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How long have you lived in your home and do you plan to stay?

natesgram
9 years ago

I'm about to move into our 8th home and I'm always curious about people who have picked a home and stayed in it for many years. We picked our current area because of family being close by. My mother has been in her home 58 years and many of her neighbors were original owners.

I've been in what I thought was my forever home but circumstances forced us to sell and move on. I know some people are waiting for the market to improve so they can sell and move to what they hope will be their forever home.

Like jobs, more people seem to change more than they used to. So, I'm just curious, how long have you lived in your home?

Comments (87)

  • maddielee
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    30 years. On a street where all the neighbors have been here at least 15 years, many longer then us.

    We'll stay here as long as we both stay healthy.

    ML

  • lynninnewmexico
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    20 years this past Memorial Day weekend. We were in our first one for 9 years. Then one year in a rented townhome while this place was being built. We planned this as our "dream home in the mountains". Back then we had one grade school son and I was told to give up; that I'd never be able to have another child. We designed a large room for DS and a small guest room filled with wonderful Western art and antiques. The day after Labor Day ~ SURPRISE!~ I found out that I was pregnant with DD! There went our guest room . . . although very happily.

    Now with DS grown up and working in Tucson and DD a college sophomore out of state, this place is feeling almost too big for DH & myself. We may sell it in the next few years for something smaller with a small lot instead of all this land. But, I do love my home!
    Lynn

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  • springroz
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    Like Allison, I come from a long line of stay-putters, except that my great-grandparents put everything in a box on a ship and came here from Germany.

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  • sochi
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    I love moving! It is the purging and fresh start I like I think.

    DH and I are approaching our mid-40s. Been in this house 4.5 years, it is our fourth house (that we've owned) as a couple. I do love this house, it has a perfect layout for us and a fantastic (but insanely expensive) neighbourhood. I would move again, but we will likely stay put until our youngest child, now 6, heads off to university. Then we will downsize and (hopefully anyway) spend winters somewhere nice and warm.

  • mtnrdredux_gw
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    DH and I married in our thirties and bought our first house before we had kids, but with kids and live in help in mind, and so it was very large. We thought it would be our first and last house. We were there about 10 years.

    As I've bored many of you with before, we somewhat randomly came across our current house and took the leap, having fallen in love with the setting. I imagine too, that we will be here forever (we are on year 3). It has the MBR on the 1st floor, lovely grounds, and indoor pool for staying fit, and kept the previous occupant (of some slight renown) happy and healthy till 95. I imagined DH and I rambling around the place in our dotage.

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  • denali2007
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

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  • beaglesdoitbetter1
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  • mtnrdredux_gw
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

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  • eclecticcottage
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    2 years and we plan to keep it til we die. LOVE this house, at about 700 sq ft it will never be too big to take care of, and with one story on a slab there's no stairs to worry about. This is house #2. We still own house #1 that we now rent out after living there for 15 years. Our tenants love it and have no plans to move. We had never planned to move from there but had to get a single story and that was a 1 3/4 story with no option for 1st floor bedroom or adding on. Still love it, but love the Cottage and the location here WAY MORE.

  • annkh_nd
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

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  • nini804
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We've been in our home 2 years, and were in the house prior to this 14 years. We would be happy to live in this house until time for the pine box! We custom built it on a lot in our dream neighborhood. We are actually less than a mile from our previous home...but we wanted a bigger lot and home, and to basically tailor a house to us. We love having roots in our wonderful small town, and hope we are creating special memories for our children.

  • outsideplaying_gw
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We built our home 16 years ago, and built it to stay as long as we can. We wanted the country, rural life but we aren't too far from the convenience of city life either. I am still working but DH has been retired for 3 years now so he has time to do almost all the outside maintenance, we both garden (me avidly), and we love travel, and spending time with our kids, grandkids, and friends. So we are on the go a lot. Our house is one level, wide hallways and doorways, easy care. When it's too much to take care of outside, we'll obviously give it up and move into town, and downsize a little.

