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So where?

8 years ago

So where does one meet new people? I have tried all different types of clubs thinking that I could meet people with similar interests but it really goes nowhere.

I am a young 61 who likes to be active and go out. I travel, having just returned home from a three week trip to France, hike, camp, garden, and attend the theater, symphony, car shows, sporting events, museums and street fairs. I am well-educated and well-informed and can hold an intelligent conversation on most topics.

I would like to meet women who share similar interests and can talk beyond their latest bargain from Wal-Mart and how cute their grand-children are. I would also like to meet men who enjoy going out and not to movies or bowling. I would like a relationship with said man (and yes, it includes THAT aspect of it), but I am definitely not looking for marriage. Been there. Never again.

So, where do I find these people? There must be others out there looking for the same.

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kayjones

8 years ago

No, Linda - it isn't you - people do tend to stick with what they know. Me - I've never met a stranger - I talk to everyone!

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sylviatexas1
8 years ago
I've had the best times & found the happiest & most interesting people when they & I have a reason to be where we are.

Habitat for Humanity, literacy advocacy, political activism, etc. will have interesting people participating.
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Whitelacey
Original Author
8 years ago
I volunteer for a Broadway theater thinking I would find someone with like interests. Nothing. Very frustrating.
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Whitelacey
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8 years ago
Joanie,

I've tried the hiking meet-up several times. Everyone talks to the people they know and no one that they don't. I'm starting to think it's me......Nah, couldn't be!

Emma,

Where are you?

Linda
emma
8 years ago
I am in Kansas, the middle of no where.

Kay I always talk to everyone. My friends said I was flirting with men when I smiled at them or said hi. I told them I smile at women also, what does that make me?
kayjones
8 years ago
I have only a handful of real friends - the rest are just 'meet and greet' and they're on their way. I like my own company, so it doesn't bother me that 'no one likes me'. I've been alone for 8 years, and the first few years were tough, but it is getting easier.
emma
8 years ago
Kay we are a lot alike except, when I became a widow, 7 years ago, I experienced my first real freedom and enjoyed it. Lately I have felt depressed at being alone. I like my own company also and the company of books, movies and jigsaw puzzles. But knowing I have a sis and 3 nieces in town and they never visit, is hard to live with. Any of them would come to help if I needed them but that not the same as just coming to see me.
eclair
8 years ago
I work most of the time which leaves zero time for socializing or going somewhere to try to meet someone. I've been alone for 15 years and do NOT want to be alone one minute longer. I never wanted to be alone. I used to go alone and do whatever I wanted to do. Now it's just too pathetic to go alone.

What's even more depressing is I know widows/widowers in their 70s and 80s who have boyfriends/girlfriends. I'm happy for them, that they don't have to be alone, but it reminds me what a pathetic life I have.

This post was edited by eclair on Fri, Feb 6, 15 at 18:39

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