. If it is a deeper yellow, you're not getting enough fluids" (page 16, June 1999). Lots of times we misinterpret thirst for hunger, try water first, wait 20 minutes, real hunger will not go away. 9. MAKE SURE YOU'RE GETTING FIVE SERVINGS OF FRUITS AND VEGETABLES PER DAY. -- Eating the zero point veggies can often help us to fill up so that we're not eating the other higher points foods instead. If you're hungry, try non-starchy veggies first. Lots of members make the Garden Vegetable Soup recipe in the Week 1 booklet and eat a bowl of that before dinner to fill up a bit so that you can get full on the smaller portions you'll be serving yourself. Try a glass of V8 juice before a meal during the summer when soup sounds too hot. Variety is good here too, try a new fruit or veggie each month to expand your repertoire. 10. INCREASE THE FREQUENCY OR INTENSITY OF YOUR PHYSICAL ACTIVITY. -- Are you exercising? If not, know that you'll be much more successful at losing the weight and keeping it off if you are also physically active. Find something that you enjoy doing and just do it! Start with a five minute walk out of your door, look at your watch after five minutes start heading back, just like that you've done 10 minutes! Next week start adding in a couple of extra minutes, try walking for 7 minutes out of your door, and 7 minutes back, you've now done 14 minutes. Keep adding until you're up to at least 10 minutes out and 10 minutes back. If you're already active, are you exercising at enough intensity? If you can easily carry on a conversation while exercising (you should be able to speak, but it should take a bit of effort) you're not challenging your body enough. Your body becomes really efficient at adjusting to the amount of physical activity you're doing, so you regularly have to adjust either the intensity of your workouts or the frequency in order to continue to reap the maximum benefit from physical activity. Try strength training in order to build lean muscle tissue. As we get older we lose lean muscle tissue which depresses your metabolism in addition severely restrictive diets where we eat too few calories can cause us to lose weight but lots of it is lean muscle which also depresses our metabolism. If we build muscle tissue this can help us to reverse that process and to make us trimmer and stronger. 11. MOVE THE FURNITURE AROUND. -- Do you always have your biggest meal at dinner? Try eating your biggest meal for lunch or even for breakfast, with smaller meals for the remaining meals. If you regularly eat most of your points at one meal your body converts the rest of the food into stored energy...fat...so that if you balance your points out throughout the day better you can actually give your metabolism a boost by keeping it revving throughout the day instead of only one spike at dinner. Food actually helps to boost our metabolism, that's why it's important never to skip meals. There's a saying that you could help losing weight. to lose weight by eating breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince, and dinner like a pauper. This gives us the majority of our points early in the day when our bodies can use them because we're active instead of right before bed if we eat them at dinner. 12. TRY VARYING YOUR NUMBER OF POINTS. -- Do you always eat at a certain number of points per day? Your body gets very efficient at predicting its intake and adjusts itself accordingly. Keep it guessing. Try mixing up the number of points you have...low one day, middle the next, back to low, then high end of your points. Special note: If you're very active never eat at the low end of your points, your body may think it's starving, always eat middle to high end of your points and take those extra exercise points if you need them...let your hunger be your guide. 13. TAKE YOUR MEASUREMENTS AND LOOK FOR OTHER NON-SCALE SIGNS OF PROGRESS. -- Often even when the scale isn't moving, we're still improving our health and our bodies which will show up in other ways other than the scale. Have your measurements gone down? How are your clothes fitting? Can you climb a flight of stairs without being winded? Has your cholesterol gone down? Can you walk now for 20 minutes when before you were huffing and puffing at 5 minutes? How do you feel? 14. ARE YOU ON AN ATTITUDE PLATEAU? -- Are you just tired of feeling like you're going to be doing this forever? Does that translate into that right now your desire to lose weight is equal to your desire for freedom from counting and having to think about points and healthy food choices? If so, then that mental attitude might be the culprit in that you're following a more relaxed adherence to the program but you think you're still doing it to the letter. Remind yourself of why you started this process, look at how far you've come. Is your goal still the same? Is it that you're scared of success, are okay with how you look right now, have you become complacent? Ask yourself these kind of questions honestly. If you're tired of the weight loss routine or have become complacent, try spicing up your food plan by trying more interesting meals and snacks, adding new foods, trying new recipes or new restaurants. Set new goals, setting a new goal can continue to challenge yourself. 