  • mojomom
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

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    acdesignsky
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We've been here for 6 yrs. DH and I are in our early 40's and lived in over a dozen houses between us before starting high school. I have never been able to really attach to a place, even a city or state really. We both moved to our current city in high school and considered it home even though we both left again right after high school. We married a few years later and spend the first decade moving as opportunities arose, kids in tow. Five moves in 4 states in 12 yrs. all that time, we referred to this city as "home" though neither of us had family here anymore. Our kids hit middle school and we had all had enough moving. What luck, DH's company had an opening back "home". We made our final move here. Now as the kids are only a couple of years from college, DH and I talk about moving again, but I hope to keep a home in this neighborhood forever. I get the itch to try a new house or city, maybe a new continent entirely, and hopefully we'll be able to live a few of those dreams, but I want to have a place here that our kids, grand kids, etc consider home that always has a bed waiting for them!

  • gsciencechick
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    DH bought this house when we first met 10 years ago, so he has lived here 10, me 7. I had a small townhome for 6 years which I sold soon after I moved here.

    Our neighbors have recently sold their homes for really good asking prices, but what/where we like is way out of price range, or what is in price range is either out in rural areas making at least one of commutes an hour or longer, or else even smaller homes than what we have now. Really frustrating. We do want single family vs. condo.

    Sigh. So, right now, we plan to stay and pay it off. One advantage of our house is it is a single floor plan, so perhaps we will eventually do an addition that would add a patio room , separate laundry, and expand the bathrooms. We only have 1.5 baths. That may be better than moving.

  • ks92
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We've been in our current home since 2006 -- the longest we have lived in one place during our 20 year marriage. Our plan is to be here another 5 years or so and want to downsize to a warmer climate once DD #2 is in college. This is house #5.

  • porkandham
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We bought this house when we got married thinking we would only be in it for a few years, but here we are 12 years later! I'm in my mid 40s, DH is in his early 50s, and we have two elementary school aged boys. Our house works well for us, and we love our neighbors and schools. Housing is fairly expensive here, and there's not much out there under $1,000,000 that would make me want to move, so I imagine we'll be here for a while!

  • gwlolo
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    Been here for 3 years but remodeling for most of it. Never want to leave. We planned the home to be our forever home. As my elderly mom lives with us, we have made a lot of aging in place accommodations. The single level suits us. I love the garden and everything is quite closeby.
    Growing up, we moved every 2-3 years as my Dad's job posted him in different cities. By the time I was in 5th grade, I knew how to pack, label boxes, manage movers etc. Don't want to ever do that again.

  • jakabedy
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    DH and I have been in this house 6 years. When we married ten years ago, he was divorced with no house, so he moved into my 1,100 square-foot 2/1 tudor bungalow. It seemed cramped right away and we moved to a more desirable historic neighborhood and got 2,100 square feet. A surprise job loss meant we needed to sell that house and downsize in house cost and in lifestyle. We found an amazing house (even bigger - 2,600 square feet!) in another historic area that was a bit depressed. After two years, we saw that neighborhood was never going to "come back" and made a big change and moved to our current home. The nice part about all of these moves is that they took place between 2002 and 2007, so we made good money on these houses.

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    But we're now drawing closer to DH's possible retirement, and my work prospects have changed with the economy (my former field, at my level, pretty much doesn't exist in my city anymore; my subsequent/current self-employment pays the bills, but I'm not seeing much growth potential). So we're thinking very hard about a big relocation: from the SE to the SW.

    I spent the spring/summer helping my mom move and doing all the downsizing/donating/tossing/selling that is involved with that. It helped me realize that we hold onto so many things not out of nostalgia or need, but mainly just due to inertia: bodies at rest tend to stay at rest. The trick is to get them moving. So now I've just taken my momentum and moved it to our own house. I'm taking on one area at a time. It might be a room, or it might be simply a closet. But I'm going through and purging in anticipation of a move within a few years. And if we don't move? Heck, at least I've simplified things.

