I listened to a Terry Gross interview with Joan Rivers, and besides being married twice, she lived with a man named Orin for 9 years. She said "The loss is horrific and when I go upstairs at night - this sounds so stupid. I always turn to my living room and I say, goodnight Orin. He was the man I lived with for nine years. Goodnight, Orin. Goodnight, Edgar. Goodnight, Uncle Tommy, who was my best friend." Here is a link that might be useful: Joan Rivers interview

Spoke to my Dh about your question. ANd the answer is........YES...TADA!!! A logical answer from a concerned father of a baby and his disfunction child raised 96% by biomom , aka pot mom! Yes he would phone the cops on his child in an instant and he would call his mother who lives 1 1/2 half away to go pick him up. But you see because my DH and i are on the same page about behaviour and not tolerating certain behaviours under our home this ugly situtation last year turned around very quickly. SS no longer takes out his anger on my son, aka his brother and SD has learned not to play games or lie or talk back or anything. In fact she is expressing dislike for both parents and keeps a distance from me but with sadness. I truly feel bad for these kids. I told my dh to take 50% custody the day i met him. But he wont. And now after 7 years its a little too late. The damage is done. I can't change his mind. Alli know is to butt out now and let the pieces fall. I will only intervene when i have disrespect towards me and disrespect towards my son. And no KKny and Tos, abuse is not used as an excuse for disrespect...its FOLLOWS it afterwards. Cause once they hit the disrespect level towards another human being, it doesn't take long for it to turn violent and physical. ANd to give you an example, my next door neighbour just threw out her 13 years old daughter out of her house. Because she was at her end rope iwth her. SEx drugs, talking back and then it finally turned violent to the other children. She has one child of her own and 5 adopted kids. Guess what, the 13 years old was thrown out to save the others from her abusive nature. Just stop picking lines out of peoples postings and twisting them. You two have shown such manipulation at times and you are standing proof of a human being who is miserable and having nothing good to offer in this world. I'm sure you have tons of friends eh? Get over your pasts and move on. People like me have seen quite alot. And i am a stepchild as well. Am i the evil person cause i'm a stepmom too. EH?. L:Ol , well i'm happy knowing im a fully balanced person who demands respect and i'm not a rag doll to anyone. Including my family and kids. I've survived many things over the years and i know fully well where i stand as a human being , as a mother, as a stepmother and as a stepchild. Those are my titles, I wear them well and i'm proud. I do not make people miserable. And as for kids being sent out of a home, its done usually for good solid reasons. If his SD spoke rude to me, i would tell her off myself and let her dad then give punishment. But my SD has learned i wont stand for it and so has my SS. Kids needs boundaries. Do they hate me? NOPE. Its the opposite. My SK do love me. They just wish they're parents got along and now my SS told my DH ' ' mommy always talks about you badly and says bad things about maria too. I dont like it daddy, i want her to stop saying bad things. they're not true. make ehr stop! you never talk about mommy at all." Now what do you say to a child after this? Even SD was visibly shaken. Yes my DH is not the greatest father, he procrastinates and is lazy. That doesn't mean he doens' tlove his kids. He's a typical male! human male! I find woman have more insight into things like this. I've noticed a change in SD. She has refocused her energy and anger towards school and friends. Advice i give her all the time. And i'm pround she is doing that. I dont hate my Stepkids. I do care for them. what i dont like is the loser biomom and also the lack of communication between my dh and her. But you can't speak to her. SHe's a nut!

THE RUGS I RECEIVED OUTGAS. QUESTION IS, WHAT IS THE CHEMICAL? Edit: Since posting this I found a web page on Overstock that explains it. Search for "overstock how-to-get-rid-of-new-rug-smell" I bought a polyester Savahieh rug from Amazon.com and returned it, and today received a wool Savahieh rug from Overstock.com. I returned the polyester one because it filled the room with a mildly disgusting 'sweet' smell of some kind, a volatile compound. It seems like the rug must have been soaked in or sprayed with during manufacturing. The wool rug I bought as replacement was received today. Sadly, it has the same issue. I'd hoped it was just the polyester rug that had the problem. This time I took it outside to air immediately. Now I will look into products that might remove the chemical that causes the smell, because the rug is otherwise nice (and a hassle to return). There is, as other posts in this discussion mentioned, a distinct sort of oil/silicone/teflon feeling when you rub your hand over the top or bottom of the rugs. It leaves enough residue on your hands that your fingers will be a bit slippery against the palm, but it washes off easily with soap and water and odor goes with it. I want to know what that chemical is, what the rug is sprayed, soaked or coated in. I want figure out if it is a toxicity issue for us or, our cat. I definitely had the burning eyes, which at least one other poster in this discussion mentioned. That tells me there is a definite volatile irritant, and if it turns out to be toxic that would be worth reporting. I hope someone can clear up what it is as I'm forced to keep digging for information. The eye burning and mild upper respiratory irritation that I experienced showed up after a few days of the rug outgassing; and that was in spite of running a fan in the room multiple times daily, as an exhaust fan in the doorway venting to the outside. Although it didn't move out as much air as I'd hoped. The eye burning went away quickly after removing the rug. It is discouraging to read that the vendor is denying this. People have a right to know if we're being poisoned by these products or being exposed to carcinogens. I'm not saying that's exactly what's happening, but we need to find out and the vendor should cooperate and also advise on what if anything can be done about it by the consumer and or their company. We need to know if this is a consumer safety problem or not.

Well there is a lot that babies and the antique have in common...no hair, no teeth, wear diapers... :) Talk about adults dressing like babies, did you see Dencia at the Grammys? Including the sequined drop drawers? Ridiculous. Loonlake, just for you, here's me on the way to the library today. Actually, after my Mom died (age 81), I went through her closets and took a bunch of her clothes. It was fortunate we were the same size. I was still working at the time and whenever I wore her stuff, I got compliments...when I wore my own, silence. What can I say? She was hipper than I! Of course, she got carded when she went to apply for the golden age pass in bowling...you had to be 80 to get it and they didn't believe she was! Cindymac, the colors in the jacket are pretty. I think what would make the difference between "blair" or "alfred dunner" and not is the presence/lack of a waistline. If it were mine, I'd probably take in the side seams in some way in the waist area to give me a little more shape. Here are some before and after tailoring for men...same applies for women. Vermont Country Store is another place to find styles untouched by time.