Dotz,

My post was a rant, a long tired out rant. If you read my first post, I stated therein that he will not return my phone call or call back. The next logical step would be to contact him anyway you know how, I also do not have his address. Which I doubt he will respond to a letter. And I think it is in good taste to try resolve an issue before just suing anyone. And that would cost money hiring a lawyer and taking time off work. OH, and it is like bad credit telling my dad....why would he continue to shell out money to someone who is not using it the way he said he is?

About being two adults, yes we are. We also grew up together from young ages and have been stepsiblings for 18 years. It is quite a bit different to say I'm telling on him to his parents if he was just a friend. Don't you think it would cause more of a family ripple and tension when a family member is suing someone unless it can just be solved amicably?

Anyway, I guess I have a lot of reasons to tell my dad if I wanted to pursue this.

Also, if you read the rest of my posts, you will see that I've explained it was a rant and I will take the high road. So, I'm not sure why you are starting another thread to direct to me?

Hi G, Starting new thread was a mistake, sorry, also tired after a long day, zigged when I shoulda zagged....Instead of follow up I typed in new post, didnt mean to...Oh, I sure didnt mean for you to sue anybody, least of all a family member...What I was thinking was, if you told your SM and Dad , would they think you had, like a hidden agenda, since they themselves didnt loan you the money? Dotz

Hi dotz,

Well, I think they (really stepmom) would be floored that stepbrother went behind their back to ask me for money. I mean, all the attempts to make him look...you know, special. And to ask the black sheep for money? Whoa, this cannot be right.

You are 110% correct, they would accuse me of having a hidden agenda or trying to "undermine" them. I can probably write word for word what they (meaning stepmom) will say, a talent I know -- you don't have to tell me :)

I know the entire conversation wouldn't really get anywhere and the end result? Oh, it will be that stepbrother mailed the check a long time ago...you didn't get it? Why didn't you call him? See Gigglemonster, this is exactly what we are talking about when we say you stir up trouble and haven't learned how to handle situations delicately.

Hey G, From one black sheep to another (in a lot of different familes, (my own, step, sisters)I always tell my DH let me write down what so and so will say and seal it in an envelope, and open it after they say it!!!Its a gift!! LOL