15. CONSIDER MAINTENANCE. -- A plateau that lasts a long time can be the practice to show you that you can maintain your weight. Sustaining weight loss is a challenge in itself. Consider doing the maintenance process so as to take a break from weight loss. Taking a break from weight loss and focusing on keeping the weight off can be the best thing to do, especially if a vacation or stressful situation is what is keeping you from continuing on your weight loss journey. It's better to gain some ground, then hold it, then go back and gain more ground than to give up because then you lose all of the ground you've gained (lost!). WHEN YOUR WEIGHT PLATEAUS - Bob Greene (Make the Connection) A plateau occurs when your weight remains the same for a period of time. This can last weeks or even a couple of months. With nearly every successful weight-loss program, you can expect your weight to plateau--probably many times. Plateaus occur for a variety of reasons, and are quite normal. One of the most common reasons for a plateau is a natural adjustment to weight loss. Your body needs to make many adjustments when you lose weight, and it will release the weight only when its ready. Realize that it is virtually impossible to lose more than three pounds of fat in a week. If you lose more than three pounds in a given week, you are losing either water weight or muscle/lean weightÂwhich, as you know, is not what we want. Go to the local butcher counter and ask to see three pounds of fat. You will see that it takes up a lot of space, and your body must make physical adjustments for this loss. At this time, physiologists donÂt know all there is to know about these adjustments, but we can be sure that they serve a purpose. Plateaus caused by these natural adjustments normally last two or three weeks, but could go on for a month or two. So be patient and stay on your program! Another cause of plateaus is water fluctuation. As I discussed earlier, water can be retained for a variety of reasons. This extra water weight can create the illusion that you are gaining weight or have reached a plateau  even when youÂre losing FAT. Plateaus caused by these water fluctuations typically last from three days to one week. Again, just realize that these are temporary fluctuations in your weight, and donÂt be alarmed. Cheating on your program can also cause plateaus. LetÂs say youÂve been good about following the program, and youÂve had consistent weight loss. Now you have a bad eating and/or exercise week. This may or may not make you gain weight, but it could easily result in a prolonged plateau. This type of plateau can last as long as you are cheating on your program. My advice is to take this attitude: "Yes, I went of my program, but everyone slips up from time to time. IÂm going to get right back to work and pay the price for that week." And keep in mind, a bad day or week might not show up right away on the scale. But you shouldnÂt think youÂve gotten away with something, because it will show up at some point. This is why itÂs important to get right back on the program as soon as you stray from it. DonÂt give it up. A Positive Spin On Those Frustrating Weight Loss Plateaus ediet newsletter - April 13, 2000 by Cyndi Thomas, N.D. We live in a society that wants instant gratification. We want our health and weight loss... and we want it now! True health and permanent weight loss takes time. I have so many clients that have the attitude, "Well, I've followed your advice for a month now, why don't I feel better yet?" I have to remind them, "You didn't get sick overnight and it will take time to see the desired results." Now, onto weight loss...Just as the body was formed and operates on a priority basis, so it heals on a priority basis. This means that the most important parts of the body get the healing attention before the less vital tissues. We can't force the body to place its healing priority on weight loss when in fact the liver is about to die, for example. The liver is more important to your body than the extra pounds. So all the energies of the body go to heal the liver and weight loss will stop. The body will not compromise what health and vitality it does have in one part of the body to bring about healing in another. In other words, the body will not "rob Peter to pay Paul." So you may be eating nutritionally and exercising and you start out losing some weight. But then all of a sudden, you become stuck at a certain weight -- the needle on the scale won't budge anymore. The body is rejoicing on the inside and saying things like, "You know, we have all this extra energy now because Mr. Doughnut here has decided to start eating right and exercising -- let's take some of our new available energy and start the healing process on his congested liver!" So the body will take all the available energy and channel it into the liver. As a result the weight loss stops. The body will NOT take away any energy needed for daily activities and maintenance. It will only take what is left over to start the healing process. It's my belief that the body does not completely heal one part before moving on to the next item on its priority list. Rather, it heals a part to the degree that it is no longer a priority. At that point the healing attention is shifted to the part of the body that is now in most need of repair. In the above example, once the liver has been cleansed somewhat, the body will refocus its attention on other areas... perhaps back to weight loss. During my weight loss period, I would hit plateaus where it seemed like I'd never lose another pound. I lost 10 pounds and then nothing for 3 weeks. During that time I woke up one morning and my arthritis was gone and my blood sugar had stabilized somewhat. If you keep on your diet and exercise program, you will eventually lose all the weight