It will probably be fine. I had a cat that just loved my HOT EMBER daylily and laid in it early this spring, mashing the whole thing. Then, after the daylily started coming back, the darned cat laid in it again and broke several fans. But I'm here to say that it bloomed fine and in the picture below you can see some of the broken fans in front. HOT EMBER

Tell hubs to stick his pride in his back pocket ... ... stop ... ... and pick it up! What's with getting your wife to do your dirty work? In her p j's, yet ... so the neighbours'd think she was sleep-walking, I suppose! o j

Mercy, have you got a lot on your plate! I admire your cheerfulness & perseverence. I think people have a wrong impression about "mental illness"; they think someone who has a brain disorder acts crazy, when really they usually act like anyone else, & their symptoms often do not include "acting crazy". As you say, bi-polar people can be fractious, argumentative, & unreasonable....& that sounds like a lot of other people as well. I think I might work on that part of the problem first. If he can realize that your daughter really does have a disorder, that she's not just being difficult or using her problems as a crutch, he can calm down & develop more reasonable expectations of her. & I think you're going to *have* to inhale, exhale, take a step backwards, & look after yourself. No one person can solve everyone else's problems, & if you kill yourself from the stress of trying, those grandchildren never *will* get to know & enjoy their grandmother. As far as your hubs's mother rejecting him... That would hurt anyone. but if he can look at the situation from the perspective of his adult self, he'll realize that she couldn't have been a good mother to him then (that's the reason he was adopted), & she still can't be a mother to him. She just doesn't have it. I'd say if he was brought up to be a good person & a responsible adult, & if he's found some uncles who adore him, he's a lucky person indeed. Take care.

How in the world could bulbs be mistaken for potatoes?Very funny. About 1 year after DH and I were married he decided to make homemade soup. Couldn't find a pot big enough (We had one just didn't look very hard) He found my crock pot and took the ceramic inside out to use as pot. When I can home I found him mopping up soup from the floor, inside of stove and oven. Of course the slow cooker liner cracked and soup went everywhere. He likes to make dinner once a week but the disaster he leaves behind...He uses so many pots and pans to make something simple. He reminds me of the kid on Peanuts that always has a cloud of dust around him, just so messy.