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Decline to be a bridesmaid?

I searched this forum and was surprised to see that this topic hasn't come up yet, except for a recent post in which there were many extenuating circumstances.

I want to know if it's permissible to decline the honor of being a bridesmaid just because I don't want to be one. I really dislike conventional weddings and all their trappings. I've been a bridesmaid before, and I hated having to be photographed in an uflattering dress, hang out with the wedding party of people unknown to me the night before, sit on a dais at the reception...If I have to do it, I will put on my happy face and pretend that I'm loving it. But must I? What's the etiquette?

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