Marlene, you have been in my thoughts and prayers also, even though I haven't posted either. Even if you can legally take down the gates, I wouldn't touch them. I would ask the court to order him to take them down himself, since he bought the materials and built them, he should have to go out and take them down. The court should order them to be taken down by a specific date so that if he doesn't comply you can call the police and either force him to do it or face being arrested for failure to comply with a court order. Your lawyer should ask the judge to enter this order, so that you don't have to go out and expose yourselves to this maniac. I had a nasty neighbor years ago who I always just thought was a jerk who come over and stole our concord grapes off the vines. Even when I cought him doing it he laughed and said the former owners said that he could have them and since she had planted th vine, it was her decision. His stupidity left me speechless. We put a lock on our gate, but the vine was close enough to the fence that he could reach across and take the grapes, which he did the following year. Moments after I witnessed him stealing the grapes for the third year in a row, I went over and demanded he give them back to me. He responded that he and his wife had already eaten them. I knew he was lying, but when his wife meekly confirmed the lie, I knew by the way he looked at her and the way that she cowered that she was a battered spouse. Watch your neighbor if he has any family and see how they look at him and how they react when he speaks to them. The signs will be obvious if you're looking for them. A couple we visited once were having a disagreement and he turned around suddenly to look at her and held up his hand. She flinched in such a way that we knew that she was used to being struck by him. Watch what this man does with his hands while he's talking and you will know if he is violent. Cheryl

Hi, thanks jerrycan for pointers, however, the leaves do not 'drop off', they only break off if forced to come back up to a horizontal position. I have the plant sitting on a pebble tray for humidity and I always ensure that the soil is consistently moist, not muddy. Could it be an issue with the water itself...I live in a rural area and have well water which is UV shocked, then filtered before reaching a faucet, and I try to make sure that the water has sat out for 24 hours before using it. All but the bottom 4 leaves still display normal prayer plant behavior, folding at night and opening in the day, although I believe that I briefly had it positioned where it received too much sun, as the colored spots on the leaves changed from brown to dark green, but I understand that this also occurs as the leaves mature. Any thoughts on the artificial lighting set-up?

WOW........ I have to say....this post alone just shows me so much!!..On TOP of all the prayers that went up for my family during a severe crisis....... WHAT GREAT PEOPLE YOU ALL ARE......HOW BLESSED WE ARE... I am so .... AMAZED.....that internet lets us meet people we wouldn't ordinarly meet in real life.......because of 'life'..ALL OF IT..the GOOD..the BAD..the EVERY DAY HAPPINESS...""ALL OF IT"". MISS JOLANA......YOU are SO LOVED.....your FAMILY is loved so much because of You..... It will be great for your Daughter...it will happen, because of the Prayers..the Love of everyone she knows and everyone You know...in the real world or cyberworld..I truely believe this...I LIVED IT (The Power of Prayer and Love)....What is suppose to happen WILL HAPPEN, and I really Belive it will be GRAAND!!! Let her know ALL of OUR arms are wrapped around you and her family.....DONT GIVE UP!!...NEVER!! With Love, Dena

I like the idea of including the other grandma, but starting off the bracelet with a charm or two each. I think the fun of a charm bracelet is adding to it over time. Like Azzalea, I don't ever wear mine, but I'm glad I have it. My mother gave me charms while I was a teenager to remind me of different things. My favorite charm was an ice cream cone. She and I had gone to a very fancy fashion mall and got ice cream cones. We were window shopping while licking our cones when suddenly the ice cream fell off her cone and went SPLAT on the nice floor. We looked at each other with wide eyes and RAN AWAY. It was so uncharacteristic for either of us, because normally we would have tried to clean it up. We were so embarrassed that the ice cream fell and then we ran, but we both found it so FUNNY and we still laugh about it. She got me the cone to remember that moment of bonding in my teen years. I think it means far more to me now than it did then.