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Don't know how to deal with boyfriend and x-wife

feelssoalone
16 years ago

Hello,

I just read one similar to the one I am about to post. I have many, many more issues. Okay, first b/f and x have been divorced for 7years. We have been together for 6 and living together for 5 1/2. They have a 8yr old girl and we have a 14mo old girl. She met her DH months after the initial seperation and delivered her other daughter to her new hubby just after I met my b/f( a year after the divorce). Everytime something goes wrong in her life, she calls my b/f. One time she was searching the history on her computer and saw that her DH had looked at ONE pornographical website. She called my b/f crying, asking why, and if she was pretty enough, and if she was worth loving, etc... then she started only calling my b/f cell phone to cell phone. this upset me. If she would call the house and I answered the phone she would hang up on me. When we bought our home THREE years ago (4 years after their divorce) she yelled at him telling him that we didn't have any business buying a home together since we weren't married. When she found out I was pregnant, she went back for more child support and had it raised an extra $200. She bad mouths me, degrades me, tells him that she is going to smack the sh*t out of me. She ran her car into his ( with their daughter in it and not yet buckled) and begged him not to call the police or our insurance because she was driving without any coverage. Okay, now for the bad stuff; we fought continuously about all of this plus so much more. He cheated on me with her back in dec. And now her husband has left her. She called my b/f crying when she found out that her still DH had a new girlfriend. She called him one day telling him that she had to call off work the day before cause she was in the hospital due to swallowing a bottle of sleeping pills cause her DH left her and my b/f didn't want anything to do with her.I felt bad for her(I didn't know about the cheating just yet). I tried to help her. She was still a jerk to me. Well in July, I found out about the cheating. I started to leave and then was talked out of it by the b/f using our home and our daughter. My b/f says that he doesn't want anything to do with her. When he takes his daughter home, he is there for literally hours. I said that I wasn't going to deal with this crap anymore. He said that he cannot be rude and just cut her off cause it will effect his daughter. Since the DH left the x in feb, she has been with 12 different guys. My b/f feels like he needs to be over at his xs house so he can prevent this stuff. He says that he will not do things that he knows will cause a fight cause he is afraid of what his daughter will have to deal with. He doesn't want to go to court cause his daughter will see it and know that he is the one causing all the problems. His daughter asked him to promise her that he would not start anymore problems with the x and asked him to just do whatever "her mommy" wanted. He agreed. .... Sorry, I am not abel to vent to anyone. .... I want alot out of life. i am 25 and want a guy who will put me on a pedestal. I will graduate from college and have my RN degree in May. I have alot going to me. I don't know what to do for a number of reasons. My b/f wants to get married. I would love to get married and have that commitment but I just don't know. I am not able to afford our home alone. I don't want joint custody of our daughter. She is literally the only person I have. I am REALLY afraid of what will happen with my daughter if we split and he goes back to the ex.

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