Continuances are the DEVIL!!! When we went to court for child support, BM managed to get the first hearing by telephonic. When the Judge said he cannot do a hearing where there is evidence being presented with someone over the phone (because BM was arguing that our evidence was wrong & she had proof) so she got continuance #1. Our attorney charged us $300 an hour.. thank goodness she only billed for the actual time she had to be there for our case. She had another case in the same calendar. Then, BM showed to the second hearing... "oops! I 'forgot' my proof"... continuance #2 granted. We were the last case called that day so it was nearly 3 hours at $300 an hour. Of course she was fined $500 for not being prepared... of course she still hasn't paid it a year later! At hearing #3, she didn't even show up. She was supposed to bring her proof. ha, the court fined her another $500, which she still hasn't paid and then ordered her to pay $216 a month in support! I sat there calculating how many months of support it would take to pay the attorney.. just to get the order. Nevermind that it's been a year and she's paid a whopping... get ready for it.... drum roll please!!!! $429.66 (at least that what I figure when she's paid 7 whole payments of $61.38) DH still owes his attorney THOUSANDS. FIGHT TOOTH AND NAIL TO AVOID ANY MORE CONTINUANCES. ASK THE COURT TO ORDER HER TO PAY SOME ATTORNEY'S FEES. (sorry to yell but I get so outraged at continuances!)

LOL, we got a letter today from our attorney (a copy of the letter she sent BM's attorney) reminding him that the court said BM had to pay the whole thing. Considering BM's voice message to DH: "Call me as soon as you get my message. I just got off the phone with Dr. XX and they gave me a figure.. and um, it's just not gonna happen cuz neither you nor I can come up with that amount... so I have a call into my lawyer and um, I don't know what we're gonna do.. but I just wanted to give you the figure.. so give me a shout." Honestly, I think she lives in her own realm... disconnected from reality. She was in court when the Judge agreed that since she owed DH, she would pay all of it. And our attorney said the evaluation would cost around $5,000. So why is it a surprise to her? Why would she say "neither you nor I can come up with" or "I don't know what WE'RE gonna do" like it's THEIR joint problem... It's HER problem. He'd rather get the back support from her and leave things the way they are than have the back support used up for an evaluation to change everything. But, that's the nut job we have to deal with!

i agree with you all and maybe i should just let go some my husnband and i have been the only one in this childs life for along time... but now sharing seems impossible and we are not going for modifications this is justice court they charged me with threatening them which is a complete lie i don't make threats. i informed her she was not her mother politely and then she went to bobbing her head around and raising her voice at me. how do you deal with it all.......................................................... makes me want to pull my hair out. as for the name change i had signed a document when DD was 2 and they waited until 3 months ago to do it... The child is so confused she is now writing an exclamation mark for her last name the teacher is very involved since the incident over the name.... X told school I knew so when did we find out? well..... when report cards came out 2 weeks later so here i am DD had mentioned nothing and was essentially dealing with the confusion on her own and school thought i knew and X was just sitting back laughing i guess... it all hurts me but it hurts DD more and that is when i get Pissed and start cussing when they call and tell her they are coming and do not show up and she cries for hours... ugh i wish i would have never never told him and if i had it all to do over i would not. its not like he ever did much for DD didn't come to her bday for the first three and when came to her 4th bday party brought her nothing never bought diapers or formula clothes or toys never stayed up all night with a collicky baby and went to work the next day never changed crappy diapers or washed mountains of clothes for the first three years of DD's life the B hole gave her maybe 200.00 now i am the bad guy I think that he is a loser and a fake I think that the mothers word should be it when we have given birth and soely provided for that child all that childs life do we get a thank u? NO we get oh i think i will excercise my rights today and make u spend money to hire a lawyer so u can defend a bogus charge that u the one that has kept the child fed all these years are in fact unfit and you are not good enough now to raise your child any longer afterall staying up six months strait and working with baby screaming all night thats the past this is the future I am the dad and i make all the rules now. oh lord what have i gotten in to.

I am not surprised really..Cesar has become quite the celebrity as of late. I am sure his new fame and fortune has changed him somewhat and he is an attractive guy.Next we will see him on the pages of the supermarket tabloids with some hot young thing on his arm,,, I'll be waiting.