I am ashamed to admit it but I am feeling anger and jealousy towards my skids bm lately. I do EVERYTHING that a mother is suppossed to do for my stepkids. My paycheck gets combined with my dh's for all the bills, including my skids expenses. I am the one planning b-day parties for all the kids. I am the one helping the girls with their hair and all the kids with their homework. I am the one making dinner every night. I do all those things plus more because I am a mother, and those are some of the things that mothers do. I enjoy being there for my skids and love very much, could not imagine if they did not live with us. My biochild loves them as well.
What has been bothering me so much lately is how much they idilize thier bm at times. The girls go back and forth with being mad at their mom and then other times thinking she is the most wonderful person in the whole world. Here is this lady, living in another state with her bf and all her other babies she has had with him. She does not work, does not pay child support, does not send gifts for birthdays or Christmas, and rarely calls. But then the grandparents send gifts and label some "from mom". So now they all think their bm is wonderful! It just irritates me that I am busting my hump each day to take care of her responsibilities and she sits back and does NOTHING for her own children, yet they do not seem to know the difference. They take me for granted and try their best to please her. I know why they do this, and I don't even blame them-they want their mothers love. I guess it just hurts sometimes and I really hate their mother for what she has done and it makes me jealous that they are too young to see it and they idilize her.
I don't want to be torn apart, I just want advice from others on how to deal with these feelings.
justnotmartha
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