DH is built a lot like the photo pesky posted (who is NOT her DH, let's reiterate LOL), sans champagne, cigar, and truly frightening mullet. ;-) So I really, REALLY feel for her. DH is also extremely difficult to fit, especially those dang Incredible Hulk legs of his! Buying the suit for his mother's funeral about 8 years ago was a complete nightmare; we spent an entire DAY shopping, it all ended up costing us a month's house payment, and it doesn't fit right anymore either even though he weighs exactly the same now as he did then. (Ditto for the black dress suit I bought, although I was able to get it in 15 minutes and it cost a LOT less because unless I wanted to go to Boston I had a selection of Lane Bryant, Lane Bryant, and Lane Bryant! I weigh the same, wear the same size clothes, but neither the jacket nor the skirt hang right, and let's not discuss the trousers.) 99.9% of the time, unless it is specified that it is a formal occasion (and the last two evening weddings we went to were most decidedly NOT formal, so that "rule" is out the window!), DH gets away just fine with a NEW (unfaded) pair of black khakis/chinos/whateveryouwannacallthem, pressed to within an inch of their lives, black shoes (but you can get some good-for-a-half-dozen-wearings boring men's black shoes at Target for $20), new black socks (again, no fading), and a drycleaner-pressed button-down-collar white or oxford shirt. Regular undershirt, please, no "wifebeaters"! Tie for the ceremony itself but it comes off when the reception starts. LOL Back when they were more widely available DH found tab collars and band collars a lot more comfortable for thicker necks, but they're hard to find now. Thank heavens DH works in a business-casual office - if someone's wearing a tie to work there's instant gossip that they either have a date or an interview! - because if he had to wear suits we'd probably be living in a tent! I don't buy expensive shoes for DH because he destroys them. It doesn't matter if they're $20 or $200, they're trashed in short order (he wears through the leather on the sides). The $200 ones might last a few months longer, but they DEFINITELY don't stay nice looking ten times longer. The only time I spend money is on his running shoes (he does a half-marathon every other day), and even then I get last year's style/color at Sierra Trading or Campmor for half price. :-) Personally, unless you've got the bucks to burn, I think it's downright daft to spend a big fat wad of cash on a few pieces of clothing that you almost certainly will not ever wear again, and that may or may not fit (then there's more money down the drain on alterations, IF they can be altered), and that may or may not be hopelessly out of style should the occasion come up to wear that kind of clothing "someday"! If you KNOW the clothes will be worn again enough to justify the expense, that's another story, but I think pesky's made it pretty clear where on the spectrum her DH is... :-)

We got two gifts in total. A vacuum cleaner and a pressure cooker. Both most welcome and the pc is still in use. No ’shower’ and only 8 wedding guests. Just parents, siblings and their spouses. DD got married during covid with the permitted 6 guests but a year later we had a party with 100 guests. They requested no gifts, just donations to two charities. The Italian side of the family found this diffcult to grasp and gave a lot of knickknacks they neither want nor need.

There's a fairly good chance she doesn't even know what he received....my brother had no interest in my wedding gifts and vice versa. He was still in college when I married, and my mom even had the whole gift display up in the dining room (a southern thing, I think, the planner rents tables and pretty tablecloths to ring the room in your parent's house, and you set up all the pretties on the tables or the risers. When people visit, they can view the goods, lol. My mom's friends hosted my bridesmaid luncheon at my parent's house, and they adored seeing who sent what!) I don't think he set foot in that room the whole time it was set up! Plus, needless to say, of course you don't display checks. :) Anyway, just saying that probably the only people who might notice there was a discrepancy would be the parents. If you are close you could explain your rationale, Otherwise, they'll either think you forgot how much you gave brother, or you've become "cheap" (lol, not!) or since the whole family isn't attending, you've pared your gift down accordingly, lol. And you, indeed, are probably thought of very fondly by your nephew. If my auntie slipped me a thou for my wedding..,I'd be the greatest niece ever! ;)

I was scurrying to post before a meeting. I know a Hershey gift card may seem strange but really, the number of properties and venues owned by Hershey is wild.. Hershey Gardens, the Spa at Hershey, ZooAmerica, Hershey Arena (Hershey Bears hockey), Hershey Stadium (rock concerts) a number of restaurants in the area as well as the theater and amusement park. The whole town is geared towards family entertainment. I am surprised I never thought of this before. It was sparked by their love of Broadway and wanting to initiate their son to the theater but there are so many different things to do throughout the year and as his/their interests change. I feel good about this gift.. and given that there are 4 Broadway shows coming up that my niece has said they want to see, I think they will ALL be pleased. And I think it will be fun to package.. ideas welcome!