  • ThreeBeez
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We have been in this house for 6 years, which is the fifth house we've owned as a couple. We knew our previous moves were temporary, so we always purchased and reno'd with resale in mind. It was rarely to our personal taste.

    When we moved here, we had a "turnover" house to wait until exactly what we wanted came up. We did not want to compromise on location, lot, and possibilities of the home.

    The right house came up soon after infant twins, and unless our jobs necessitate a move, we are here for many years to come. And, I'll be honest, the stress and drama of buying and selling has worn thin on me. Now, to find the time to do everything we want to do.....

  • tracie.erin
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    last modified: 7 years ago

    A bit over 4 years. I hope to not have to move as I hate moving, plus we bought as a fixer-upper and have put a lot of work into this house. Due to the amount of work we had to do (read: mess we had to live in) and the fact that it takes me a long time to settle in, it is just finally starting to feel like home this past year.

    However, we are young still so we may have to move for work or because we find it too small after we start a family (1600 sq foot, although we can always finish the 800 sq foot basement..). ..

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  • mrsmortarmixer
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    DH and I have been in this house for 5 years. Before that, he owned a home a few towns over for 4 years before we married and I moved in. We stayed for 2 years after we married.

    I think this will be our home for the next 15 years or so until the girls graduate high school. We keep discussing just fixing what's left to fix here and moving to something with more property, but trying to find something bigger with more land, and a pole barn would be a huge expense, and honestly, I like living without a mortgage enough to stay in this house, as is, for the rest of my life.

    We are planning an addition this spring to make this house more suitable for our family size and to make it easier to sell down the road. We're hoping it will leave our options open in the odd event some amazing deal comes up again.

  • bonnieann925
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We have lived in this house for 29 years and have no plans on selling. We first moved to this town as newlyweds, stayed in our first house for 7 years, then moved to this house with a 3-year old and a new baby, and subsequently had a third child here. House is paid off, kids are through college and have flown the nest, but we still love our house, neighborhood and town.

    Recently we bought a second home on Cape Cod. The realtor asked if we plan on retiring there. We both are in agreement that we do not want to be more than a 30 minute drive from the city and the airport. We like to travel and take advantage of all the city has to offer.

    We feel fortunate that (so far) our 3 grown children are all living and working in/around Boston. Now if we could only get them to clean out their rooms here.........

    I'm 59 and work full-time. DH is 62 and works PT from home. He's outside staining the deck while dinner marinates.

  • 3katz4me
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    last modified: 7 years ago

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    When we first moved in I considered it a "temporary" situation as the house didn't have all the features I wanted - but the location was fabulous. About fourteen years ago we decided we really didn't need any more features in this house after all and bought a weekend lake place instead of a bigger, better house. A great decision for us - love both places.

  • juliekcmo
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    I'm like Pal.

    Been here a month.

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    It has a less formal layout, and will be great as we age. Also a better layout for adult children to visit. It is a reverse story and a half. Street level with master br, second bed and bath. Third br and bath in the lower level walkout by the family room.

    We plan to live here several decades. It has lock and leave convenience for travel once we retire.

  • maire_cate
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We've been here 30 years and can stay as long as we desire. We like everything about our home which we've extensively enlarged and remodeled. It's comfortable, roomy, and located on a nice tree lined street in a great suburb (Money magazine named it the # 1 town some years ago ) and best of all it's paid for! We bought when mortgage rates were 16% and our property values have survived the housing downturn.

    We do have a second home on 100+ acres in the mountains and originally DH thought we'd sell this home and move there when he retires. We designed it with the MBR on the first floor and it would be perfect for us. It has a whole house generator and several wood burning stoves so the occasional power outage wouldn't be a problem. Another plus is that our taxes would be significantly lower there.

    But our adult children now live 8 miles away in the city and I love how easy it is for them to just pop over and swim in the pool or join us for dinner. Last month I treated DD to dinner and a performance of Wicked and this weekend they'll join us for a BBQ - bringing an assortment of spouses, significant others and dogs. I vividly remember having to drive well over an hour to visit my parents and at times it was difficult. I don't want to repeat that for my kids if I can avoid it.

