Krystash, I'm sorry, you do sound a little childish. You have an 11 yo ss who embraces you wholeheartedly and who calls you "mama". You are totally accepted, and you have no idea how lucky you are.

You said this is only your second serious relationship and that your husband is an older man. How old are you, if you don't mind my asking?

It doesn't matter how you feel about this boy, you should treat him like you love him. I don't like my husband's youngest daughter, she is a spoiled brat at 45, but I never let her or anyone in my husband's family know how I feel about her. I treat her just like I do his other two kids.

I agree whole heartedly with tamar 422...you are lucky,and you should get over it.
And...it's only been 7 months! You cant expect to love this child fully as his dad does in 7 months.You must be very young and obviously dont have a child of your own.A bond between a child and their parent is nothing to be jealous of.
Half of us step moms work very hard to get our step children to like us,and still cant. Instead of putting yourself on the outside,consider yourself the one people should be jealous of for having a wonderful husband and a great step son who accepts you.

I agree with coolmama. Us SM's work very hard at having a relationship, either you change your feelings and accept this ss - or you need to step aside. This child has done nothing to you. You must be very young to be jealouse of a father and son. If you can't change your feelings, please do not ruin the husbands relationship with his son.

Ok.. since everyone else has completely beat you down i have to put my two cents in. i understand how you feel and i understand that you can't control how you feel in your heart. My boyfriend has two girls and they really like me.. i know i'm lucky considering what other women go through and the horror stories on here. i will admit i favor one of the girls over the other. One is easy going (kid A)and the other is in constant need of attention and is not as kind hearted as the one i favor (kid B). You know the kind.. she loves the mirror and she's quick to stick her tongue out at times.. basically the girl i hated in high school. i tend to notice that her Dad seems to like her better, although he would never admit it! Anyway, with me, i'm the problem child. i'm the selfish one because even though i am giving of my time and taking on a SITUATION and i'm good to them equally, i still consider myself selfish at times because every now and then i feel very jealous of kid b.. and only kid b. If it was just easy going kid A, i would have no problem with her. But when i see my boyfriend cuddling and adoring Kid B i want to cringe and vomit at times. i know a lot of this stems from my own dad not being the psychologically correct dad that actually plays with his kids, talks about their feelings and their kid life with them. My dad would do anything for me, but not once did we play catch or monopoly or anything that was all about me. Ok, one time we had a daughter/father day but that was it. My mom must have said something to him. So now that i'm a grown woman and i finally found a great guy i feel pretty pissed off occasionally that his kids take so much of his adoration and attention and i'm not the one and only apple of his eye.. even though i KNOW IT'S THE RIGHT THING FOR HIM TO DO. i wish he had a son instead of two girls, so that i could not be so aware of attention games that girls often throw out there. We are going on 5 years now and i had hoped that i could shake this disease of mine. It's gotten better, but you know, we live in a new world of mixed families and it's a new struggle. You probably just want your man all to yourself.. as do i. But i just tell myself that i am probably in their lives for a reason (i treat them better than their mom)and maybe i'm here to clear out some old karma. It's not the worst thing that could happen and the more you focus on it, the worst it will get. If i continue to have issues i will go to a psychologist. i also want to start meditating again and just focus on being good and doing the right thing, because maybe this situation is here to make me a better person. i just wanted to reach out to you because, hey, i get it. i know what you're feeling. When i try to talk to my best friend about it, i get responses like the ones above.. "you're being a jerk". But you don't grow up and become numb.. you are always growing. When you feel jealous, take a breather and do something nice for yourself. Also i find that it's a good remedy to spend time alone with the girls after i've pulled myself together. And third if i lose my cool with them, i think it's ok to let them know that i never said i was perfect, i say something like, "you know, i'm sorry i snapped at you, i'm just having a bad day today." Create your own situation.. and think of him as a child you were both meant to nurture. Good luck.You are not a bad person.. probably just got hurt somewhere in your life that has nothing to do with your step son. Try patting yourself on the back on occasion because a lot of people would not be strong enough to be a step parent. Look for the root of your problem and deal with that head on. Also, if you aren't getting the attention you need from your man, that is a whole other issue that you will need to take up with him. In the real world, ppl are not all consumed with our problems and sometimes people raise kids in a way that makes them think they are the center of the earth. Those people are the ones you can't stand working with. They are the ones that say incredibly obnoxious things. And even though we should spend a great deal of time with children, it does not mean you should not have adult time to yourself or with your husband as well. In addition, it wouldn't hurt to talk things out with him and possibly get a pat on the back from him too. Some parents think nothing of spending 24/7 w their kids and over look the fact that maybe that's not your ideal way to spend the day. Best of luck to you. And here's a couple pats on the back from me!

I dont think I blasted the poster...just trying to get her to see how lucky she actually is. Maybe she should read some of the other problems posted by people whose step kids hate them.
Loving a child who is not yours takes TIME. One cant expect it to happen over night,or in only 7 months. But if she opens her eyes and sees that her jealous feelings may be a little silly,then she could have a wonderful relationship with this child here.As long as she can at least "like" him,the rest will follow in time.

Exactly - she has to give it a chance. Be good to this child, you are very lucky.