My SC's BM has a live-in BF, and he supports her totally... she has no source of income ... unemployment ran out last week in march....

SD9 to hubby ... its not fair mommy has to borrow money off of BF to pay you child support.....

Hubby and I look at each other ... later on he says wow she hasn't made a payment since march but telling the kids and the bf she is ... apparently taking his money to pay her support which she isn't paying!!! hahaha

My SC's BM is staying out of work until the kids go back to school in Sept.... this way she can be available for them when they need her ...

I saw my name in a title and thought oh no, what did i do this time? lol

Well whatever works for people....But it is a mystery to me..Pardon me, but I would not get intimate with people that soon, let alone move in. I mean some relationships are quick. I got married very quick, X proposed after a month of dating and we were married in 4 months, did not live together though. but we were 19 and 20, we certainly had no kids and thought that being in love is good enough reason. haha But these people are grown with kids and make such decisions.

Well most recently divorced men (I assume he is recently divorced) do not like to be alone and are immeditally getting attached to someone else. men don't like to be alone. My exSO did not think of taking care of himself first and cure his issues after divorce, instead he needed to have a woman in hsi life right away.

I don't care I just wonder how can people do it when kids are involved. In fact it took me awhile to discover my SO's addiction. And this woman moved in with a guy who could be anyone and anything, an addict, violent, crazy, sick, anything. Oh well. As long as kids don't get hurt, somehow they are the ones who get hurt...

want to know something funny? My exSO's exwife has the opposite story.

her BF (TOM), whom she lives with, lives off her. He is a foreigner with some kind of visa but no green card, so he cannot work here. She bought the house aftre divorce, and she has decent job, he lives in her house, sits home and she fully supports him. She fully supports BF, yet she refuses to help dad to pay for younger DD's (19) college and buy her anything. "I have no money". lol DDs are both furious.

i wonder when people fully support someone else for no reason, it gives them false sense of power and control over that person.

"And this woman moved in with a guy who could be anyone and anything, an addict, violent, crazy, sick, anything"

FD - you just reiterated my point from another thread. How can women (and I say "women" because they are usually the ones who do this) give ANY man an all-access pass to their kids without knowing them inside-and-out? We live with BF now, but not until just 6 months ago. Before that, we would all be together on the weekends, but there was never a time when BF was with DS alone until I knew for sure and without a doubt that he was a good man with good intentions. He is a good man, but sometimes people can be too good, if you know what I mean. They seem perfect at first, but then a year or two down the road, the exterior falls off and the real person shines through. Just watch the news! How many stories a week do you see involving SP and SC? In the case of BD's neice being molested, he was her SF for like 6 years before he touched her. Sometimes you never know...............

My exH's current wife let him move after only knowing him for a few months, during which she spent very little time with him (I know that, because most of the time he was at home), and she had a teenage daughter as well as other children. Luckily my exH is not a pedophile, but she didn't know that.

When my exH and I were dating, I got to know his parents, aunts and uncles, long-term friends, etc., and vice versa. It would have been difficult to hide any horrible secrets for long under those circumstances. Moving in with someone you barely know is stupid, and to do so with children is irresponsible.

As much as I was criticized for my snooping/detective work, I did a background on BM's BF as soon as she told us about him. All she gave me was his first name and the name of his company that she said he owned.

Within an hour, I found out his last name, all about his prior DUI's (one is a felony) and he had only owned part of the business for a month. I knew who all his relatives were, where they live and that he has a twin brother. It painted a picture of a troubled guy that has a problem with alcohol and money. I knew more about him than BM. When she first introduced him to us a couple of weeks later, I knew things she didn't. In talking to his ex later on, she's confirmed it all, including the drinking problem he had.

I can't imagine dumping my kids for a guy I know absolutely nothing about. She dumped her kids and thought he was Mr. Wonderful and now that they are being evicted and may have to move in with his parents, I have to wonder if she's kicking herself yet? I wonder if she realizes what a mistake it was? She probably thought he was pretty successful business man with his own house and finds out he really has nothing. After all, she picked her first husband that was responsible and my husband that was responsible. Then she put all her eggs in this guys basket and found out he isn't what she thought. I'm sure he thought she was something else too. So, maybe they both get what they deserve.

Oh boy - here is a topic near and dear to my heart.

After the divorce was finalized mom moved she and SD(3) in with a man and his 7 yr old son within a month. They had to move towns, change daycare and get rid of SD's pet to do this. At first he seemed fine, but as things deteriorated I started checking into his background (I can do that through my profession as well) and found that he had been in prison twice for theft, burglary and best of all, kidnapping and assault on an ex GF. When he told us his past was 'in corrections' we thought he meant for employment, not a way of life! Long story short, after a threat on SD's life and multiple police interferences DH was given emergency custody. Mom still refused to launch BF. During the 6 months of custody battle before DH received full custody mom met a new man online, kicked BF to the curb and moved closer to us and blocks away from the new BF. Not left right away because of his actions, the loss of her only child or psychical confrontations, but months later because she met a new man.

Some women (and men) have their priorities. Unfortunately, their kids aren't high on the list, no matter what lip service they give. Actions always speak louder than words.

FD said "My exSO's exwife has the opposite story."

I've been away for a week at conferences... So maybe I'm jsut out of the loop: Did you and your BF break up? Or is this an exSO from awhile back?
If you did just have a breakup, I hope you are doing well, and I am sorry to hear that.

ceph, I had a post about it on the weekend. No, it is the same one. yes, I broke up this passed weekend for legitimate reason. look up my post "update on new status" or somehting like that.
thank you, yes, I am doing well (kinda). It is for the best though.