    Our current plan is to stay put for the time being and at some time -probably within 5 years- we'll downsize. Where we're going at that point we don't know, but we're fortunate that we don't have to make a decision now and perhaps some thing or some place will call to us.

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  • Karenseb
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    last modified: 7 years ago

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    Second house - needed more room for kids (9 years)
    Third house - relocation from NJ to Northshore of Chicago (7years to date)

    I yearn to get back to NJ, but husband's job is here and our kids are entrenched in the community and school. So, when the youngest approaches graduation from H.S., our plan is to downsize here and then purchase a summer home at the Jersey Shore. At least that's the plan....but anything can happen! (I never thought we'd live anywhere but NJ)

    All that being said - I'd love to design and build our own home someday... so that's in the mix as well.

  • awm03
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    Violet_West, congratulations! Hope you are enjoying your house, wishing you many happy years in it.

    pal, I didn't realize you were finally in your new home. May we see some pictures? Best wishes to the palimpsest household for many happy years in your new home too.

    We are 17 years in My Little Tract House. The retirement light at the end of the tunnel is looking brighter now, and for the first time DH & I are thinking maybe the house and its 1 1/4 acres are getting beyond our physical capacity for DIY maintenance (not that we're, like, getting old or anything...lol).

    We've poured so much of ourselves (not to mention $$$) into this property, I don't think DH will ever leave. He stlll enjoys working in the big yard and likes what the house has become. A smaller home & property to maintain is sounding better & better to me, and I don't have strong emotional ties here, in all honesty. But we're a ways from having to make any hard decisions yet.

    Funny, but just this morning I was sitting in a comfy FR chair, laptop in lap, coffee mug in hand, enjoying GW, when I looked up and thought, "Gee, this family room could be really beautiful..." After 17 years, it hits me.

    This post was edited by awm03 on Wed, Aug 21, 13 at 10:26

  • hhireno
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We got married and moved into this house. We've been here 20 years and we don't have a formal exit strategy in place. My husband plans to continue working for another 10+ years. I like the house, the neighbors, and the location.

    The house is 40+ years old. We've renovated the kitchen and 2 full baths. I wish I could do the kitchen over since I know so much more now than I did then. Maybe someday I'll tweek it again but it's fine and much better than before.

    If I had to downsize or go to one floor living, I like my sister's condo floor plan and low maintenance but don't like the issues and expenses that can develop with an POA. I'd rather have a stand alone house and pay for outside maintenance.

    We have a 2nd place but it's our vacation place. We don't have plans to ever live there full time.

  • runninginplace
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    Such interesting stories!

    We've lived here 24 years (this month) and don't plan to ever move anywhere. Actually, the only other home in which we have lived as a couple was around the corner :). A small but well built place that my husband bought before we met, and into which I moved when we married. 3 years and one child later we needed more space but wanted to stay in the neighborhod so found a bigger house and lot a block away. Moved in, had second child and have never even considered leaving.

    Living here has benefitted us in ways large and small, including some that really can't even be measured, in large part due to my system analyst husband's foresight. He works at a university and wanted to be within walking distance of the office. Our home is 3 blocks away. Since I also work there this has meant that we literally have a 1-minute 'commute' to work. And since both my kids attended or attend the same university, they too benefit from never having to sit in traffic, ever. In fact all of us ride our bikes back and forth. Of all the positives of living here, this is one that I think may yield the best benefit in terms of quality of life. Never having to sit in traffic to get to or from the job, being able to come and go so easily from work to home or vice versa...priceless.

    I haven't always loved the house itself but over time and a series of major updates it has come ever closer to being just right. It's a well built 1950 ranch (meaning in SoFla real estate it is solid as a rock, no shoddy construction techniques back then). The yard is very large for the area; you can't buy this much property any more for reasonable prices. My husband planted oaks when we moved in and after 20+ years of growth we now have an incredibly lush and shady yard, both back and front.

