Oh yeah. I say slash her tires and run like heck. Okay, maybe not, but it would be a good stress release.

Kim

I definitely know how you feel. It's annoying sometimes being the "bigger/better" person. But it does make you a better person! Good luck. Some people just don't have enough to do apparently.

I'm one for a "sit down" conversation. Something attracted you to her for friendship. Did she suddenly change or did you?

If I constantly look at someone and only see their "flaws", then there is something wrong with me.

She could be "jealous" of you for being friends with those that "shun" her. Sounds like she feels like others have "ganged" up on her and she blames you.

Gayle

I know that feeling all too well.

Been there,done that..doc told me to "eliminate",that the stress from those types was slowly killing me.

There are a "group" of that type here where I live now....the only difference,is that these excuses for human beings "hide behind the bible",and that makes all that they do/are ok(in their world)

Good women do get angry and there is nothing wrong with that. vique

Stand tall and I'll bet that things will turn around and you will see her crash and burn. Just be patient and keep a smile on her face....

Susan

I had a friend like that. Well she was never really my friend DH and her BF were good friends. We had nothing in common except her BF. I was nice and tried to do the right thing for 15 years. I eliminated her from my life when we moved to FL. I don't need the drama. There are people that just thrive on the turmoil.

Open up your left hand palm flat and facing up.

Poise your right hand ready to flick a speck off your palm.

Now say "PIIINNNGGG!" and flick it off.

You just flicked her off your world. haha haha. Feel better?

That's her, drama queen. The other thing about her is she acts almost bi-polar. I don't mean to make light of a real issue, but she goes from bubbly to vicious. She can be verbally abusive to people. I guess that isn't bi-polar more like emotionally unstable.

Gayle - a few of us tried the sit-down last year and in the middle of it realized we were getting nowhere. She instantly puts everything off onto other people.
She has for years been the person that we all said "Yea she drives you crazy, but you can't help but like her." I don't really know how to describe it, but she started to do and say things to me and a few of our other friends that made some of us take a step back.

Susan - That's really how it's been for a while now, but it sure isn't easy to maintain that smile. I can honestly say that I haven't once played into her hand by stooping to her level, but it hasn't been easy. That is why I wrote today. I really need to vent and say a few things that weren't nice. I can't talk about her to people I know because they all know her. If I do that then I am just talking behind her back the same way she is.

UGH! All of a sudden I feel like I am back in Jr. High.

Thanks for your support and allowing me to blow off some steam. :o)

Get a voo-doo doll and stick a pin in it whenever you are stressed by this person. Ummm....on second thought perhaps you should write her name all over it while you're at it. LOL

I'm sorry Dani, I hate that "high school" feeling.

Gayle

I had a neighbor like that. Than God she moved to Michigan!

I have a SIL like that. She started a rumor at my wedding that I "had" to get married. I had DS 7 years later, longest pregnancy on record. There is nothing you can do about people like that. I think it is a mental illness. I had to cut her and my DB out of our lives because of her. Thank goodness we live far away from each other.
Clare

I know it stinks, but any real friends you have won't be swayed by her and any that want to participate in her gossip and abuse aren't really people you want as your friends anyway. Hope she bugs off and leaves you alone.

Sounds like a sister-in-law i used to have.She caused soooooooooooooo much trouble for people in our little town that the judge finally told her and my brother that if they came before him again,he would run them out of town.They finally got smart,and moved far enough out of town that no one had to deal with them any longer.
Kathi

Yea even though she frustrates me so much, I am at the point where I feel like if I just ignore her (and keep that smile on my face) she will just fade off into the distance. Right now though she is a major burr in my saddle, and I just can't seem to get her out of my personal space.

Barb - I think you are right. We all have an agreed upon policy to come straight to each other if we hear something that may have come from her. But there still are a couple that have stuck with her and now we feel it isn't safe to have conversations with them about anything other than basic small talk. Everything goes straight back to her.

Maybe that voodoo doll isn't such a bad idea... LOL