you want. A healthy body is not overweight. Remember, "Always strive for health and the weight loss will happen!" Weight-Loss Plateau is a Good Sign By Loni Calie Reed The 1st week of a calorie-controlled weight loss diet is easy. The 2nd and 3rd weeks are not too hard either. But around the 4th or 5th week it seems that the scale will not budge. You have reached your first weight loss plateau. Plateaus, the times when your weight stubbornly stays put, are normal. Of course, plateaus are frustrating  so much so that many people abandon their weight loss efforts. But surprisingly, a plateau is a positive sign. It is a signal from your body that you have lost body fat, but unfortunately, not body weight. This last statement may sound contradictory. How can someone lose body fat and not lose body weight? Basically, the answer is that in place of the fat you lost, your body now holds water. Until the water is lost, the scale will not register your achievement. Scales cannot tell the difference between weight that is fat and weight that is water. Unfortunately, you cannot see inside yourself either. But you can learn what is going on and why. The human body, like the food we eat is composed of nutrients  protein, carbohydrates, fat, vitamins, minerals and water. If you were a trim 150 pounds, your body would contain about 90 pounds of water, 30 pounds of fat and 30 pounds of all the other nutrients. As you can see, you (and everyone else) are mostly "all wet". Water is not just blood. Much of the bodyÂs water is part of the chemical configuration of cells, tissues and organs. For example, muscle hold considerable water within its structure. Generally, 1 pound of muscle tissue in the body is associated with 4 pounds of water. Even fat tissue is about 15% water. So for example, 7 pounds of body fat contains about 1 pound of water. When you are eating fewer calories than you are burning up, your body must get the energy it needs from somewhere. That somewhere is you. When you lose weight, you are in fact consuming your own fat and protein to get the energy (calories) that you need. In effect, you "eat" yourself. During the first few weeks of any weight loss program, your body tends to use up more body protein in the form of muscle and organ tissue than in later weeks of dieting. As time goes on, your body becomes more selective and relies mostly on fat stored for energy, and less on the protein tissues essential to body functioning. When body protein and fat tissues are used for energy, the water associated with these tissues generally hangs around for awhile. In other words, you remain "water logged." This is what accounts for the plateau periods. It is like the body is resting before it goes down to the next lower weight. To see the pounds disappear, you may want to assist your body to lose its excess water weight. You can do so safely by reducing your sodium intake. Try to keep from adding much salt in cooking, and do not put a salt shaker on the table. Cut down on condiments like pickles, mustard, catsup, and soy sauce. Instead of salty condiments, try applesauce, spiced peaches and other fruits to perk up meats and fish dishes. Use lemon, spices and herbs for flavor in cooking, but avoid monosodium glutamate. Avoid canned foods with salt. Buy fresh or frozen foods without added salt. For normal water loss, diuretics are not necessary, nor even advisable. Also saunas and steam baths provide only momentary dehydration, not lasting effects. Because one pint of fluid perspired away in a hot sauna equals 1 pound less of water, dramatic weight changes are possible in record time. However, as soon as you drink again, and you should drink, your water weight returns. While water weight fluctuations are frustrating, they are temporary. The true test of dieting success is the pinch test, not the scaleÂs numbers game. ItÂs how much real fat you lose, not how much protein and water, that makes for a leaner and healthier you.

Ruffian, that's a good idea, saving the $20 for a new washer. Yes, DH is a keeper. That's why we have been married since 1967. Together we raised two children and we are just finishing up raising a couple of grandsons we adopted. He was a welder for many years. He did physical labor in the heat and the cold to provide for his family. Then he had to retire early because of degenerative arthritis in his knees. I worked to provide insurance and to pay for his quite expensive medications because he also had high blood pressure and had had a stent placed in his heart. My employer paid for my insurance premium but I had to pay for DH's and for the DGS'. I was paid twice a month and for awhile I brought home only $200 each payday because of my huge payroll deductions. He qualified for Disability and a year later Medicare kicked in. It was like getting a big raise! We worked very hard, both of us, to raise those grandchildren, to see that they got an education, got to participate in sports, and got to have some advantages they wouldn't have otherwise had. They came to us with issues from the rough start in life that they got. Now they are 18 and 19 and DH and I are both retired. He was finally cleared for double knee replacement and that was done this summer. We both suffer from arthritis and the physical reminders that we are no longer young. I have arthritis in my back that causes painful muscle spasm attacks about once a year, and otherwise "talks to me" every day. But we hang in there together and support each other whenever the need arises. That's what the marriage vows mean.