    And as we move into the empty nest stage having 'only' three bedrooms and two bathrooms and small closets (my major aggravations about the house) will be just fine for us. It's all on one level so no worries about mobility. Paid it off years ago so the carrying costs are minimal-we couldnt rent a studio apartment for the amount we pay in property taxes. And aside from being close to our jobs, even once we retire the location is still ideal. Because of sprawl our neighborhood is now considered close-in and extremely desirable so even though we don't plan to sell, if we ever wanted to we would net major profit. It's also much cheaper to improve what we have than to move so if I want a pool, more remodeling etc. that is well within reach. It's close to transportation, recreation (a mile from the ocean) and shopping.

    So that's our story. 2 decades and goin' nowhere till that haul-us-out-feet-first moment!

  • Cloud Swift
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    28 years in this house. I didn't expect that we would stay here so long when we moved in. We had two houses before this one, each for less than 5 years.

    We considered moving to Southern California because of a job offer around 7 years ago, but our children are all in driving distance from us and when we looked at houses we would get so much less house for more money there. When I called to turn down the offer, they said I could stay where I was and work from home.

    The house is bigger than we need some of the time, but our out of town son's family is often here two weekends or more a month and with the 4 of them it feels pretty small.

    The house is all on one level and I don't expect to ever downsize or move at this point.

  • Em11
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We built this house ten years ago and don't plan on moving. I am 47, my husband is 59. It's just us two. We don't have children, and the house is the perfect size for us at three bedrooms, two and a half baths. We have overnight guests a few times a year, and have a nice guest suite always ready. It was a custom build, so I was mostly able to make it the way I wanted. We are doing a small bit of remodeling and redecorating upstairs, and plan to do a little work on the exterior next year. Mostly doing things that will make it less maintenance as we get older, wood flooring upstairs instead of carpet, better windows and shutters, etc.

  • patty_cakes
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    I'm 70 and built this house when I was 65. While I thought it would be my last home, I'm now not so sure. I absolutely love this house, but since I live alone feel I might eventually want something smaller, even possibly a condo or garden home. With 5 kids and grands visiting several times a year, I definitely need at least 2 extra br's, but don't need some of the 'extra' rooms this house has.

    I plan on designing my next home to give me things I've never had in
    any of my other homes, a kitchen fireplace, and a huge walk in shower for starters.

  • zeebee
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    DH and I are in our 40s and this is the third home we've owned - first a Manhattan apartment for three years, then a Brooklyn apartment for eight years, now a Brooklyn rowhouse for seven years. This is probably our home until retirement, as it's DH's dream house. It's not mine, I'd prefer smaller and more funky, but it's a nice space and we've invested quite a bit of money and time to make it ours. Only thing that might sway us is if we got an offer we couldn't refuse. Our area is in the midst of a crazy boom right now, and once we finish our kitchen remodel the house would fetch a lot. If someone is stupid enough to pay boom prices, we're stupid enough to accept their money!

  • pricklypearcactus
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We've lived in our first and only house for 8 years. I sometimes dream of moving to one of the mountainside neighborhoods and/or completely out of state someday. But for now, I have no specific plans to move. We're young enough that things could change, but we really like our house, our neighborhood, and our proximity to the mountains.

  • beekeeperswife
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    Interesting thread. I have owned 5 homes. We've been here for a little over a year. I will not be retiring in this home. Every home I have lived in was longer than the previous one...2 years, 2.5 years, 10 years, 12 years, and now 1 year.

    I could sell this house tomorrow. I know some will be shocked to hear me say that, but it's true. This is a house we built, I made every decision as far as the construction went, so it is a house I love to be in. BUT this is not a house where we raised our kids. They have never lived here full time. There are no real family memories here. If my dh came home and said, "I've got a job offer in _______", I'd move. Of course there would have to be a relo package again because I am not packing this house. In fact, I'm never packing again. I've never had a corporate relo until we moved here, and let me tell those of you have not had one--it's the best thing ever!

