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jeri

Best way to handle this situation

18 years ago

Bio-mom took her daughter (my step-daughter) to England last year over Spring Break. No problem. We had planned on taking sd to Hawaii for Spring Break this year  the parents alternate holidays. Recently, sdÂs school announced a field trip to New York for the Regiment Band over Spring Break. OK  we can switch from Hawaii to NY  might be fun for all of us (I have a 9 y.o too).

Problem: Bio-mom insists on going - says it is a school function and she plans to be there. In fact, she has already signed up to be a chaperone. She has been very open with her dislike for me, constantly telling sd why IÂm a bad mother, that I am "destructive", that I will take her father away from her (away from the daughter that is), that I wonÂt last, etc. I really do not want to spend our precious vacation $$ and time with my husbands ex-wife. He doesnÂt either.

IÂm not sure what to do.

a) Not go to NY or Hawaii this spring break. Explain to sd that we want to save our $$ for Hawaii and we will go in Summer or perhaps over Christmas break instead.

b) Talk to a lawyer and see about enforcing the split holidays  and forcing her to stay home.

c) Somehow suck it up and go  even though the ex will be there. Really not sure I can do thisÂ

d) ???

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