I'm pretty sure there is more to it than what has been said. It's almost impossible to put it all in one post. What I interpret is that he doesn't have a problem with your daughter's kids, but that if you had custody of them, he'd have to deal with your daughter, which he has washed his hands of. You seem to agree that he has cause to feel that way so at least you are on the same page there. If she's that bad that her own mother has had enough, then I feel really sorry for those kids. Yes, they will always be tied to their mother, even if you have custody. and so you have to choose between your grandkids and your husband of 17 years. OUCH! Perhaps you could seek legal advice on getting guardianship of the kids and a restraining order on her? I don't know how bad she is or if you just don't agree with her choices. But, if it's hurting your grandkids, you have to put them first. They are kids and need someone in their corner. If it has to be you, then it has to be you. If he can't deal with it, then it's unfortunate. It sounds like a real mess if there are accusations from your daughter (of what?) that your husband doesn't want to deal with. I feel like there's a lot more to it than what you've said. If he just stuck around to help raise your kids, then they are raised and now he is going to leave because you 'might' get your grandkids. It's really a no win situation.

To make the transition with the too wide headboard and your windows I'd recommend drapery panels to back up the setting. You'll see is the other photo I selected a tufted headboard that stepped down on the sides so there isn't such a barrier to the back windows and I still added drapery panels. Too many 90 degree corners with the tray-tray ceiling and the saying above the bed and the headboard so I have eliminated some of them with a sunburst mirror or arch of some type over the headboards. I know that people insist on fans, but I have replaced all my ceiling fans with air shower fans that I can hide in the corner of the room or behind a piece of furniture. I'm able to use ceiling lights, the air shower fans are not as drying as sleeping under a ceiling fan and the air is still circulated.

Ironing is best done with an ironing board and any top you put there will need to be rovaeable if you need to have service or to turn off the water . I think a simple wood counter the same as the floor color would work for folding and also be light enough to move and then paint the wallls some fun color or add wallpaper you really do not need a backspalsh in a laundry room behind W/Ds

What are the trees that you have there? Do you want something that will eventually give you privacy, such as evergreen trees or a tall hedge on one or both sides? Do any of your neighbours have plantings that you admire? It can get pricey to landscape a large area - how big is the area we are looking at?