    I look forward to building again someday (yeah, really). I have a list in my iPhone actually that is called "next time" for all the things we missed on this one.

    I wouldn't move locally, that I know for sure. I feel we took a long time analyzing our options and this one is on an acre, on the water, partially wooded, in a great school district, amenities, in a neighborhood that is highly desirable. So, why would I move locally?

  • joaniepoanie
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    Bee...so interesting to hear you say you would build again. You hear so many people go through it and say never again. I would love to design and build my own house, well not literally build it! Not sure that will ever happen as I have no clue where it should be. We know we will sell our house of 29 years now in the next 5 years when we retire but We have yet to zero in on where to go.

  • natesgram
    Original Author
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    Such interesting stories and a look into each other's lives. Enjoy seeing house pictures, my3dogs.

  • liriodendron
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We've owned the farm for a quarter century.

    I am pretty confident I will be here forever.

    I mean that quite literally since there is a family cemetery here that's been in use since the 1700s.

    L.

  • melle_sacto is hot and dry in CA Zone 9/
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    11 years, and NOPE don't plan to stay!!! ;-) I am really hoping to go back to work next year when my youngest starts kindergarten; then we will maybe be able to afford to move. We are comfortable now, financially, but I have never loved this home, I don't think I ever could, and we are outgrowing it.

  • schoolhouse_gw
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    34yrs. this month. Wow, can't believe it's been that long. I bought the house when I was 26yrs.old for less than what a brand new car cost today. Dad said "better to buy than rent". I think my house payment was something like $185 a month. lol But as a secretary/clerk I wasn't earning a whole lot in those days.

    Yes, I intend to stay as long as I can take care of it and myself.

    This post was edited by schoolhouse on Thu, Aug 22, 13 at 21:07

  • jenna1
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    My husband and I married when we were both 30 and are now 64. We rented for a few years then bought our first home in the Delta region of the San Francisco Bay Area. Lived there for almost 20 years. Due to a mandatory transfer for my husband, we had to move to the Sacramento, CA, area, where we lived for almost 10 years to the day. If we didn't have that transfer we would probably still be in our first home....maybe. It was small, a hair over 1300 SF and we loved it. Our second home was a little over 2500 SF. That house was never a home to us, just a house. We couldn't wait to move out of not only the house but the town we lived in.

    My husband retired three years early last September and we closed on our third, and probably our last, home in Arizona shortly after. We absolutely love it here and don't plan to ever leave. Our current home is a little under 1700 SF and is perfect for the two of us. Our last home had formal living and dining rooms, along with a large kitchen eating area that you could hold a dance in, with band, which I really didn't like. The laundry room was so large that we often joked that a family of four could live in it comfortabley....seriously. Four bedrooms, 2 1/2 baths, a corner lot with no one behind us or next to us.

    When getting ready to put our not-so-loved house on the market we downsized to the max. The hardest being my husband, his garage and a lot of his stuff that he had inherited from his dad. For myself it was hard to part with some stuff but I knew it was time, but the rest I almost couldn't get rid of/donate/sell/toss fast enough. The formal LR and DR furniture was the first to go. Just knowing we were moving to AZ and out of California was incentive enough. When we both were really tired, cranky and picking on each other we had a saying, "this is the beginning of the rest of our lives so suck it up and either go pack or throw something out". Surprisingly that actually worked.....most of the time.

    This home, with it's open plan, is the perfect set-up for us. Three BR's, two full baths, a pool and virtually no maintenance landscaping, and a lake for our boat. I think, being an avid gardener, the hardest part for me to transition over to is not being able to grow anything I want, and that I don't care for cactus. :) We looked for this kind of floor plan because we knew we're getting older, my husband has had several massive back surgeries and I have really bad arthritis and fibro. This home would be so easy to convert to handicapped accessible if need be, which is something we were also considering during our house hunting. The one and only thing I don't like about this home is the laundry room, which is really no more than a pass-through from the house to the garage. Guess I got used to that huge laundry room in the last house.

