I'd choose the wall paint first because that is the constant equation in my MB. The bedding changes between at least three different colors/patterns during the year; summer weight, spring/autumn weight, and it is relatively cold out there weight. And the bedding can change out of boredom, too. My walls haven't changed color since I first painted them three years ago.

Thanks so much! I actually came across a magazine ad that had grey walls with silver/grey and yellows and oak trim! I LOVED it and chose my wall color by it because I loved how it looked with the oak trim but now I can't find the same ad!! I've searched high and low for another inspiration picture and cant find anything with oak trim! Also the furnture we have now *is* dark so I will get a chance to see what that looks like.. if I like it I'll stick with dark when we get our new set. :)

I don't think he cares as long as it is not floral. i was considering these. https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/ralph-lauren-marylebone-bedding-collection?ID=2963665&CategoryID=1004678#fn=ppp%3Dundefined%26sp%3DNULL%26rId%3DNULL%26spc%3D483%26spp%3D42%26rsid%3Dundefined%26smp%3DmatchNone https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/robert-graham-tapestry-bedding-collection?ID=3113482&CategoryID=1004678#fn=ppp%3Dundefined%26sp%3DNULL%26rId%3DNULL%26spc%3D483%26spp%3D10%26rsid%3Dundefined%26smp%3DmatchNone or a solid with texture https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/hudson-park-interlock-collection-100-exclusive?ID=2681386&CategoryID=1004678#fn=ppp%3Dundefined%26sp%3DNULL%26rId%3DNULL%26spc%3D483%26spp%3D18%26pn%3D3%7C6%7C18%7C483%26rsid%3Dundefined%26smp%3DmatchNone

I like the first one but you need much bigger lamps , I like non sheer drapes in a bedroom FYI>