Wanted to second happyladi's Crizal recommendation. Best AR coating I've ever had! I always get AR for two reasons: so there is no reflection bouncing off my eyes if someone is looking at me. And looking outward at night especially, no light bouncing around. Takes the fuzzy halo off car headlights, etc. I used to get tiny wispy scratches almost precisely at the 1 year mark, and it was a rapid descent from there, so bad it was impossible to see through the swirls. (It was like the darn things were designed to disintegrate as soon as the warranty was up.) When my clinic offered the much pricier Crizal I tried it out of sheer frustration. And it comes with a 2 year warranty. With my current lenses it's going on 18 months and zero annoying scratches. (Rinsing under water is part of my twice daily face cleansing routine. Major lens mileage. It's those 'grab the shirttail' wipes that are damaging.) Now, a story about older women, eyeglasses and color. There is a gentleman that works in the optical department at my clinic. He dresses like a Brit going to tea with the Queen. Impeccable. So dapper and so adept at helping women pick frames, I adore him. (Plus he calls me 'darlin', gets me every time. ;) So anyway, last time I went for a plastic frame, haven't worn those since the 80's but the size and shape were perfect and they were oh so comfortable. Then chose the light golden brown tortoise shell. A good neutral. Being half blind is a real disadvantage trying on frames. My gentleman consultant is my best judge in all things eyeglass related, even beating out my brutally honest sister. He liked the frames very much but was "eh" over the color I had chosen. So safe and predictable. I needed an updated spare pair. He said "Here darlin', try these." He nudged me to the same frame in amethyst. Now I happen to love amethyst & purples, but for glasses sitting on my face my inner voice said "Uh, no way, dapper dude". Once they lined up the possibles on their camera machine, I became a little more receptive. Still had doubts because those machines are helpful but they make driver's license photos look like a pro studio job. Decided it was time to shake things up and go for it. Once my glasses came in the difference was amazing. You know the eye shadow palettes recommended for certain eye colors? Purples are often recommended for hazel eyes. The amethyst somehow plays off and really emphasizes the gold in my hazel eyes and absolutely brightened both my eyes & complexion. Heck, my cheeks even look rosier. Still pushing out of my comfort zone some, they were going to be my 'fun' pair when going out, etc. Well, my gentleman friend nailed it again. Wore the neutral, no one close to me noticed. The first time I wore the amethyst a girl at the insurance office was helping me and during a moment on hold she suddenly complimented the color. And the compliments kept coming, even 18 months later. (That never happens.) Usually where people are standing around killing time; grocery store checkout, in line at the bank. Always women, surprisingly often much younger women. I stopped to visit my cousin and the only change since our last visit several months prior was my highlights (too subtle to notice) and the frames. She was looking at me and said "Something is different." She paused, squinted, and said "Hey, did you get botox, you look younger". Nope and cool :) I don't even know where the safe neutral pair is, think in the console of my car. The amethyst are my everyday pair. Moral of this story is once you get the right frame size & shape for you face, don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and go for color! It might just surprise you :)

Geez, Louise. I just did this except I'm the grandmother of the bride. Nordstroms has a lot on their web site. Some are reasonable and some are ridiculous. We went to Northpark in Dallas (my poor youngest daughter) I found a skirt at Nordstroms for the rehearsal dinner, but I found what I was looking for at Dillards. We have a Dillards, but it's not as big as that one. They had plus sizes. Good luck. I've been the MOB twice and MOG twice and it's an ordeal. It's so frustrating I get to the point I dont even care what it costs, but I thought what I got at Dillards was reasonable. Not so at Nordstroms, but it was just perfect. Good luck. Nobody hates shopping more than I do. I told my daughter I had been dreading this shopping trip, and she said she had, too. LOL Glad when it was over. Now, just stuff for the showers and luncheons--that won't be as hard. Super good luck!!!

Don't do internet contact stuff, but..... Gross inaccuracy would be a no-no, IMHO. Anything close would be OK. None of us see ourselves as others see us. I think there's room for flexibility while remaining in the realm of reality. And lots of "unattractive" people become attractive as we come to know them. Seems to me, though, that if I responded to an HWP (height weight proportionate) "middle-aged" WF (white female) Christian and a fat, Puerto Rican, atheist 60-year-old showed up, I would be disappointed in the intentional deception. Don't see any sense in that. Wastes everyone's time.

Thanks to everyone. I just got back from the trip. After ordering and returning several pairs of women's pants, where the pockets were too shallow for practicality, or the rise was too low, or the pockets made me look baggy, or the fabric contained spandex (too hot for the desert where I was going), I was out of time. I will look into the tactical pants when I have more time, but ordering and returning was getting very frustrating. Following raven cajun’s practical suggestion, what I ended up buying in-store the week before I left, were men's rip-stop 100% cotton pants, Wrangler’s. They had both deep front pockets and flattish cargo pockets which were not the gusseted puffy looking kind. I had to buy them large enough to accommodate a woman's derriere (not large by any means, but larger than a man's), then take them in at the waistband. I can sew and tailor, but even for someone with few skills in this area; it was very easy and fast to do, and could be done by hand if needed. (I mention this in case someone else needs to take the same route.) I ordered one pair of Cherokee black cotton scrubs with lots of pockets from Amazon, and sewed snaps into 2 of the pockets. Those were my “dress” pants, LOL. In the evening I doubt anyone could even see that I was bristling with pockets. I HAD bought 1 pair of women's cargo pants from L. L. Bean that fit (which were on sale but 3 x the price of the men's pants I bought locally), but only wore them once. They have spandex and were much too hot. The front pockets were too shallow to hold anything but a folded Kleenex without being afraid it would fall out when sitting. I will add a deeper pocket liner to those later to make them longer inside. The cargo pockets on the leg of those were fine. I also ordered a ScottEvest, a lightweight jacket version, but did not use it on this trip. It was always too hot. I’m sure I can use that later.