    Despite the book I just wrote above, we've been here nine months. Although our moving company arrived a week and a half before (we came down and met them, but we wanted all the furniture here and in place so that we could bring our 4-legged furry kiddos down and have familiar smells here already), we formally arrived and moved in at 8:23 pm (yes, I actually did write the time down for some reason), the night before Thanksgiving. Turkey Day last year consisted of hot dogs and mac & cheese. Easiest Thanksgiving meal I've ever made.

    Jenna

  • anele_gw
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    This is a neat thread. It is interesting see how personalities and circumstances have led everyone to where they are.

    This is our 2nd house, and we have lived here for a year. I was ready to move out of our first one before we ever moved in. We lived there 7 years, and it was starting to improve a little, but we went from having 2 children to 5, so we were either going to have to put money into increasing our sq ft in the house, or moving. I never felt right about putting money into that one, so we moved. I am always a little disturbed that the PO lived in that one for over 30 yrs-- I didn't want to be them!

    I could probably live in this house for a long time. It is bigger than I ever thought we could get, and I just like that it is old (well, maybe I don't like that the plumbing and electrical are old!!). The neighbors are great, street is pretty. But, the overall suburb is depressed. However, the longer I live here, the more I find that the people "in charge" really work with us and there are many opportunities to get involved. Overall, the schools are good, too, which is surprising to people in neighboring towns, which have a higher income rate. Also, while we are in the poorest of the local suburbs, our crime rate is low and we get the benefits of being near the wealthy ones. I just wish it had more walkability.

    One of the reasons I will not likely leave this area is because of family. While I have a small one, we are extremely tight-knit. We are still about 40 minutes apart, but it's the best compromise we could come up with, and it works well overall.

    I used to want to move all the time . . .I would have loved to have been a host on Globe Trekkers, had I not had children. Now that I am getting older (just turned 40), I see how $ it is to keep changing, and since I feel like it takes FOREVER for me to finish anything re: decorating, I really don't feel like starting over again anytime soon.

    But, if the kids all move away, I will likely follow them. I don't think any will want to stay in this area. Won't happen for sometime, however!

  • bpath
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We moved here when DS2 started kindergarten, and today he started high school. We'll be here at least until he leaves for college. I love this house, it had almost everything on our "wish list". We could never do the all the things we really wanted to once the recession hit and college loomed for DS1, but it's still good.

    How long to stay? Our town is wonderful; I would happily buy a one-story here after the boys are on their way. But our state is a corrupt mess (we're #1!). But where would we go? Have to think about that a few years.

  • fourkids4us
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    Dh and I have lived in our current house for our entire marriage, 17 years. Truthfully, it was being built when we got married, so we lived in an apt for 2 months, then my parents for a month then it was ready. We live on the outskirts of a waterfront tourist town.

    We were supposed to be here for 3 years. Dh was in the Navy and this was not supposed to be our forever home as we anticipated being transferred by the Navy. However, dh realized the Navy was not meant to be his career as he didn't want to constantly move once we had kids. We wanted to live close to one of our families, but unfortunately, they live on opposite coasts. He is from the San Francisco Bay Area, and I am from the Wash DC area. Since it was the height of the tech boom at the time dh was getting out of the Navy, and we simply could not afford a home in the Silicon Valley, he got a job here, which fortunately is only 25 minutes from my parents. And here we've stayed.

    It is NOT my dream home. I don't even really like it. It was small when we moved in, and even smaller after having four kids! We looked around at moving to a different home, but absolutely love our neighbors and our community so finding a home that fit our needs was very difficult. We live in a high COL so home prices made it hard to find something that fit our desires while still being affordable. 10 years ago, we added on and while the space has helped, it hasn't changed the fact that our floorplan isn't desirable to us. We live in a waterfront community with very strict building codes, so we worked within that and have maxed out what we can do w/o completely gutting the house and starting over.