This is a NOVEL. Sorry... But I know you're frustrated and since we've dealt with many of these issues with quite a lot of success, I'm going to share it all. A__ has pulled stunts like the paper thing too. We stopped giving a big response at the time, and he can go sit in his room until he's ready to pick up his mess / eat his supper / be nice / etc. Then we talk about it afterward, calmly and rationally. For awhile, A__ was going to his room AT LEAST once a day, often more. Once he went to his room five times in one day! He stayed in there until he was ready to correct whatever behavior, so it was totally up to him to choose to behave. Once he was in there for an hour and a half! I know that all the parenting logic says to address a problem behavior immediately, but for a kid who is seeking negative attention, that's just feeding the problem... So we wait until after, when A__ is calmed down and he has had a chance to think about what his bad and good behaviors were. It also gives us a chance to mellow out about whatever he did, so that we're not mad when we discuss it. Now, A__ has come a looooooong way, and has only been sent to his room once in the past two months. He was in there for about ten minutes and then he was ready to come out and apologize/talk. "Sometimes his anger is so big he doesn't care what the consequence is he just keeps it going." This was a HUGE HUGE HUGE problem for A__. If he got angry, it was the end of the world. He would yell, and say he hated us or that his dad was the worst dad in the world. He would scream that he wished he was dead because he was being tortured. He would throw things or hit or kick at whatever was near him. He would get so enraged that his face would turn purple and his pupils would fill his nearly whole iris. It was awful and scary. He is still struggling with anger management, but things are a million times better. He hasn't been mad like that in a good four or five months! How did we do it? We started giving anger management ideas when A__ was totally calm, or a little peeved about something minor but not MAD. We'd suggest things like deep breaths, picturing your anger like a big red balloon that you don't want to pop, running the other way to get the 'burst' out, tell/ask someone to stop whatever is making you mad, say that you're getting mad when you feel it coming, let out a quick yell or scream to get the 'burst' out, etc etc. These alternatives were very gradual coming into effect... He "knew" them in his head, but it was awhile before he could really put them into action. So when he'd get mad we'd talk about what else he could have done, how else he could have reacted, how he could have prevented a freak-out. Gradually, very gradually, we saw him begin to use them. One day when he was getting mad, he took a few deep breaths, said "BIG RED BALLOON!!!", turned away for a few moments and was OK when he turned back to us - that's when I realized we were getting through on anger management. Keep on keepin' on for this one. I thought we'd never get through to him, but we are. When A__ says something like "I hate you and I wish I were dead!" or "I'm the worst kid in the world!" we don't go into 20 minutes of undivided attention anymore. We quietly say "That's too bad, because I love you and am glad you're alive" or "That's too bad, because I think you're pretty great" and quietly tell him that when he is ready to be calm, we are ready to talk about why he is upset. If he keeps up the drama, we just repeat "I only want to have a nice conversation, without all this drama. We can talk when you have calmed down. Please go to your room to calm down and come out when you feel like talking." Sometimes, when we are talking about his anger or bad behavior or whatever the problem is, he doesn't want to look at us. So as long as he is speaking clearly enough to understand, it is OK by us if he wants to hide his face behind a sweater or pillow, or if he wants to crouch behind the chair, or hide under a blanket. It makes him feel more comfortable and he is more likely to talk openly than just say "I don't know" over and over. We do usually ask him to look directly if he has to apologize for something though... for more accountability and ownership of your actions. "He just stares past me like we don't speak the same language and he has no idea I was speaking to him" This sounds familiar to me, but is one that we haven't had as much success with. IMO, we haven't been successful because I don't think it's something he really realizes he is doing. He realizes it when he is getting mad, he (usually) realizes it when he has a bad attitude; he may not realize it when he isn't acknowledging someone. I honestly think that A__ gets in his "bubble" and doesn't notice what is happening around him at all. The bubble is more impenetrable if he is hyper-focused on something, such as a computer game he enjoys or something that is bothering him. I've found that he is more likely to snap out of his bubble if more than one sense is