i feel your pain, every cutting i've ever give a friend, she kills maby its not in the cards for them to own plants i know lots of folks who just dont have the time/ patience, whatever, to tend to green things not tryin' to be ugly here, but if you've got to tend to all the care, why don't you just keep the plants yourself (wink) i've got an english ivy that takes quite a bit of abuse, the only water he gets is rain, and i haven't transplanted him in years, he seems happy hey, i just had a thought, if they have a nice sunny window, maby a few post of usable herbs would get them more interested, maby they'd tend to them a bit more if they knew they could cook with them last year, for my moms birthday, i bought her three lovley cacti, i don't know how, but she killed them too actually, i dont think she watered them enough, i told her they do need water, but not a huge amount, but i think she thought, since they were cacti, they didn't need water also, she smokes inside her home, and that might have killed them too good luck tesa

Trust me. My mother in law wants nothing to do with this man. & neither do I or his son or his daughter. I'm like Gini: he's greedy & wants as much money as he can get his hands on. He beat my husband with a pipe after my husband's maternal grandfather left him mineral rights. He spent the night in the ER. No jail time was served. A temporary restraininng order was given, but after it expired, we couldn't get another one. He lost his gun rights sometime during the 90s when he had one of his tantrums in the front yard. He kept pointing his gun at people, mostly his kids. Everytime he shows up to someone house, things go missing. It's always random things at that. We''ve lost a crockpot, a weedeater that had missing parts, rusted up dog kennels, a trash can, a broken broom, gas cans, keys, our checkbook almost. He is always asking to "borrow" money. The last time I saw him was not quite a month ago. He showed up at our house needing help finding out what was wrong with his truck. The owner before him had installed an after market alarm system & this what was ausng everything to short out. When my husband identified the problem, he then expected US to pay to have it fixed. He didn't like it when his son told him no. He went into a rage. We have been building a porch, so there is a lot of lumber & other debris piled up around our yard. He starts throwing things, kicking things, all the while yelling non sense & reminding us we don't deserve anything from him & that we are all good for nothing. I grew up with a family just as disfunctional as his, so my tolerance for this kind of crap is very, very low. I went into the house, grabbed my PS90 (put the name in so everyone will believe me when I say the following) & walked back out onto the porch. I told him "This thing holds fifty rounds. You have two options: shut the hell up or get off my property. Other wise, I'M making you shut up." He gave me a filthy look before he got into this truck & left. I knew of him before I met my husband, so my opinion of his was low. As far as my sister in law goes, even with out the animals, her check wouldn't be able to cover the bills. The rates in that area are high. I know. I used to live there. She was granted full custody (I don't the correct term) over her SS after her father was caught sifering the money. She is well over the age of 18. Besides, she is mentally retarded. If she wants a few animals to take care of, then by all means let her have some freaking pets. There is legal aid here, but they only do the divorce, no allemony, childsupport, that kind of thing. My mother in law is wanting allemony.

Thank you for all your prayers and good wishes. She sees a surgeon next week. So hope they can do something for her.

This is one of the most disturbing posts I've ever read here - in fact, it's been haunting me since it first appeared. I don't know which is worse -- the idea that you molested your wife's sister, or the idea that you didn't and she claims you did. Either way, it's a horrible, awful mess. For what it's worth, I find it very hard to believe that a young woman who behaves anywhere near appropriately would have been molested by 2 of her 3 brothers-in-law... Of course, there's no way to prove either side of the story, since there wouldn't have been any witnesses. So it all boils down to a question of character, history and reputation. If your character is above reproach, your story should be believed (though perhaps quietly, since it's likely D is emotional, dramatic and vocal) and this should all blow over in a few months. If your character hasn't always been above reproach, let this situation serve as a warning that you need to monitor your behavior a little more carefully, and that in the future, you should not to let D get within 10 feet of you. Without knowing any of the parties involved, I would have a tendency to believe that there was some truth to each side, with exaggerations and distortions likely on both sides.