    With four kids in private school and one off to college in four years, I've pretty much resigned myself that we won't be moving anytime soon, nor can we really afford at this point to do any major changes that would help. I am constantly looking at houses for sale in the area, but the only affordable ones are in tract home subdivisions and that's not type of community we desire. So we make do with what we have. And it's not that my house is bad, but it's not set up well for entertaining, something I'd love to do more often, we had to give up our fabulous screened porch when we added on and cannot add another due to space constraints. I miss that terribly. On the bright side, we have wonderful neighbors, live in a waterfront neighborhood so the kids can fish, swim, kayak, ride their bikes freely (community is a peninsula w/no through traffic), etc.

    My dream is to move into the historic district in our tourist town where we can walk and bike everywhere. We live 5 miles from there now, but not on bike-friendly roads (though dh is an avid biker and rides them, no way my kids can). There are some really fabulous Arts & Crafts cottages, as well as many other architecturally interesting homes that date back to the 1700s. My hope is to move into one of them some day and have that be our forever home, with a second home in another climate.

    I wish I could love this home and think of it as my forever home, but it is not ideal for aging. We have three floors, with bedrooms all on the third floor as the garage/rec room are "under" the main living level.

    My parents still live in the house I grew up - they are going on 50 years there. They will stay until it's too much for them as it's perfect for aging, a rancher.

    All that said, as much as I want to move, the idea of moving is dreadful to me, which is probably one of the reasons I haven't really pushed for it. The thought of trying to keep my home in "show" condition with four kids, a huge dog that sheds, well, not fun. So perhaps a small part of me continues to find something undesirable about any of the houses I'm always looking at. I figure if I'm going to go through the hassle, the house has to be pretty close to what I want!

    Love all the interesting stories!

  • theclose
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    We have been in our home for 4 months. This is our first home and hopefully our last! We were transferred here for my husband's job. In the previous 9 years of marriage, we rented 2 apartments. We only moved out of the 1st apartment after 6 1/2 years (which I LOVED) for more space once DS was born. We were in the last apartment for 2 years.

    We chose this home because we love the style, it has plenty of space but not too much, and not too much yard. There is also a den/could be bedroom with a full bath on the first floor so we can move into that when we are no longer able to navigate the stairs. Hopefully that is a long way off!!

  • Boopadaboo
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    I have moved so many times in the last 20 something years since I graduated college. I can't even count. This is my third house. the last one was very big and expensive to upkeep and father from work and Gorgeous IMHO. :) But real life set in and DH and I purchased our current house. We have been here about 5 years. When we moved in it was mostly just us and 4 cats. Two D SS's every other weekend and for as much of the summer as we could get. It was close to them and closer to my work so seemed like a good move. This house is also about half of the size of the last house and nothing special.

    Fast forward and (just like DH said would happen) I (we) decided we wanted to try for a baby. We were very blessed with 2 in 3 years.

    Somehow this house has fit all our needs. 4 boys often in the house and a live in au pair and we never feel squished, it is close to all we could need, the schools have been great for DS1 who is in special preschool and doing really well, we love the land (more then the house) and my commute is probably the best I have ever had!

    I do look periodically, but I can't imagine moving anymore. I used to love the adventure and looking at houses etc. now I just want to decorate what i have, spend as much time as I can with my family and plan vacations to disney. Boy have times changed!

    I have enjoyed reading about all the journeys. Thank you all for sharing.

  • theresa2
    9 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    I've owned my home for 23 years, but only lived here full-time for the last nine years. This is the third home I've owned. What I love most about my home is that it is a lake house and it is in a beautiful natural area and I have lots of friends here. I'm within a couple hours drive to the kids and several large cities when I need my urban fix. My house is small, but to me that is an advantage, because there is less maintenance; and it's cheaper to heat and cool and to make improvements. I have a small kitchen, three small bedrooms and two full baths - a bath on each level, but no master bath. I also have a walkout lower level which gets plenty natural light, so it doesn't feel like a basement. My eating area and living room are a good size for entertaining family, but not over-sized. I love the outdoors, so ample windows are the most important decorating element in my home. I never want to move. It's just perfect and I want to stay here forever.