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I just read your post to scaruso on the other thread. I had a lot of drama w/ my SD, 24, in April. It was much of what you described - right down to the issues. DH paying for all of her luxuries in life despite any hardships on me or our three boys, her living w/ us - not contributing one thing in money or time while I was Cinderella, lol, the Stepmonster reversal! And, at one point, SD went off to me about her father for something he was putting off doing for her regarding her car. I stopped her and said something to the effect that while she worked an abbreviated day, he worked from 8-6+. He had no time to devote to our basic necessities w/ this insurance runaround we've gotten (had a fire in 4/05 that has crippled us, still not settled, he makes endless phone calls for this daily - have issues w/ our house not having its inspections finalized and workers who don't seem to care that the city is threatening to kick us out, etc.) I said that if she wanted something done, ordered, or fixed, the greatest gift she could give him would be to handle it herself! She was taken aback. Luckily, because we have her deadbeat brother's car sitting in the driveway (owe more on it than we could sell it for), she wasn't hurting for transportation.
Anyway, on Good Friday, she and I had it out. DH sat by like a deaf mute, but sat right beside her. Later, when I said, "I cannot believe you allowed your daughter to speak to me like that..." He said, "She said the same thing!"
Honey, at that moment, I understood how some wives want to kill their husbands. I swear, I wanted NOTHING to do w/ him for ages. We went to marriage counseling and it made a huge difference. I was angered that when we're having a tough time making ends meet, we had to pay someone to tell him some common sense crap, you know?
Anyway, it was money well spent in retrospect and she is now gone - we are on decent terms again.
Good luck,
Dana
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