activated... So I speak to him while moving around in his line of sight or touching him and he is more likely to notice. He is also more likely to react poorly, but you've gotta take the good with the bad... As for the distinction between positive and negative attention... We had a little "workshop" on it. We chose a time when he was relaxed and was having a good day with good communication skills. We started with that we weren't upset with him and that he was not in any trouble, but we wanted to talk about looking for attention. We call it "good and bad attention" but we sat down to talk about it, and went through examples of real recent behaviors, and hypothetical behaviors, getting A__ to identify which it was. Once he appeared to understand the difference, we got him to come up with "good attention" alternatives to "bad attention" examples. We talked about that doing things to be nice, helpful, polite, mature, responsible etc - anything that someone might give you a compliment for - is "good attention". We talked about that doing things so someone will tell you not to or to make someone mad/sad/annoyed is "bad attention". We talked about how to identify if you are looking for attention - that if you are bored/lonely/mad/sad and want someone to notice or entertain you - and how to get their attention. If you are bored, a "good attention" way is to tell them you are bored and ask them to play with you please; a "bad example" way is to throw things at them until they get mad at you. If you are mad, a "good attention" way is to say that you are feeling mad and ask to talk about it or excuse yourself to your room to calm down; a "bad attention" way is to stomp and shout until someone asks you what's wrong. Now, all we usually have to say is "Are you looking for good or bad attention? Can you try again with looking for good attention, please?" and he does. Sometimes it takes more coaching and work, but at least half the time, he can figure it out himself now. "Eric sits there acting like he's listening and then he'll come up with something WAY from left field" A__ does this as well. It usually indicates that he is at his max for this particular thread of the conversation and it is time to change angles or ask for his opinion. It helps to keep him on topic by asking him frequently to rephrase what we said into his own words and tell us what he thinks about it. I find it frustrating and tedious, and FDH can hardly do it... But it helps keep A__ on the conversation instead of wandering off into left field. Of course, we praise praise praise until we are blue in the face when he makes good choices and shows good behavior. It feels like I tell him 500 times a day that he is using nice manners, or being thoughtful, or listening well, and so on... But even though I am sick to death of saying "Thank you for doing what you were asked the first time!" or giving high fives for little things like tidying up his own mess, I keep doing it. I figure that if I'm not sick of praising him, I'm not doing it enough to reinforce the good choices. Some other posters (mostly those with "easy" kids) think that our incessant yammering at A__ about good behavior and our many approaches are stupid and too complex... But like you, we are turning puzzle pieces, trying to find what fits. It's hard. People whose BKs or SKs have had no major behavioral problems don't understand the conscious level and planning that it takes to approach a child with behavioral problems or disorders. But don't lose hope yet! We've seen amazing, astounding, exponential change in A__ since we decided to develop a parenting plan, and started looking for the puzzle. Eric sounds so much like A__ of a year ago, and had someone told me how he'd improve, I doubt I would have believed them. I never dared hoped for this sort of turnaround - all I was hoping for was to not be on eggshells all the time, wondering when the next eruption would be... But now we have a wonderful and pleasant boy 90% of the time, a slightly surly boy with a bit of an attitude 9%, and a little monster 1%! It's amazing and I've been surprised by A__'s commitment to behaving better many times. I've also been surprised at the amount of work it's been for us, the amount of help we've needed from friends/family/GW, and the amount of tears I've shed... but so worth it.

I checked my email --- JoAnns has the bolt batting on sale this weekend (TH-Sat) for 60% off and packaged is 40% off with an extra 20% off coupon. The extra 20% doesn't apply to the bolts -- that is a doorbuster special and excluded from the coupon. Grammyp, have you compared the prices on Bluprint? They are having a sale for members this weekend also. They have Warm & Natural -- I bought a twin while I was ordering some fabric. Seemed like a good price ($12.82) but I really had no idea. I will have to check out recycled plastic batting. They can make very soft fibers from plastic bottles, but Im guessing the batting might be on the warm side for Texas climates. But I love the idea.