I think you have to go with what feels right - you're standing in the room, we're not. The problem (IMHO) is the math is off for the entire room. Lord, that's sounds awful doesn't it? lol! But it's really not that tragic. :) It just makes it harder to balance and distribute contrasts, texture, color, etc. Math is a wonderous thing and is key in any kind of design whether 2 dimensional in a graphic or artistic sense or 3 dimensional in an architectural sense. Get the math right for stuff like crown widths, door height, mantle height, where light switches are placed, or whatever and it's a lot easier to decorate -- things just seem to *fall into place* with little effort or stress. Thing is your room is (I'm guessing) just like the majority of rooms out there. The math is off. Happens for various reasons. Original drawings are altered to fit the lot, carpenters do one part while masons do another, and on and on. Often there isn't one person involved who knows about golden ratios passing calculators out to everyone and double checking this to that. The trick to use wall space with varying widths of trim is a good trick to make moldings look more expensive and substantial but probably not necessary in a room with 9ft ceilings. Because the math doesn't work out right. That's why I suggested just taking the small bead of trim off. But ya can't. So absolutely try it the way you think will fudge everything into feeling right. It can come out just fine and no one will be the wiser about the stuff that might not add up perfectly by the numbers.

We have Kilim Beige in our basement. We love it. As I recall, the BM salesperson said that Kilim Beige was their number one selling color.

No shutters, please. This stunning house is painted with Sherwin Williams Alabaster.

Looks like the original windows were arched and since the new ones aren't it has created a disconnect between the window and the lintel (trim over the window). A suggestion would be to pick your main body color and then paint the lintels a complementary color, maybe even from the same color strip, that is a couple of shades darker. Leave the windows white, along with the trim at the top, except use the same color used on the lintels to highlight part of the cornice trim (maybe the corbels or the dentil moulding). Long term I would remove the wood deck/porch and replace with something more appropriate (pavers, stamped concrete, etc.). Also opening up/replacing the the transom windows over the front door and changing the front door to one that is an appropriate style would help to complete the look. If you're interested in seeing some virtual makeovers of your home check out my web site, Creative Visual Concepts.